Skimmed the replies and am totally confused.
So nothing has changed in OP family situation other than the DH works from home now? No income change? Then what currently is the problem? If OP is happy in her job then great- but if she felt family responsibilities were holding her back, she has more freedom to take a job with less flexibility now that DH can help more during the day. Right? |
PP here and forgot to add: why are people saying that getting from work at 6 is crazy abnormal? Or acting like the DH’s job is extremely taxing, like some crazy busy executive who was never home etc? His job sounds pretty standard/average, and quite family friendly |
I get you, OP. The details of my situation differ, but I can relate to not being attracted to the version of my DH now that he’s working from home and lying on the couch during the day in mismatched clothes, when he’s even wearing a shirt at all. I try to remind myself that he deserves to have a break after the years of long commutes, business travel and being in office 5 days a week. I look the other way when I see him like this. |
I'm sure he would be thrilled if you got a job and left the home once in a while. Feel free to contribute to your household instead of just looking the other way! |
I think some degree of this is more common after Covid. My husband used to wear a tie every day, but now sometimes he is on Zoom meetings I'm sweatpants. Also, as people age, they can get happier doing less. One thing I find useful is to have occasional dates to go out somewhere when possible. It could be a museum, or dinner, or church - just somewhere where you are motivated to get yourself together and get out of the house and away from work stuff. |
No, she never said he was pressuring her. You made that up. |
No, OP is the one who wanted it the way she had it then. Her husband clearly hated it or he'd still be working like a dog. |
I’m the PP who wrote the post above. I do work and have a hybrid schedule. |
Why do people keep saying the DH was “working like a dog” or assuming he had some crazy busy schedule etc? I haven’t seen any indication of that. Sounds like he worked pretty standard hours and was home by 6 every night. Pretty normal. |
He left before young kids even woke up. That’s early. |
I’d be furious, OP. |