Places to meet 30s/40s men in DC?
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Anonymous
| Hi, I am a 35 yo single mom and would love some suggestions for restaurants, bars, clubs to meet guys my age and older... seems like so many of the night spots in DC are teeming with 20-somethings, and I am so over that scene. Thanks for any suggestions anyone has on that! |
Anonymous
| Divorce support group. |
Anonymous
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I'm a 40 yo divorced dad and have had some luck with Match. Before I got on there it seemed there were no divorced moms (my preference) in the whole city but that suspicion was quickly dispelled. True, it can be a little tricky for women because of all the gross/aggressive guys but there are still some decent men on there (ahem).
The bar scene is a little dicey for people our age, though I've found that the more expensive places and/or wine bars are better bets for our crowd. Avoid neighborhoods like Columbia Heights, Adams Morgan and any bars that advertise a "ladies night" or sell "big-ass" anything and you should be OK. Oh, and I'd actually recommend avoiding the divorce support group crowd for potential mates. Anyone still feeling acute pain of divorce might not be in the best state of mind for dating. Good luck! |
Anonymous
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36 year old single mom in the same boat as OP. Admittedly I don't spend a lot of time looking, but I didn't think Match was worth it. If you do try Match, try to meet up quickly for coffee or lunch, before sending too many emails--it's hard to tell if you have real chemistry with someone until you meet them in person.
Have you thought about joining a Meetup group that interests you? |
Anonymous
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Networking/business and charity functions seem like a good place to find 40-something divorced men. In general I think any activity where you might meet someone that you have something in common with (as opposed to a bar where you just meet someone based on looks) is a good thing.
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Anonymous
| I meet men everywhere and I am sick of them. I'm sick of their horndog glances and panting and fawning, especially when they are obviously married. I am just sick of them. |
Anonymous
| Single woman here. I've found Match not very helpful: you get too many emails, and then you can't even distinguish between them all, and responding feels like work, not pleasure. It's feast or famine. Meanwhile eharmony sends you a handful of profiles a day... but they often seem completely inappropriate. (Their expensive matching algorithm may hook you up with those who have similar personalities, but doesn't seem to register the fact that female neurosurgeons are unlikely to want to date motorcycle repairmen, and so on). So I'd echo OP-- anyone have any other ideas? |
Anonymous
| same as the PP who recommended meetup - something along those lines. instead of trying to meet a guy at a club or bar - yuck - just get "out there" and join a group doing something you like - learn how to rock climb, cooking class, book club, etc. you may meet a guy there but even if you don't, you'll hopefully meet some other women who know single men. worst case? no guy, but at least you have a new hobby or skill. |
Anonymous
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39YO female here. like a PP, i didn't have great luck with eHarmony. I'm 5'8" and live in Fairfax, and it kept finding me guys who said they were 5'8" (which in my experience means they're 5'6") and who lived in Columbia or Annapolis. Which is so far away from where I live that it would be a long-distance relationship. (I tried adjusting the parameters but didn't get better results.)
I didn't like not being able to browse the site and pick my own guys based on their answers; having the guys chosen for me didn't work so well. I didn't end up even meeting any of the guys. Match was no more successful; I met a few guys who were nice, but in general they were shorter than they claimed to be, or much older looking than their picture, or in one guy's case, a completely different person from the picture he posted. (and NOT in a good way.) That said, my sister who lives in Minneapolis had very good luck on eharmony and met her husband that way. I think it really varies depending on the market. |
Anonymous
| 12:56 PP here - I second what another poster said about wine bars, and the bars in nicer restaurants. Arlington's got a bunch of places that are suitable. Fewer men than some other bars, but likely to be a better class of guy - and older - than other bars. (and able to buy a $12 glass of wine.) Bonus points if the place serves a lot of red meat - more guys tend to gravitate to steak-ish places, I think. |
Anonymous
| Take up flyfishing, mostly guys. Take a vacation at a nice flyfishing lodge in Caribbean and you will meet lots of guys. Just stay away from the guides!(bad boys w/ problems) Pick up a copy of the Drake(it's online) to get a sense of the sport! |
Anonymous
| why people just don't post their e-mail here.. fi we can find a nanny why not a date? |
Anonymous
Ditto. |
Anonymous
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I highly recommend participating in some of the local hiking clubs. That's where I met my now husband. Lots of single men (some divorced and interesting.) Center Hiking Club is one, but there are many others.
There's also a singles organization with volunteer projects around the DC area. I can't remember the name of it now, but it looked like a great way to meet people too. |
Anonymous
| Matched worked for me. Met my current DH that way as have many of my friends. |