To the cranky old lady at the gym

[Anonymous]

I'm sure the manager pretended to care, but probably apologized to the other lady the next time he/she saw her. The manager would rather you not bring your child with you -- it's a gym, not a daycare. You will forever be marked by the employees as "that woman with the baby." Think about THAT next time you go there and then the comment by the other lady in the shower won't seem so bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:7:39, have you ever heard of sarcasm?

You're quite the armchair psychoanalyst, by the way.

This is actually your least stupid response on this thread, OP. Good for you. Now about your narcissism . . .

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Unfortunately bathing at home won't work since it's a swimming class and I have to change anyway.Id rather have him cry the extra 5 minutes I shower instead of dragging him home and delaying his nap and lunch so I can have the luxury of a shower

What difference does it make whether it is a swimming class? It isn't going to harm you to quickly change and then wait to shower until you get home. Why can't you shower once he is down for his nap? This makes no sense.

Because if I shower he wakes up. The bathroom is in my bedroom. Like I said he always cries when I shower.

So what's the difference? He cries either way, at least both of you (and everyone else at the gym) will be more comfortable if you shower at home.

Like I said and you missed - I don't want to delay his nap and lunch. We function better in a schedule. Without it the tantrums are much worse.

How much did you delay his lunch and nap by taking the time to complain to management?
And tantrums? He is only one. You have not seen a tantrum yet.
Your boy is incredible. Not many one year olds would stay where you put them and wait for you to shower. Some would try to kill themselves accidentally instead, and you could never have your shower in the first place.

This only comes to show you all how great of a job I've done with my son as opposed to being the horrible mother you're trying to make me feel like.

He was well fed, he had my phone to play with and I was right there at arms reach. He was fine he just wanted things his way but I needed the shower.

I delayed his lunch 2 minutes since the manager talked to me as I walked out to my car and strapped my child into the seat.

And I'm not sure why you're saying I've not seeing tantrums yet. A child throwing themselves on the floor because I said no is not a tantrum??.

You didn't need a shower. You wanted a shower. There are plenty of people who drive home and take a much cleaner shower in their own homes than in the skank gym showers. So be clear - say it with me - "I wanted a shower and decided to inconvenience my one year old and everyone around me to get it."

OK, so moving on. The issue really isn't do you need a shower after swimming in a nasty gym pool. The issue isn't even really should a kid be in a locker room. The issue is that you are so beyond out of touch to anyone else around you and you came on here trying to diss some old lady who was actually paying attention to your child and acknowledging, perhaps to you directly as is her right, that this is a nuisance to people in the locker room. She has every right to be irritated by your screaming child. You are the kind of mother that gives the rest of us a bad name, acting like you are the center of the universe because this is your first time to the gym in a year. Whoop de f-ing do. Not her problem, that's your problem. To solve. So solve it and stop making it everyone else's problem.

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Did you get Chipotle afterwards? Would you take your child to Ruth's Chris on New Years Eve?

[Anonymous]

I'm with you OP. People forget how hard it is to try to do ANYHTING - work out, shower, whatever - when you are a mom. It would be nice if they had a little sympathy.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm with you OP. People forget how hard it is to try to do ANYHTING - work out, shower, whatever - when you are a mom. It would be nice if they had a little sympathy.

I am sympathetic to moms; in fact, I am one. What I am not sympathetic to is someone who lets a baby scream in the locker room and then complains to management because someone talked to their baby. And then goes to a parenting forum to complain again.

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I'm the OP. what's your suggestion, then? Honestly curious. I was taking a 5 minutes shower. Should I just lock myself up at home? I need to exercise. Unfortunately I can't afford a jogging stroller so my only solution is my $9 gym membership.

I don't understand all this people telling me to leave my child at home. Do you all just leave your babies alone like that???

Since you ask, I think you have 3 choices:

1. Get a babysitter while you work out at the gym.
2. Work out somewhere where people take babies.
3. Accept that if you have a screaming baby at the gym, other people who also need to exercise might be unhappy.

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Unfortunately I can't afford 1 or 2.

3 is totally fine but people should not try to shame in public a mother who's clearly struggling with a child throwing a tantrum.

He was there right in front of me. I was telling him I was almost done and we would be out soon. He had my phone, he had just nursed so he was not hungry. I did all I could. The lady just wanted to shame me. And when I get old I hope I remember hoe upset she made me feel so I don't do this to other moms.

She should shame you. You are very rude and ridiculous. I have small children and I would have been annoyed with you, too.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm with you OP. People forget how hard it is to try to do ANYHTING - work out, shower, whatever - when you are a mom. It would be nice if they had a little sympathy.

I don't forget, as I have small children currently. What this lady did was obnoxious.

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Unfortunately bathing at home won't work since it's a swimming class and I have to change anyway.Id rather have him cry the extra 5 minutes I shower instead of dragging him home and delaying his nap and lunch so I can have the luxury of a shower

What difference does it make whether it is a swimming class? It isn't going to harm you to quickly change and then wait to shower until you get home. Why can't you shower once he is down for his nap? This makes no sense.

Because if I shower he wakes up. The bathroom is in my bedroom. Like I said he always cries when I shower.

So what's the difference? He cries either way, at least both of you (and everyone else at the gym) will be more comfortable if you shower at home.

Like I said and you missed - I don't want to delay his nap and lunch. We function better in a schedule. Without it the tantrums are much worse.

How much did you delay his lunch and nap by taking the time to complain to management?
And tantrums? He is only one. You have not seen a tantrum yet.
Your boy is incredible. Not many one year olds would stay where you put them and wait for you to shower. Some would try to kill themselves accidentally instead, and you could never have your shower in the first place.

This only comes to show you all how great of a job I've done with my son as opposed to being the horrible mother you're trying to make me feel like.

Ok. This part made me laugh out loud. Thanks OP!

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Unfortunately bathing at home won't work since it's a swimming class and I have to change anyway.Id rather have him cry the extra 5 minutes I shower instead of dragging him home and delaying his nap and lunch so I can have the luxury of a shower

What difference does it make whether it is a swimming class? It isn't going to harm you to quickly change and then wait to shower until you get home. Why can't you shower once he is down for his nap? This makes no sense.

Because if I shower he wakes up. The bathroom is in my bedroom. Like I said he always cries when I shower.

So what's the difference? He cries either way, at least both of you (and everyone else at the gym) will be more comfortable if you shower at home.

Like I said and you missed - I don't want to delay his nap and lunch. We function better in a schedule. Without it the tantrums are much worse.

So don't. You can wait until he wakes up to shower. You really can't be this bad at problem solving, can you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yo mama, calm down! Why didn't you just put your son in the gym daycare or leave him at home? I think you're the one being hysterical and unreasonable here.

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[Anonymous]

Sounds like a case of everyone being rude and inconsiderate -- you and the cranky old lady both.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like an extremely overwhelmed and tired mom.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like an extremely entitled and clueless mom.

There you go.

[Anonymous]

Is OP the same one who breastfed her kid in the pool earlier this summer??