Here we go...ILs and Family: Fourth '19 Edition

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs are the type who sleep with their bedroom door open, even though their doorway very nearly lines up with the main living space.

That's fine, do what you want, but don't insist that we stay with you, leave your door wide open, then COMPLAIN when you hear the baby fussing at 6:15, and hear us head to the bathroom, quietly putting a bottle together, etc.

Newsflash: families with babies are up pretty early. We try to be quiet. But you need to CLOSE YOUR DOOR or at least take us up on our offer to let you borrow the extra white noise machine that we brought.

Ha! My mom got mad at me for running a load of laundry the night before we left. The baby had a blowout and we needed everything to be clean before we left the next morning. Keep in mind we were driving two days - 12hours with a baby and toddler. She insisted I turn it off. The sound was bothering her at 10pm. So, I woke up at 5:00 am and ran the dryer and finished packing up.

I haven’t been back since. Some people shouldn’t host.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs are the type who sleep with their bedroom door open, even though their doorway very nearly lines up with the main living space.

That's fine, do what you want, but don't insist that we stay with you, leave your door wide open, then COMPLAIN when you hear the baby fussing at 6:15, and hear us head to the bathroom, quietly putting a bottle together, etc.

Newsflash: families with babies are up pretty early. We try to be quiet. But you need to CLOSE YOUR DOOR or at least take us up on our offer to let you borrow the extra white noise machine that we brought.

Start staying in a hotel.

We actively want to, and have offered to do so. Then we hear complaints that the other grandparents get to have kids stay in their house, we miss you, we want to see you, etc.

Thing is, if our sleep were being disturbed by them, we would absolutely stay in a hotel anyway. But because they are the ones being woken up--and it is completely and easily within their power to avoid this dynamic by closing their door and/or using a fan or a white noise machine--we just shrug, ignore their complaints, and move on with the day.

When they complain, we just shrug and say, "It might help to close your door. You're also welcome to try the white noise machine we brought." We aren't rattling around and making loud noises or talking full-volume. We're just...up. And there's a baby.

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BKL how do you feel about school lunches-If kids only need a piece of fruit from 7-4 All schools must have it wrong in having a lunch period, room and serving food. WOW you may just have saved this country millions of dollars. The same argument goes for workers they too should not have a lunch. All break rooms with food can go away.!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Unless your small children are infants they do not need to be fed around the clock, every few hours. Of course the kitchen is closed! Your mom will be treating you all to a fabulous bbq dinner soon. Why you would need to fill up on gross gas station food is beyond me.

Young kids can’t go from 7 am until 4 pm! Do you have little kids? I’m not for the snacking all the time but this is crazy.

This is why there is a serious obesity epidemic. Young children do not need to eat greasy convenience food. If they are hungry between meals they should get an apple out of the fruit bowl, sit on the front doorstep and have a nice, healthy, nutritious snack. They do not need a bacon, nacho cheese, funion burger.

OMG shut it! Poster said she went to Panera. Know what my kids eat at Panera? Black bean soup and an apple. Or turkey sandwich on wheat - with an apple.

But no, better keep my preschooler starving for 9 hours so we have room for Mimi’s mayo drenched potato salad and a Pinterest inspired red white and blue dessert!!! What are you serving at your BBQ? Grilled tofu and veggies?

No need to be dramatic. Your preschooler will be fine eating some fruit as a light snack. My spread is full of healthy choices and doesn’t involve heavy or oily foods. We eat mostly a Mediterranean diet that is healthy and filling.

So, if you actually look up feeding a toddler or pre-schooler, you're completely off base. They should eat every 2-3 hours and not just fruit. Also, you apparently don't realize that small children typically aren't able to "fill themselves up" on a big bowl of cereal in anticipation of a barbeque 9 hours later. Most little kids eat tiny amounts of food at a time.

What, by the way, is the arrangement for fluid intake? I understand that they are probably restricted to water. Do you have a drinking fountain in your well-appointed garden? Or is that the idea with the fruit--they'll get their liquids from the apples?

Young children do just fine on fruit as a snack. A banana is quite filling actually.

As far as drinks between meals go, I have a water cooler located in the basement, as well as, some liters of sparkling water in the garage fridge. I provide a stack of paper cone cups to drink out of.

Paper cone cups? Is this a dentist office? Ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless your small children are infants they do not need to be fed around the clock, every few hours. Of course the kitchen is closed! Your mom will be treating you all to a fabulous bbq dinner soon. Why you would need to fill up on gross gas station food is beyond me.

Young kids can’t go from 7 am until 4 pm! Do you have little kids? I’m not for the snacking all the time but this is crazy.

This is why there is a serious obesity epidemic. Young children do not need to eat greasy convenience food. If they are hungry between meals they should get an apple out of the fruit bowl, sit on the front doorstep and have a nice, healthy, nutritious snack. They do not need a bacon, nacho cheese, funion burger.

OMG shut it! Poster said she went to Panera. Know what my kids eat at Panera? Black bean soup and an apple. Or turkey sandwich on wheat - with an apple.

But no, better keep my preschooler starving for 9 hours so we have room for Mimi’s mayo drenched potato salad and a Pinterest inspired red white and blue dessert!!! What are you serving at your BBQ? Grilled tofu and veggies?

No need to be dramatic. Your preschooler will be fine eating some fruit as a light snack. My spread is full of healthy choices and doesn’t involve heavy or oily foods. We eat mostly a Mediterranean diet that is healthy and filling.

So, if you actually look up feeding a toddler or pre-schooler, you're completely off base. They should eat every 2-3 hours and not just fruit. Also, you apparently don't realize that small children typically aren't able to "fill themselves up" on a big bowl of cereal in anticipation of a barbeque 9 hours later. Most little kids eat tiny amounts of food at a time.

What, by the way, is the arrangement for fluid intake? I understand that they are probably restricted to water. Do you have a drinking fountain in your well-appointed garden? Or is that the idea with the fruit--they'll get their liquids from the apples?

Young children do just fine on fruit as a snack. A banana is quite filling actually.

As far as drinks between meals go, I have a water cooler located in the basement, as well as, some liters of sparkling water in the garage fridge. I provide a stack of paper cone cups to drink out of.

Paper cone cups? Is this a dentist office? Ridiculous.

LOL, I am certain the guests just take the liter bottles and drink from them. Nobody is using the cone things.