Well, don't do that You have free will to have a different routine. |
I don’t think people don’t believe that this is happening. What I’m saying, and what others are saying, is that this doesn’t have to do with a lack of resources, it has nothing to do with poverty, but you have a family who is simply taking advantage of Op. If OP doesn’t buy them dinner, they’re not going to starve. OP has been kind enough to do this so far but if she doesn’t stop, then she’s going to become a doormat. |
Do you think poor people are stupid or unobservant? |
What's your theory about where this kid his hiding these extra meals for himself without his family knowing? |
Did you just call OP such a bad cook that only the most desperate starving child would want it? |
This is why poor people should skip the indirection and just eat the rich. |
This is stunting development. If you think your kid is a thief, you need to fix that, not shelter them from the risks and consequences. You should give your kid the money, but then also check with the parent. Trust, but verify. |
Why didn't you ever ask? They were doing you favor, giving you personal tutoring on how to stop being a doormat, at a low price. Too bad the student couldn't learn. |
The mother would have presumably noticed that the kid was bringing home all that food so I don't think it is plausible she was out of the loop. I also don't think it's plausible she gave him all that money because that would just be a really inconvenient way to order takeout, for her and the kid. Not saying we know the rest of the situation. |
I have never taken my kids friends to a restaurants. I don't have a problem with it, just saying it's not like an expected way to nurture a friendship. You could be a generous and gracious friend/host inviting this kid over for dinner at your home or just having him over to play. Limit the restaurant outings to family. |
Sure? Whatever you like. Homemadr baking, grocery treats whatever. You've never seen a gift food basket? |
Yes this is a good point. There’s kindness and there’s also the ability to set limits. |
You must not know many low income or struggling families? It actually is quite plausible. We’ve had many instances of generosity only begets demands. I don’t want to be specific on here but I believe this. OP try chatting with the friend and feel out the situation. If there’s food insecurity, then there are better ways to either help the family directly or set them up with the right organizations or contacts at the school to help. |
Just drop the kid off home and then go to dinner. Seriously how hard is that? |
Only on DCUM would people be offended by a kid asking for FOOD. He's not asking for toys or something. It's FOOD for goodness sake! Many low-income family can't afford Chipotle or Dominos or anything outside what you might get at a food pantry, so having that as a treat once a month or so would brighten their spirits.
For folks saying this is a slippery slope to the family asking for more - that's when OP can stop their generosity. But right now, it's FOOD! |