PSA on SSSAS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To have a forward facing event like a homecoming game against Potomac and the kids show up dressed like a bunch of maga rednecks is a choice.

Also there is no way that identity wheel thing is real- at least not at all in the way you’re describing it.

Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.

[Anonymous]

If you think SSSAS is MAGA, you are a very sheltered person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To have a forward facing event like a homecoming game against Potomac and the kids show up dressed like a bunch of maga rednecks is a choice.

Also there is no way that identity wheel thing is real- at least not at all in the way you’re describing it.

Does your back hurt twisting yourself into such a pretzel with that argument?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To have a forward facing event like a homecoming game against Potomac and the kids show up dressed like a bunch of maga rednecks is a choice.

Also there is no way that identity wheel thing is real- at least not at all in the way you’re describing it.

it was real and there was a lot of drama over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To have a forward facing event like a homecoming game against Potomac and the kids show up dressed like a bunch of maga rednecks is a choice.

Also there is no way that identity wheel thing is real- at least not at all in the way you’re describing it.

it was real and there was a lot of drama over it.

I am not a SSSAS parent, but we looked at it for DCs and ultimately decided the commute would not work. I absolutely believe the identity wheel was real because our kids had to do something very similar at another school, along with a lot of other identity-related activities that were not, in my opinion, appropriate for their age (or school, for that matter). This was happening at a lot of schools around 2020-2021. Our school dialed it back after a couple years. Did SSSAS? Or is that type of thing still going on over there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To have a forward facing event like a homecoming game against Potomac and the kids show up dressed like a bunch of maga rednecks is a choice.

Also there is no way that identity wheel thing is real- at least not at all in the way you’re describing it.

it was real and there was a lot of drama over it.

I am not a SSSAS parent, but we looked at it for DCs and ultimately decided the commute would not work. I absolutely believe the identity wheel was real because our kids had to do something very similar at another school, along with a lot of other identity-related activities that were not, in my opinion, appropriate for their age (or school, for that matter). This was happening at a lot of schools around 2020-2021. Our school dialed it back after a couple years. Did SSSAS? Or is that type of thing still going on over there?

DP. My kid started in 9th a couple years ago and we haven’t seen anything like that. Didn’t come up through LS/MS though so I can’t speak to those divisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should add that my senior did say there were many collective complaints about the female Dean of students. But that’s old news.

Her draconian crackdown on dress code violations this year is nuts. She’s kind of a laughingstock at this point.

The dress code scrutiny at SSSAS upper school is out of control this year! This Dean is prowling the halls looking for minor violations to issue infractions and, yes, mostly going after girls (as is often the case with dress codes).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should add that my senior did say there were many collective complaints about the female Dean of students. But that’s old news.

Her draconian crackdown on dress code violations this year is nuts. She’s kind of a laughingstock at this point.

The dress code scrutiny at SSSAS upper school is out of control this year! This Dean is prowling the halls looking for minor violations to issue infractions and, yes, mostly going after girls (as is often the case with dress codes).

+ 1

It’s like they are trying to get the girls - and only the girls - in trouble.

We are looking at other schools for our DD now. We’ve had mixed feelings about the academics and now this is just ruining the day-to-day experience. It’s not “joyful” to be paranoid about a sliver of skin between your pants and your top showing when you bend down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should add that my senior did say there were many collective complaints about the female Dean of students. But that’s old news.

Her draconian crackdown on dress code violations this year is nuts. She’s kind of a laughingstock at this point.

The dress code scrutiny at SSSAS upper school is out of control this year! This Dean is prowling the halls looking for minor violations to issue infractions and, yes, mostly going after girls (as is often the case with dress codes).

+ 1

It’s like they are trying to get the girls - and only the girls - in trouble.

We are looking at other schools for our DD now. We’ve had mixed feelings about the academics and now this is just ruining the day-to-day experience. It’s not “joyful” to be paranoid about a sliver of skin between your pants and your top showing when you bend down.

This is exactly what happened to my DD recently. She was wearing a normal length shirt, but when she reached or bent over some skin showed and an infraction was issued for wearing a “midriff” top. Is anyone communicating with the school about how awful this has become for female students day-to-day? It’s honestly humiliating for girls to be policed like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should add that my senior did say there were many collective complaints about the female Dean of students. But that’s old news.

Her draconian crackdown on dress code violations this year is nuts. She’s kind of a laughingstock at this point.

The dress code scrutiny at SSSAS upper school is out of control this year! This Dean is prowling the halls looking for minor violations to issue infractions and, yes, mostly going after girls (as is often the case with dress codes).

