Please help me graciously accept this gift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you cry?

Did you miss the little detail about Depression? It makes you so exhausted and unable to function.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did you cry?

Did you miss the little detail about Depression? It makes you so exhausted and unable to function.

+1 If you know, you know. Hang in there, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP. Thanks to those who gave me a script. I am normally the queen of thank you notes, but cannot muster anything beyond the desire to lock myself in a dark closet 6,000 miles away from any human right this second. You helped me get the job done.

[Anonymous]

Hard to emphasize with this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hard to emphasize with this one.

Is it?

Then go do some research about depression and other mental health disorders. Like any DISEASE, depression has symptoms.

Would it be "hard to empathize" with a cancer patient, or someone suffering from Parkinson's, even if they were doing relatively well and were technically able-bodied? Hmm?

You're an uneducated asshole. Do a little research, come back, and apologize and offer that empathy that was so hard to find because you are ignorant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard to emphasize with this one.

Is it?

Then go do some research about depression and other mental health disorders. Like any DISEASE, depression has symptoms.

Would it be "hard to empathize" with a cancer patient, or someone suffering from Parkinson's, even if they were doing relatively well and were technically able-bodied? Hmm?

You're an uneducated asshole. Do a little research, come back, and apologize and offer that empathy that was so hard to find because you are ignorant.

Yes it would. Someone you love gives a gift with a good intentions, you say thank you.

Period. Not that difficult

[Anonymous]

I have activity gifts where you feel forced to use it.

Just say, Thank you so much for thinking about me and my family. It was such a loving and thoughtful gift and truly appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard to emphasize with this one.

Is it?

Then go do some research about depression and other mental health disorders. Like any DISEASE, depression has symptoms.

Would it be "hard to empathize" with a cancer patient, or someone suffering from Parkinson's, even if they were doing relatively well and were technically able-bodied? Hmm?

You're an uneducated asshole. Do a little research, come back, and apologize and offer that empathy that was so hard to find because you are ignorant.

Yes it would. Someone you love gives a gift with a good intentions, you say thank you.

Period. Not that difficult

A SYMPTOM of depression is MENTAL FOG.

So YES, IT IS that difficult.

LITERALLY A SYMPTOM OF DEPRESSION IS THAT "EVERYDAY TASKS SEEM DIFFICULT AND OVERWHELMING."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard to emphasize with this one.

Is it?

Then go do some research about depression and other mental health disorders. Like any DISEASE, depression has symptoms.

Would it be "hard to empathize" with a cancer patient, or someone suffering from Parkinson's, even if they were doing relatively well and were technically able-bodied? Hmm?

You're an uneducated asshole. Do a little research, come back, and apologize and offer that empathy that was so hard to find because you are ignorant.

Yes it would. Someone you love gives a gift with a good intentions, you say thank you.

Period. Not that difficult

A SYMPTOM of depression is MENTAL FOG.

So YES, IT IS that difficult.

LITERALLY A SYMPTOM OF DEPRESSION IS THAT "EVERYDAY TASKS SEEM DIFFICULT AND OVERWHELMING."

DP. Yet depression also is a very inward-looking and narcissistic ailment. It isn't that hard to see the other poster's point. Manners are manners. So the ACT of responding may be difficult but the internal acknowledgement of the NEED to act should not be difficult, which is, I believe, the other poster's point.

In this case OP does recognize she needs to act so that's good. She also has reached out for help in how to respond and that's also good. Her family did a nice thing for her and she needs to respond appropriately. It sounds like she is on her way to doing that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm...is it like a time-sensitive thing, like for an event on a specific date, or a certificate that expires?

My first thought as well.

If it is something that can wait, you may be able to use it in time once you feel better.

And you will one day❣️

[Anonymous]

Horseback riding?

Outdoor concert?

Gift certificate for family friendly beer farm?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard to emphasize with this one.

Is it?

Then go do some research about depression and other mental health disorders. Like any DISEASE, depression has symptoms.

Would it be "hard to empathize" with a cancer patient, or someone suffering from Parkinson's, even if they were doing relatively well and were technically able-bodied? Hmm?

You're an uneducated asshole. Do a little research, come back, and apologize and offer that empathy that was so hard to find because you are ignorant.

Yes it would. Someone you love gives a gift with a good intentions, you say thank you.

Period. Not that difficult

A SYMPTOM of depression is MENTAL FOG.

So YES, IT IS that difficult.

LITERALLY A SYMPTOM OF DEPRESSION IS THAT "EVERYDAY TASKS SEEM DIFFICULT AND OVERWHELMING."

DP. Yet depression also is a very inward-looking and narcissistic ailment. It isn't that hard to see the other poster's point. Manners are manners. So the ACT of responding may be difficult but the internal acknowledgement of the NEED to act should not be difficult, which is, I believe, the other poster's point.

In this case OP does recognize she needs to act so that's good. She also has reached out for help in how to respond and that's also good. Her family did a nice thing for her and she needs to respond appropriately. It sounds like she is on her way to doing that.

I assure you, no one picks it out of the menu of life. No one selects it. No one raises their hand for a "very inward-looking and narcisssistic ailment." Plus, you're wrong. People who suffer from anxiety and depression often EXHAUST themselves trying to people-please. They can be highly attuned to the needs, feelings, desires and preferences of others to the point that they deplete all their own energy and do not best serve themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. Thanks to those who gave me a script. I am normally the queen of thank you notes, but cannot muster anything beyond the desire to lock myself in a dark closet 6,000 miles away from any human right this second. You helped me get the job done.

Hang in there, OP. Have been exactly there a few times (I have major recurrent depression, so I tend to be somewhat depressed all the time and more depressed sometimes, but I also know about the absolutely black kind). I do think that, like someone who has lost the ability to walk due to a brain injury or really serious medical problem, it's doing those little steps--even though they require huge effort--that eventually help get you back to being able to interact more normally with people.

[Anonymous]

There are websites where you can sell gift cards and gift certificates. You might not get 100% of the value but it would be better than reluctantly doing an activity you really don't want to do. Take the cash & buy yourself something YOU get to select.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard to emphasize with this one.

Is it?

Then go do some research about depression and other mental health disorders. Like any DISEASE, depression has symptoms.

Would it be "hard to empathize" with a cancer patient, or someone suffering from Parkinson's, even if they were doing relatively well and were technically able-bodied? Hmm?

You're an uneducated asshole. Do a little research, come back, and apologize and offer that empathy that was so hard to find because you are ignorant.

Yes it would. Someone you love gives a gift with a good intentions, you say thank you.

Period. Not that difficult

A SYMPTOM of depression is MENTAL FOG.

So YES, IT IS that difficult.

LITERALLY A SYMPTOM OF DEPRESSION IS THAT "EVERYDAY TASKS SEEM DIFFICULT AND OVERWHELMING."

DP. Yet depression also is a very inward-looking and narcissistic ailment. It isn't that hard to see the other poster's point. Manners are manners. So the ACT of responding may be difficult but the internal acknowledgement of the NEED to act should not be difficult, which is, I believe, the other poster's point.

In this case OP does recognize she needs to act so that's good. She also has reached out for help in how to respond and that's also good. Her family did a nice thing for her and she needs to respond appropriately. It sounds like she is on her way to doing that.

You are part of the problem why people don't seek help for mental illness. I had clinical Depression from years of trauma and grief. And yes I definitely am a people pleaser and always managed to do things for others while putting myself LAST. It caught up with me eventually. I'm not inward looking or Narcissistic. I was actually the victim of Narcissists from the time I was a child.

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