He can’t do anything on his own. Won’t even get his own water or food. I would be woken up every few minutes. Even now with him home I can’t do laundry without him coming with me downstairs. I don’t trust him . No special needs either. Just can’t function alone. |
He would if you didn't do it for him. I assume he somehow functions at school without you there. |
Np so jaded. Not everyone partied like you. This is an unusual circumstances. Why so rigid? Is there somewhere your college kid needs to be in the age of closures and social distancing? No? Than let him be. |
Op here. He has a fantastic gpa. I’m not really worried about that. I know he’s not like this at school. But during these circumstances...wow. Oh well. |
| I have a baby and a toddler. I’d kill for my kids to sleep until 9. Kinda funny to hear parents complaining about the opposite |
Agree. I was like that too and half of my friends. Friends on normal schedules used to joke about our half of the group that the only way we would ever see the sunrise was if we hadn't been to bed. But we were not partiers, actually we were the nerds. We did a lot of activities when the sun was up, we did things with friends after dinner and sometime between 9pm-12am we did our studying, programming, writing until it was done. Worked fine for us. We adjusted on days that we had to be up for a class or lab, but if you planned your schedule right that was only like twice a week and the rest were afternoon classes. |
It may horrify you to know some of us never grow out of that schedule. I sometimes even wonder if I pursued my current career BECAUSE it would allow me to work from home and keep that sleep schedule... I have tried quite hard, many times, to break it, because I like spending time with my husband in the sunlight. Alas, this can be genetic, and it certainly is for me. I need less sleep when I go to bed at 4am than I do when I force myself to bed by midnight! |
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Don’t worry he’s probably smoking weed as soon as he wakes up...makes him completely alert.
#wakenbake |
WONT get water or food is different from CANT. You’re completely enabling your child if he’s refusing to do this and in middle school! Does he not have chores? My 4th grader makes his own breakfast, packs his own lunch, does laundry, walks the dog, puts away the clean dishes, puts his own dirty dishes in the dishwasher—and has been capable of a lot of that for years and years. Being quarantined would be a fantastic time for you to teach your son these things—do it slowly, but be consistent about each step. I bet both of you will be a lot happier in the long run. Even if he puts up a fuss at first. |