+ 1

It’s like they are trying to get the girls - and only the girls - in trouble.

We are looking at other schools for our DD now. We’ve had mixed feelings about the academics and now this is just ruining the day-to-day experience. It’s not “joyful” to be paranoid about a sliver of skin between your pants and your top showing when you bend down.

This is exactly what happened to my DD recently. She was wearing a normal length shirt, but when she reached or bent over some skin showed and an infraction was issued for wearing a “midriff” top. Is anyone communicating with the school about how awful this has become for female students day-to-day? It’s honestly humiliating for girls to be policed like this.

Many, many parents have complained at the MS. Not sure about the US.

Someone should talk to Kirsten Adams, the head of school. I don’t know whose idea this was or why it’s happening simultaneously at the MS and US but this cannot be what she would approve of. Maybe no one has taken it all the way up the chain of command to her?

[Anonymous]

Or, you could have your girls wear longer shirts. My son is at SSSA and talks about how there is one dress code for boys and another for girls because girls basically wear anything. Chapel for boys is long dress pants, dress shirt, tie and blazer. For girls, it appears to be skimpy dresses and often tops that allow shoulders or other skin to show. I generally don’t think it is that big a deal but at the same time, teach your girls to dress in less revealing clothing and they will be fine. Boys have been dress coded as well for wearing shirts with graphics on them. No skin was showing but the content was not approved. And no one is lighting up DCUM outraged at it. You actually need to be better role models for your girls. Don’t make them out to be such victims because they aren’t. And I do have a girl as well. Not an issue for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or, you could have your girls wear longer shirts. My son is at SSSA and talks about how there is one dress code for boys and another for girls because girls basically wear anything. Chapel for boys is long dress pants, dress shirt, tie and blazer. For girls, it appears to be skimpy dresses and often tops that allow shoulders or other skin to show. I generally don’t think it is that big a deal but at the same time, teach your girls to dress in less revealing clothing and they will be fine. Boys have been dress coded as well for wearing shirts with graphics on them. No skin was showing but the content was not approved. And no one is lighting up DCUM outraged at it. You actually need to be better role models for your girls. Don’t make them out to be such victims because they aren’t. And I do have a girl as well. Not an issue for us.

Ugh. Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or, you could have your girls wear longer shirts. My son is at SSSA and talks about how there is one dress code for boys and another for girls because girls basically wear anything. Chapel for boys is long dress pants, dress shirt, tie and blazer. For girls, it appears to be skimpy dresses and often tops that allow shoulders or other skin to show. I generally don’t think it is that big a deal but at the same time, teach your girls to dress in less revealing clothing and they will be fine. Boys have been dress coded as well for wearing shirts with graphics on them. No skin was showing but the content was not approved. And no one is lighting up DCUM outraged at it. You actually need to be better role models for your girls. Don’t make them out to be such victims because they aren’t. And I do have a girl as well. Not an issue for us.

I don't think I need to "teach my girls to wear less revealing clothing". There is nothing wrong with an exposed inch of stomach, or exposed shoulders.

If you want girls to be more covered up, go to Catholic school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or, you could have your girls wear longer shirts. My son is at SSSA and talks about how there is one dress code for boys and another for girls because girls basically wear anything. Chapel for boys is long dress pants, dress shirt, tie and blazer. For girls, it appears to be skimpy dresses and often tops that allow shoulders or other skin to show. I generally don’t think it is that big a deal but at the same time, teach your girls to dress in less revealing clothing and they will be fine. Boys have been dress coded as well for wearing shirts with graphics on them. No skin was showing but the content was not approved. And no one is lighting up DCUM outraged at it. You actually need to be better role models for your girls. Don’t make them out to be such victims because they aren’t. And I do have a girl as well. Not an issue for us.

I don't think I need to "teach my girls to wear less revealing clothing". There is nothing wrong with an exposed inch of stomach, or exposed shoulders.

If you want girls to be more covered up, go to Catholic school.

+1

The dress code prohibits “crop tops.” I can assure you, my daughter was not wearing a crop top! They are taking things way too far and issuing infractions that don’t align with the policy as written (moving and showing a small sliver of some skin isn’t the same as a crop top). At this point, it would be easier to just switch to uniforms.

[Anonymous]

There is obviously some sort of misalignment and poor communication given how many issues the dress code situation is suddenly causing this year. When a school rolls something out poorly, it’s understandably frustrating and impacts the school experience.