Test results came back positive

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Men unfortunately carry many STDs without symptoms and yet they are least likely to get tested.

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Anonymous wrote:If neither of you ever make out or have sex with a third person, you can skip all these diseases for decades. I’m living proof and I’m middle aged. If I had results come back like OP just did, I’d be talking to the attorney along with the doctor and providing my medical records to the judge.

Or, if you do test positive, you know exactly who to blame.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here...thank you all for the laughs.

You are going to be fine, op. However this turns out, whatever you decide to do.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it was the burgundy washcloth 😜

I was hoping some old school DCUMers would catch my joke.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a partner who came back positive for gonorrhea and became very upset. She got tested after suffering from what seemed like a very painful UTI. We had been on a break and I had slept with other women during the break, so we both figured I got gonorrhea from. One of them. She had no symptoms before we got back together.

Then something unexpected happened. I tested negative! We never knew whether I had a false negative or she had a false positive. Obviously one of the tests was wrong.

Men are often carriers - maybe you had it still on your genitalia from other women when you slept with her , but it didn’t really stay in your body

I do shower! But seriously, I could have been an asymptomatic carrier, but the negative test suggests I probably wasn't. She also could have been disease free apart from the UTI, but the positive test suggests she has gonorrhea. We probably will never know because there can be false negatives and false positives.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of false information on here.

Trich is an STD.
Sounds like OP has been with her husband long enough that if it predated the relationship she’d have had serious health consequences of trich (infertility, preterm labor)
So it’s probably unfortunately her husband having an affair

For more information on trich - see this: https://www.health.ny.gov/publications/3839/

more information showing you can get it from a towel.

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-can-you-get-trichomoniasis-if-no-one-cheats

trichomoniasis can be treated NON SEXUALLY

Article says it can be spread non-sexually by:

“ . . . . chance that you or your partner developed it from something nonsexual, such as:

Toilets. Trichomoniasis can be picked up from a toilet seat if it’s damp. Using an outdoor toilet may be an added risk, since it puts you in closer contact with others’ urine and feces.

Shared baths. In one studyTrusted Source from Zambia, the parasite spread through bathwater that was used by multiple girls.

Public pools. The parasite can spread if the water in the pool isn’t cleaned.

Clothing or towels. It’s possible to spread the parasite if you share damp clothing or towels with someone.”

You specifically left out a couple of very important parts, PP:

Still, there’s always a (very) slim chance that you or your partner developed it from something nonsexual, such as:

Toilets. Trichomoniasis can be picked up from a toilet seat if it’s damp. Using an outdoor toilet may be an added risk, since it puts you in closer contact with others’ urine and feces.

Shared baths. In one study from Zambia, the parasite spread through bathwater that was used by multiple girls.

Public pools. The parasite can spread if the water in the pool isn’t cleaned.

Clothing or towels. It’s possible to spread the parasite if you share damp clothing or towels with someone.

Keep in mind that there are very few reported cases of trichomoniasis being spread through these means, but it is possible.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it was the burgundy washcloth 😜

I was hoping some old school DCUMers would catch my joke.

Not a funny "joke."

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Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.

Do you know how you got it? Please share more as this may save OPs marriage.

I've posted this about 100 times on this site but you can get it from a towel and I do know a couple that thought each other cheated because they had this STI.

What was crazy is the doctor was like, yea somebody cheated.

Then the dad cried at his son's pediatrician appointment, and he told the pediatrician what was going on and the pediatrician is like dude do you throw a towel on the floor and reuse it, that's the problem... and if you use the towel to wipe then have s@x again.

Nobody cheated.

Did not happen.

HA. This is the old 'got in a hot tub' stupidity. You aren't getting STDs from towels. It is the longest shot out there.

What I see are a whole lot of guilty people or people in complete denial or a whole lot of people willing to believe the most absurd scenario.

I work in the field. Nobody is getting STIs from towels that dropped on the floor. Omg.

Yes they do and this is why I told OP you can’t trust “Dr/nurse” in the field because most of you are ignorant.

If you “work in the field” and don’t know that you can get this many ways youre Daf.

Trich lives only for 45 minutes on wet surfaces outside human body. So while theoretically possible he got it in a gym, very few people use someone's wet towels, sit with their naked genitalia on dirty toilets etc. I would say, chances are 99.9% that he cheated

but... my friend knows someone that got pregnant from a toilet seat

No one knows this....they are making this up.....

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I still haven't broached the subject. I'm out of town for work and trying to reach out to divorce lawyers while I wait for my OB appt and learn more from real docs about how one could get TV from tractor seats. I won't bring it up though until after I talk to this next doc.

Have you ridden the tractor recently?

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Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.

Do you know how you got it? Please share more as this may save OPs marriage.

I have no idea how I got it. And it was wild. I was a teenager and my mom had to take me to the doctor. It was very embarrassing. Also remember thinking the word trichomoniasis was awful.

