My high stats kid running out of steam

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Anonymous wrote:Actually, I am beginning to understand why those pages are so crazy after learning some parents research and craft supplemental essays for their kids. Why stop living your kid’s life for them once they are admitted?

Some don’t! My daughter’s roommate was taking the hardest Math course at their university. Her dad did all her homework!

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Anonymous wrote:I guess you will hire tutors for your kid in college too to reming them to go to class do problem sets, write papers? Then job coaches too?

If all your friends and neighbors do this, well, you are not in a representative area of town. I see why elites are reviled.

I am in AN. Omg you should see the constant requests for tutors, career coaches, resume writers, etc. over the top. If these superstars need so much help then what about the rest of the population?

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very important once-in-a-lifetime experience. It’s exactly NOT the time to allow the kid to fizzle out. Give him whatever incentives/encouragement/kicks in ass that will work to keep him focused & productive.

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You will have so many regrets if you don't help them.....ask all the moms who come here in March depressed and can't get off this site bc their kid is now heading to Canada or the UK.

I help with brainstorming and editing, but if you’re suggesting we “write” it (and it sounds like you are?), my kid would never let me write her essays.

Yeah this is our house too. My kid has good ideas but sometimes needs help with the structure/flow of his work. But he's doing the work. And started early because duh, the beginning of the school year can be challenging enough on its own. And plus also, 20 schools?? That's just so crazy to me. Our kid stopped at 6 and got everything in way before the deadline and already has an acceptance back.

Really? High stats? Aiming for T20?
And only 6 apps?
Weird.

The kid knows what he wants. He got into his top choice already. And yes one of those T20 schools y'all are some amped about. Got a little extra merit for applying early even. He's not crazy high stats by dcum standards but he's up there.
Now we wait to see if he gets into any of the others.

Which T20 school has released results already and it's not a binding decision? I have two kids applying to a good number of the T20 schools this year and I don't think there are such colleges.

None. It's a troll.
Not one of them is rolling. If they weren't wouldn't all of our kids applied?????

Not a troll. It's not rolling admissions. It was quite a surprise to get the notice yesterday but I see some others on social media also got notified this week.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very important once-in-a-lifetime experience. It’s exactly NOT the time to allow the kid to fizzle out. Give him whatever incentives/encouragement/kicks in ass that will work to keep him focused & productive.

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You will have so many regrets if you don't help them.....ask all the moms who come here in March depressed and can't get off this site bc their kid is now heading to Canada or the UK.

I help with brainstorming and editing, but if you’re suggesting we “write” it (and it sounds like you are?), my kid would never let me write her essays.

Yeah this is our house too. My kid has good ideas but sometimes needs help with the structure/flow of his work. But he's doing the work. And started early because duh, the beginning of the school year can be challenging enough on its own. And plus also, 20 schools?? That's just so crazy to me. Our kid stopped at 6 and got everything in way before the deadline and already has an acceptance back.

Really? High stats? Aiming for T20?
And only 6 apps?
Weird.

The kid knows what he wants. He got into his top choice already. And yes one of those T20 schools y'all are some amped about. Got a little extra merit for applying early even. He's not crazy high stats by dcum standards but he's up there.
Now we wait to see if he gets into any of the others.

Which T20 school has released results already and it's not a binding decision? I have two kids applying to a good number of the T20 schools this year and I don't think there are such colleges.

Oh yeah, you're right, I looked at a different list. My bad. Top for "undergrad in engineering programs without a graduate program."

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very important once-in-a-lifetime experience. It’s exactly NOT the time to allow the kid to fizzle out. Give him whatever incentives/encouragement/kicks in ass that will work to keep him focused & productive.

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You will have so many regrets if you don't help them.....ask all the moms who come here in March depressed and can't get off this site bc their kid is now heading to Canada or the UK.

I help with brainstorming and editing, but if you’re suggesting we “write” it (and it sounds like you are?), my kid would never let me write her essays.

Yeah this is our house too. My kid has good ideas but sometimes needs help with the structure/flow of his work. But he's doing the work. And started early because duh, the beginning of the school year can be challenging enough on its own. And plus also, 20 schools?? That's just so crazy to me. Our kid stopped at 6 and got everything in way before the deadline and already has an acceptance back.

Really? High stats? Aiming for T20?
And only 6 apps?
Weird.

