More than four kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was young, I romanticized big families.

But, it’s pretty narcissistic to want to overpopulate the world with your offspring isn’t it? And selfish. Even if you have all the money I’m the world, what makes you think you and your family are actually “value add?” And if you aren’t thinking about it that way, you should be.

By your logic, you shouldn’t be allowed any children at all. Do you have kids? What makes you the judge of how many is ok? Do your children “value add”?
Unless you don’t have children, you really can’t call people out.

[Anonymous]

I’m from a family of 5. I was raised Catholic but not breeder-catholic (my parents used BC and got surprised by twins when they went for #4.)

My family is the best. It worked well because my parents (my Mom especially) we’re clearly cut out for it and lived having a big family. We all got lots of attention but also a lot of freedom. We were well off financially, especially by the time the younger 2 came along, and kids were well spaced (2 clusters), which helped.

All that said, I do agree with others that it’s a bit irresponsible and selfish from a sharing-the-earth perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was young, I romanticized big families.

But, it’s pretty narcissistic to want to overpopulate the world with your offspring isn’t it? And selfish. Even if you have all the money I’m the world, what makes you think you and your family are actually “value add?” And if you aren’t thinking about it that way, you should be.

What a cold way to look at children and family. Did you and your spouse really discuss how much value they would add before you conceived? What an odd post.

[Anonymous]

OP how old are your kids now? I would consider asking them what they think. I have a cousin w 5 kids and the older 2 resented basically being parents so much that they don’t want their own kids.

[Anonymous]

How do you have enough time for 4 kids when you both work? Sound like a disaster.

[Anonymous]

I kind of romanticize big families but realistically don't think I could swing 5 without being stressed and short-tempered a lot of the time. But different people have different abilities. If you guys love having 4 I really don't know what the difference would be adding another - you're already used to competing priorities, giving lots of different kids attention, having kids at different developmental stages, etc. You're going to need a freaking huge car though.

[Anonymous]

Environmentally irresponsible.

[Anonymous]

My protestant DH comes from a family with 5 kids. They all get along and have great reunions. I would advise you to do it if you can.

Don't worry about the "overpopulation" posters, Our birth rate in the US is decreasing and we need more people to care for elderly and keep up production later!

[Anonymous]

More than 4 is not that uncommon here in Chevy Chase, lots of Catholic families. Not sure how they do it financially especially since most of them send their kids to Catholic school, live in a big house and pay dues to Columbia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My protestant DH comes from a family with 5 kids. They all get along and have great reunions. I would advise you to do it if you can.

Don't worry about the "overpopulation" posters, Our birth rate in the US is decreasing and we need more people to care for elderly and keep up production later!

There are a lot of large dysfunctional families. More so than not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was young, I romanticized big families.

But, it’s pretty narcissistic to want to overpopulate the world with your offspring isn’t it? And selfish. Even if you have all the money I’m the world, what makes you think you and your family are actually “value add?” And if you aren’t thinking about it that way, you should be.

By your logic, you shouldn’t be allowed any children at all. Do you have kids? What makes you the judge of how many is ok? Do your children “value add”?
Unless you don’t have children, you really can’t call people out.

Np. Is math challenging for you. If you have more than two kids, you are helping to overpopulate the world. It is by definition selfish. The op is thinking of what she wants over the disadvantages to the rest of us. She can still choose to do it, but it is selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have four kids right now and are thinking about having a fifth. We're not religious. We believe in birth control. We live in Chevy Chase. DH works full time and I work part time - both of us are attorneys. We don't fit the image of people who have five kids. At least, what I think of. I actually don't know anyone who has more than four kids that isn't either Mormon or Catholic. But it feels right for us. Do any of you have more than four kids? Do you know anyone that does? I'm curious about big families with somewhat similar profiles to ours. Who decided to draw the line at four being "hip" and five being "nuts?"

Why would you add a fifth during these times? Seems very irresponsible. I've read where now is not the time to get pregnant! Do you really want to die and leave your four kids without a mother? Please just enjoy your four kids. That's enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was young, I romanticized big families.

But, it’s pretty narcissistic to want to overpopulate the world with your offspring isn’t it? And selfish. Even if you have all the money I’m the world, what makes you think you and your family are actually “value add?” And if you aren’t thinking about it that way, you should be.

By your logic, you shouldn’t be allowed any children at all. Do you have kids? What makes you the judge of how many is ok? Do your children “value add”?
Unless you don’t have children, you really can’t call people out.

Np. Is math challenging for you. If you have more than two kids, you are helping to overpopulate the world. It is by definition selfish. The op is thinking of what she wants over the disadvantages to the rest of us. She can still choose to do it, but it is selfish.

This is just a lame virtue signal from people with 0-2 kids that makes them feel so righteous about the environment without actually having to do anything other than sit on their couch and post online and judge others. “Oh I’m so awesome I’ve done my part by having 0-2 kids, it is everyone else’s fault for having more than 2 kids...”

[Anonymous]

I know a few people with 5. One of them basically had two sets of kids and had a nanny and a SAHM at the same time and either the nanny or mom would be with one group and then they'd switch.

[Anonymous]

If you want 5, then have 5. It is your body and your life. Enjoy!