I'm so glad for any thoughts I could provide that were helpful! It's SO much to think through and at a time that's already so fraught, and there's all this conflicting information out there, ugh. I am now a few years past this so have had time to gather my thoughts and I had some similar conversations at the time with my DH. I think it's so hard for the partner who isn't subject to the physicality of the hormones, retrieval/implantation, pregnancy etc. to really get just what a number it does on your body so I definitely didn't blame my DH (or yours) for focusing more on things like costs that seem controllable. Take care and I am sending you all possible love and good wishes for normal blasts, sticky embies, a BFP and healthy birth! <3
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The PP here pretty clearly rationalized my thoughts for PGS testing. My husband and I debated about the cost but realized that the cost of multiple transfers would also add up financially, as well as mentally/emotionally for me. Another factor for me was wanting to feel as positive as I could about the transfer/resulting pregnancy. My doctor didn’t advise me to do PGS testing (I was 35) but didn’t think it would be harmful. She did say that she would look at the quality of the blasts before we sent them off and the number of blasts (e.g., if the quality wasn’t great, the risk of damaging the embryo might outweigh the benefits and if we only got a couple of blasts, she might advise a second retrieval before sending them off). In the end, we got 5 blasts and 3 were normal and we were very happy we tested. |