I literally cannot stand my husband’s family

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way. When in their presence, I alternate between feelings of rage and guilt. Rage at their behavior and guilt because my DH's parents are older and have no other grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot stand my husband.
Not only does he rage episodes, but he gets really nasty and threatens the kids and I with all kinds of things.

His family is lovely.

Congrats on being a doormat and allowing your kids to be treated that way. He's a bad father but doesn't sound like you're much of a better mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t either. Even DH can’t stand to be with them for more than a couple of hours.

So why do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel the same way. When in their presence, I alternate between feelings of rage and guilt. Rage at their behavior and guilt because my DH's parents are older and have no other grandchildren.

+1

DH's parents make every holiday miserable. I carried around a ton of stress and guilt prepping for their visits because it was always a disaster. Now, we do holidays with just our nuclear family. It's nice, but feels small and quiet. I spent so much energy trying to make things enjoyable for them, but it never worked, so I've accepted that it's best to do bare minimum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t either. Even DH can’t stand to be with them for more than a couple of hours.

So why do you?

I don’t. DH does out of guilt and obligation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re not terrible people at all. I just can’t be in their presence because ultimately I will get annoyed.

Maybe they feel the same about you! Did you ever think about that?

+1 No she hasn't thought about that because apparently she is perfect. How she can be perfect when she is so perfectly intolerant is anybody's guess. I mean, here she is trolling DCUM for a fight. You have to pity people like OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot stand my husband.
Not only does he rage episodes, but he gets really nasty and threatens the kids and I with all kinds of things.

His family is lovely.

Congrats on being a doormat and allowing your kids to be treated that way. He's a bad father but doesn't sound like you're much of a better mother.

Yeah go give him 50% custody and see how the kids do then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re not terrible people at all. I just can’t be in their presence because ultimately I will get annoyed.

They feel the same about you.

[Anonymous]

What's their personality? I mean, come on, don't be coy!

[Anonymous]

You’re not a patient person. Not everyone is, and you can’t help the way you feel. But I hope you are kind to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re not terrible people at all. I just can’t be in their presence because ultimately I will get annoyed.

They feel the same about you.

And if they do, they can start their own DCUM thread. That’s not what we’re discussing here.

I get it OP. You kinda just gotta grin and bear it. If you’re getting super annoyed by their topics of conversation, just sing Camptown Racetrack silently in your head and nod occasionally. Works for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel the same way. When in their presence, I alternate between feelings of rage and guilt. Rage at their behavior and guilt because my DH's parents are older and have no other grandchildren.

I ride the rage/guilt roller coaster with my parents too.

[Anonymous]

My father in law is in prison for being a serial rapist.