WAHM declined aftercare

[Anonymous]

What is this school that A) knows your work address B) has staff that spend their time cross-referencing? Next.

[Anonymous]

Do they understand that to pay for private school, you need to work?

I am sorry - this just sounds crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you show them the company policy that requires you to have child care in order to telecommute and that you'll be fired if you don't have it? Most companies put that in writing somewhere.

I've shown them that plus everything else I can think of. We're likely pulling him out and going public over it (can't find a center with transportation and aftercare locally). It sucks, but it is what it is. I was mostly just curious if this is common.

Can you use your husband’s work address?

They wanted both.

[Anonymous]

Tell them you messed up the paperwork and it’s really DH who works from home. They won’t fuss anymore because obviously a man can’t care for his child while working.

Otherwise, pull him and make sure you tell everyone why.

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous. Never heard of a private with limited spots for aftercare -- aren't you paying for adequate resources? Our private offers it to all, have never had to show need. I could put my DC in aftercare if I wanted to go to the spa every afternoon. If there was more demand than they planned for, they would hire more staff.

[Anonymous]

Have you explained you will need to pull as a result of this, and that you will be sure to leave reviews far and wide explaining this is how they operate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you explained you will need to pull as a result of this, and that you will be sure to leave reviews far and wide explaining this is how they operate.

Leaving reviews isn't really my style.

[Anonymous]

I think the private schools are getting a raw deal on this. Here is another perspective. Our children have always attended private. The extended day or aftercare has always been an additional fee, and it always has been dependent on space. I don't know if they have any requirements to meet. I can see how/why a school may not be able to accommodate all students since the staffing of extended day obviously is not done with teachers, except those who take it on as a second job. The school has to hire people to staff the program. And it makes sense that there is an additional fee because not everyone uses it so those who don't shouldn't have to subsidize it.

I don't know what to say about being declined because you work at home. Do you have any other options like a nanny share or an au pair share?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the private schools are getting a raw deal on this. Here is another perspective. Our children have always attended private. The extended day or aftercare has always been an additional fee, and it always has been dependent on space. I don't know if they have any requirements to meet. I can see how/why a school may not be able to accommodate all students since the staffing of extended day obviously is not done with teachers, except those who take it on as a second job. The school has to hire people to staff the program. And it makes sense that there is an additional fee because not everyone uses it so those who don't shouldn't have to subsidize it.

I don't know what to say about being declined because you work at home. Do you have any other options like a nanny share or an au pair share?

The issue is not that she is not willing to pay - rather that someone who does not telework has priority over someone who does telework.
Personally I think this is a red flag - and is a reason for you to go elsewhere. The school clearly does not respect you as a professional. They will be calling you to chaperone, be class mom, cut up cheese into star shapes for a school event. Run!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell them you messed up the paperwork and it’s really DH who works from home. They won’t fuss anymore because obviously a man can’t care for his child while working.

Otherwise, pull him and make sure you tell everyone why.

[Anonymous]

The address policy is ridiculous. There are teleworkers who absolutely can't have a 5 year old around and need childcare. Not to mention there are people with no permanent "work" address that are doing things like working as sales reps, travel nurses, in-home aides, etc.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would also see about using your company’s address

Maybe run it by HR / supervisor, depending on your circumstance.

[Anonymous]

What the hell school is this????? Amazingly biased. I'd be running that up the flagpole at the school administration.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t mean leaving anonymous reviews on Yelp. I meant speaking to the Admission Director about how to pull your son and explaining that you are so sad to leave such a great school over a bureaucratic snafu but you are getting nowhere and upset to be treated like this.

Basically, complain like a rich white person!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t mean leaving anonymous reviews on Yelp. I meant speaking to the Admission Director about how to pull your son and explaining that you are so sad to leave such a great school over a bureaucratic snafu but you are getting nowhere and upset to be treated like this.

Basically, complain like a rich white person!

+1000! I would run away and not think twice. This is insanity and a good reason not to enroll your kid.

And speculation, but I don't think they'd treat a dad with an in-home business the same way.