The kid knows what he wants. He got into his top choice already. And yes one of those T20 schools y'all are some amped about. Got a little extra merit for applying early even. He's not crazy high stats by dcum standards but he's up there.
Now we wait to see if he gets into any of the others.

Which T20 school has released results already and it's not a binding decision? I have two kids applying to a good number of the T20 schools this year and I don't think there are such colleges.

None. It's a troll.
Not one of them is rolling. If they weren't wouldn't all of our kids applied?????

Not a troll. It's not rolling admissions. It was quite a surprise to get the notice yesterday but I see some others on social media also got notified this week.

What T20?
Pitt and UMN aren't T20.
Its okay if your kid isn't aiming for T20. But don't make it seem like he is.

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Anonymous wrote:Its a race to nowhere. No wait, its a race to see who can play the game.

It is, and with the industry that’s popped up around it, there are a whole lot of suckers getting swindled.

Hand-in-hand with travel sports. People preying on parents’ insecurities and attempts to live through their kids.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a very important once-in-a-lifetime experience. It’s exactly NOT the time to allow the kid to fizzle out. Give him whatever incentives/encouragement/kicks in ass that will work to keep him focused & productive.

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You will have so many regrets if you don't help them.....ask all the moms who come here in March depressed and can't get off this site bc their kid is now heading to Canada or the UK.

I help with brainstorming and editing, but if you’re suggesting we “write” it (and it sounds like you are?), my kid would never let me write her essays.

Yeah this is our house too. My kid has good ideas but sometimes needs help with the structure/flow of his work. But he's doing the work. And started early because duh, the beginning of the school year can be challenging enough on its own. And plus also, 20 schools?? That's just so crazy to me. Our kid stopped at 6 and got everything in way before the deadline and already has an acceptance back.

Really? High stats? Aiming for T20?
And only 6 apps?
Weird.

The kid knows what he wants. He got into his top choice already. And yes one of those T20 schools y'all are some amped about. Got a little extra merit for applying early even. He's not crazy high stats by dcum standards but he's up there.
Now we wait to see if he gets into any of the others.

Which T20 school has released results already and it's not a binding decision? I have two kids applying to a good number of the T20 schools this year and I don't think there are such colleges.

None. It's a troll.
Not one of them is rolling. If they weren't wouldn't all of our kids applied?????

Not a troll. It's not rolling admissions. It was quite a surprise to get the notice yesterday but I see some others on social media also got notified this week.

Name the school. (If it’s on social media. It’s public. You’re not giving anything away.)

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Wow. Eye opening to see what “help” looks like in some families. I would say we are helping our son quite a bit. But it pales in comparison to what some are sharing on here.

We talked to him about building a college list starting junior year and took him to visit places. We signed him up for his school’s 2 day college workshop in the summer even though he didn’t want to deal with it. The workshop got him thinking about ideas for his essays and we helped with brainstorming and then reading his essay and providing feedback. Once he got started, it was fairly easy for him in the common app (which the school workshop helped him start filling out) to keep track of what needed to be done for which school. He is writing his supplemental essays in the same way as his main essay. We are going out to lunch as a family and brainstorming ideas. He is then writing the essays and then asking for us to review.

I consider that a ton of support and am happy to provide it to him. But if you are basically writing the application for your kid, do you ever worry that your kid is not ready to manage their stuff in college when you aren’t there?

My kid is also in fall sports and taking a bunch of APs. Not saying it’s great and the college app process is stressful. But he is owning the process with a lot of support where he asks for it and lots of love like making dinners he likes etc on hard days.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess you will hire tutors for your kid in college too to reming them to go to class do problem sets, write papers? Then job coaches too?

If all your friends and neighbors do this, well, you are not in a representative area of town. I see why elites are reviled.

I am in AN. Omg you should see the constant requests for tutors, career coaches, resume writers, etc. over the top. If these superstars need so much help then what about the rest of the population?

What's AN?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Eye opening to see what “help” looks like in some families. I would say we are helping our son quite a bit. But it pales in comparison to what some are sharing on here.