Were you swimming frequently in dirty pools? Or remember using dirty wet towels? That is pretty much the only other means of transmission. It also doesn't have to just be PIV....other types of sex also pass it along. I'm sorry but this is just really hard to believe!

No. And my mom and I were really confused too. I was NOT a sexually active 15 year old. It was mortifying.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of false information on here.

Trich is an STD.
Sounds like OP has been with her husband long enough that if it predated the relationship she’d have had serious health consequences of trich (infertility, preterm labor)
So it’s probably unfortunately her husband having an affair

For more information on trich - see this: https://www.health.ny.gov/publications/3839/

more information showing you can get it from a towel.

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-can-you-get-trichomoniasis-if-no-one-cheats

trichomoniasis can be treated NON SEXUALLY

Article says it can be spread non-sexually by:

“ . . . . chance that you or your partner developed it from something nonsexual, such as:

Toilets. Trichomoniasis can be picked up from a toilet seat if it’s damp. Using an outdoor toilet may be an added risk, since it puts you in closer contact with others’ urine and feces.

Shared baths. In one studyTrusted Source from Zambia, the parasite spread through bathwater that was used by multiple girls.

Public pools. The parasite can spread if the water in the pool isn’t cleaned.

Clothing or towels. It’s possible to spread the parasite if you share damp clothing or towels with someone.”

You specifically left out a couple of very important parts, PP:

Still, there’s always a (very) slim chance that you or your partner developed it from something nonsexual, such as:

Toilets. Trichomoniasis can be picked up from a toilet seat if it’s damp. Using an outdoor toilet may be an added risk, since it puts you in closer contact with others’ urine and feces.

Shared baths. In one study from Zambia, the parasite spread through bathwater that was used by multiple girls.

Public pools. The parasite can spread if the water in the pool isn’t cleaned.

Clothing or towels. It’s possible to spread the parasite if you share damp clothing or towels with someone.

Keep in mind that there are very few reported cases of trichomoniasis being spread through these means, but it is possible.

What's the old saying - when you hear hoofbeats think horses, not zebras.

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Anonymous wrote:The STD is TV.

Oh dear. I’ve had that when celibate. Had it once when a virgin. It’s not just sexually transmitted.

Do you know how you got it? Please share more as this may save OPs marriage.

I have no idea how I got it. And it was wild. I was a teenager and my mom had to take me to the doctor. It was very embarrassing. Also remember thinking the word trichomoniasis was awful.

Were you swimming frequently in dirty pools? Or remember using dirty wet towels? That is pretty much the only other means of transmission. It also doesn't have to just be PIV....other types of sex also pass it along. I'm sorry but this is just really hard to believe!

No. And my mom and I were really confused too. I was NOT a sexually active 15 year old. It was mortifying.

What sort of sexual activity had you engaged in? Kissing? Touching? Oral?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- already talked with my doctor. Talking to another doctor later this week. Only real probability was a recent partner. I don't know why the type of std matters.

It matters because HPV can be in your system for years and then reactivate.

Not really. Usually your body completely clears an hpv infection or you will continue to test positive for it. By “laying dormant,” it means the hpv infection isn’t causing any precancerous cells, not that it’s undetectable. If someone tests negative for hpv and then tests positive, it almost always means they have a new infection.

That is completely wrong.

No, it’s not. As long as the hpv is in your system, even if you have no symptoms of infection and no cellular changes, you will test positive for it. For most people, hpv clears itself COMPLETELY in about two years, but in some people it can last decades. If you tested negative and then test positive a few years later, you have a new infection. FACTS.

No. It does not mean it is a new infection. It can recur years later: the same one.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- already talked with my doctor. Talking to another doctor later this week. Only real probability was a recent partner. I don't know why the type of std matters.

It matters because HPV can be in your system for years and then reactivate.

Not really. Usually your body completely clears an hpv infection or you will continue to test positive for it. By “laying dormant,” it means the hpv infection isn’t causing any precancerous cells, not that it’s undetectable. If someone tests negative for hpv and then tests positive, it almost always means they have a new infection.

That is completely wrong.

No, it’s not. As long as the hpv is in your system, even if you have no symptoms of infection and no cellular changes, you will test positive for it. For most people, hpv clears itself COMPLETELY in about two years, but in some people it can last decades. If you tested negative and then test positive a few years later, you have a new infection. FACTS.

No. It does not mean it is a new infection. It can recur years later: the same one.

Not 10 years later though.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the std

Different poster. Why does it matter?

NP here,

There are STD's that can be dormant for long periods of time, and others where symptoms show up immediately. There are also STD's that can only be passed through sex, and others that can be transmitted other ways. So, knowing whether this STD means that he definitely had an affair, or that he might have had an affair, would make a difference in OP's response.

How people don’t know this is mind boggling or jump right over a rational concept like this to cheating is just odd.