Is it wrong to have your dog sleep in a crate in a separate room?

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Anonymous wrote:The bigger problem is your husband sounds like he’s mean. What kind of dog? That’s way too old to be sleeping in a crate where’s he locked up. At that age if you still have a crate the dog just uses it as a bed. Also by that age why isn’t do sleeping in a proper dog bed in someone’s room (I won’t ask why he isn’t sleeping in someone’s bed because the answer is obvious).

Poor dog.

This is the dumbest thing I've read today, and I've seen some presidential twitter.

Ok. I see those who hate animals are taking a headcount.

Our old dog snored like a freight train, so you bet her bed was moved out of our room. Having to share with the husband is bad enough.

If that was animal abuse, I wish all dogs were so treated.

[Anonymous]

It's fine. We've had multiple dogs, have two right now. None of them have ever slept in our bedrooms. Of our two dogs, one elderly shepherd sleeps in his bed in the living room but the other is a 15 month old lab who will eat anything he can if left unattended so he is still locked in his crate at night and the crate is in the dining room.

[Anonymous]

My dog was 5 when I got her from the shelter. My husband didn’t want her in the bedroom. She learned by day 2 not to follow us into the bedroom. She has 5-6 beds around the house and picks which one suits her mood each night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The bigger problem is your husband sounds like he’s mean. What kind of dog? That’s way too old to be sleeping in a crate where’s he locked up. At that age if you still have a crate the dog just uses it as a bed. Also by that age why isn’t do sleeping in a proper dog bed in someone’s room (I won’t ask why he isn’t sleeping in someone’s bed because the answer is obvious).

Poor dog.

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I do think it's wrong. Dogs are pack animals and need to be with their pack.

Your husband is a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The bigger problem is your husband sounds like he’s mean. What kind of dog? That’s way too old to be sleeping in a crate where’s he locked up. At that age if you still have a crate the dog just uses it as a bed. Also by that age why isn’t do sleeping in a proper dog bed in someone’s room (I won’t ask why he isn’t sleeping in someone’s bed because the answer is obvious).

Poor dog.

Husband isn't mean. Some people don't want their pets sleeping in their bedrooms with people that's all.

A dog is a complex sentient being with an affiliative pack nature. A dog is not a bag of laundry. It’s just mean to put this full grown creature in a box cast into a mud room at night where it sits alone just waiting for someone to show it some affection and to receive its affection.

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If the husband doesn't want the dog in his room, ok, fine (well, not fine, but ok), but to prohibit it from being in the kids' rooms as well?

Husband is mean (at a minimum).

[Anonymous]

Only Americans want their dogs in the bedroom. Seriously. The dog is fine in a crate in the mudroom.

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Dogs don't have to sleep in your bedroom. Jeez, there was a time when they slept in kennels outside. They made it sleeping outside, they'll make it fine sleeping in the hallway or in the mudroom.

The husband in OP's post should be given a medal for sticking to his guns!

[Anonymous]

It’s totally okay. Our very spoiled golden retriever have always slept outside the bedrooms, on the main level. Our first one was uncrated on a comfy LL bean bed after age 1. Our current one is still crated at 3 because otherwise he wakes everyone up a 5 to play.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think it is wrong. Dogs are social animals who bond with their families (packs). I don't think someone who makes their dog sleep alone in a crate, away from the pack, should have a dog at all.

I say this as someone who doesn't even like dogs. I'm a cat person, and even I would not do that to a dog. I think the purpose of a dog/cat is that it is part of the family and brings pleasure to the whole family, and letting your furball snuggle up in bed with you or your child is the best.

Can't you compromise and get the dog a bed you can put on the floor in a bedroom, so that he can be around his people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only Americans want their dogs in the bedroom. Seriously. The dog is fine in a crate in the mudroom.

In my EU country people take their dogs in restaurants and shops. To be sure, dogs here are much more well-trained than American dogs, but my point is that America is certainly not the only country that loves its pets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dogs don't have to sleep in your bedroom. Jeez, there was a time when they slept in kennels outside. They made it sleeping outside, they'll make it fine sleeping in the hallway or in the mudroom.

The husband in OP's post should be given a medal for sticking to his guns!

Some of the people on this thread need to send my dog a memo because if I’m downstairs at night he will migrate to another room and go sleep alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I think it is wrong. Dogs are social animals who bond with their families (packs). I don't think someone who makes their dog sleep alone in a crate, away from the pack, should have a dog at all.

I say this as someone who doesn't even like dogs. I'm a cat person, and even I would not do that to a dog. I think the purpose of a dog/cat is that it is part of the family and brings pleasure to the whole family, and letting your furball snuggle up in bed with you or your child is the best.

Can't you compromise and get the dog a bed you can put on the floor in a bedroom, so that he can be around his people?

Stop being ridiculous! Our 12-week old puppy enjoys spending time with us during the day, and she’s fine sleeping in her crate in the living room at night. Dogs have slept separately from people for eons. We don’t want dogs in our bedrooms, and that’s our choice. It’s not cruel. We love her, but she’s not a person. It hasn’t had any negative effect on the puppy. Is it any wonder dogs these days have so many psychological issues with attitudes like yours?

[Anonymous]

My husband insisted like yours did, because one child has allergies and DH didn’t want the dog upstairs. It’s been fine.

[Anonymous]

Jeez Louise. I grew up with dogs and have a dog now and none of them have ever slept in our bedrooms. They are/were all very well loved and happy. I am most puzzled by the poster(s) who seem to think it is borderline abusive not to let a dog in bed with you. My housekeeping standards are not as high as they should be, but yuck to a dog in my bed.

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Also, letting your dogs sleep in a kid’s bedroom is a good way to help your child develop dog allergies. Hope you don’t then rehome the dog if the kid becomes allergic. Most dogs are totally fine sleeping separately from their human. People waaay overstate the pack animal thing. Dogs are not wolves and most of them have not lived in packs for thousands of years.