We talked to him about building a college list starting junior year and took him to visit places. We signed him up for his school’s 2 day college workshop in the summer even though he didn’t want to deal with it. The workshop got him thinking about ideas for his essays and we helped with brainstorming and then reading his essay and providing feedback. Once he got started, it was fairly easy for him in the common app (which the school workshop helped him start filling out) to keep track of what needed to be done for which school. He is writing his supplemental essays in the same way as his main essay. We are going out to lunch as a family and brainstorming ideas. He is then writing the essays and then asking for us to review.

I consider that a ton of support and am happy to provide it to him. But if you are basically writing the application for your kid, do you ever worry that your kid is not ready to manage their stuff in college when you aren’t there?

My kid is also in fall sports and taking a bunch of APs. Not saying it’s great and the college app process is stressful. But he is owning the process with a lot of support where he asks for it and lots of love like making dinners he likes etc on hard days.

Stop with all the pearl clutching.
You are helping your kid a ton!
Reviewing the essays? Every supplement?

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Anonymous wrote:I guess you will hire tutors for your kid in college too to reming them to go to class do problem sets, write papers? Then job coaches too?

If all your friends and neighbors do this, well, you are not in a representative area of town. I see why elites are reviled.

I am in AN. Omg you should see the constant requests for tutors, career coaches, resume writers, etc. over the top. If these superstars need so much help then what about the rest of the population?

What's AN?

Application nagger. It describes most mothers in the area.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Eye opening to see what “help” looks like in some families. I would say we are helping our son quite a bit. But it pales in comparison to what some are sharing on here.

We talked to him about building a college list starting junior year and took him to visit places. We signed him up for his school’s 2 day college workshop in the summer even though he didn’t want to deal with it. The workshop got him thinking about ideas for his essays and we helped with brainstorming and then reading his essay and providing feedback. Once he got started, it was fairly easy for him in the common app (which the school workshop helped him start filling out) to keep track of what needed to be done for which school. He is writing his supplemental essays in the same way as his main essay. We are going out to lunch as a family and brainstorming ideas. He is then writing the essays and then asking for us to review.

I consider that a ton of support and am happy to provide it to him. But if you are basically writing the application for your kid, do you ever worry that your kid is not ready to manage their stuff in college when you aren’t there?

My kid is also in fall sports and taking a bunch of APs. Not saying it’s great and the college app process is stressful. But he is owning the process with a lot of support where he asks for it and lots of love like making dinners he likes etc on hard days.

You are all but writing the essays for your son! That is an extraordinary level of involvement and help.

I would say you are helping more than 99% of the families and you are the one complaining about this?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Eye opening to see what “help” looks like in some families. I would say we are helping our son quite a bit. But it pales in comparison to what some are sharing on here.

We talked to him about building a college list starting junior year and took him to visit places. We signed him up for his school’s 2 day college workshop in the summer even though he didn’t want to deal with it. The workshop got him thinking about ideas for his essays and we helped with brainstorming and then reading his essay and providing feedback. Once he got started, it was fairly easy for him in the common app (which the school workshop helped him start filling out) to keep track of what needed to be done for which school. He is writing his supplemental essays in the same way as his main essay. We are going out to lunch as a family and brainstorming ideas. He is then writing the essays and then asking for us to review.

I consider that a ton of support and am happy to provide it to him. But if you are basically writing the application for your kid, do you ever worry that your kid is not ready to manage their stuff in college when you aren’t there?

My kid is also in fall sports and taking a bunch of APs. Not saying it’s great and the college app process is stressful. But he is owning the process with a lot of support where he asks for it and lots of love like making dinners he likes etc on hard days.

You are all but writing the essays for your son! That is an extraordinary level of involvement and help.

I would say you are helping more than 99% of the families and you are the one complaining about this?

Exactly!! What nerve she has!

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Anonymous wrote:The kids aren't giving it their best shot.
The parents, the parents' money, and the hired help are doing the work. No wonder you hear of high dtats kids not getting in. They took a shot and missed. The kids that got in had adults walking them across the court, positioning their feet on the foul line, placing the ball in their hands, putting their hands over the kid's hands, and making the basket for them.

Don’t hate the player, hate the game. Make it not gameable and it will stop. But colleges don’t want the game to stop.

We aren’t event trying for T20 even though I think my child would have a decent shot at the lower ones. But I don’t want to pay for that. We are throwing our money and efforts at UVA ED in-state, where our HS scatterplot says she has extremely high chances. Can’t wait for it to be over one way or another.