Not even divorced but I wish my DH would move out and we could have joint custody

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've thought about this.

The best solution would be to live in a larger house, where he can have his own areas to mess up and clean up, make the noise he wants (that man cannot be quiet), yet still be available.

I'd like to have a second kitchen my wife can mess up all she wants. How many times do I have to organize the dang cabinets and then every time I open them I STILL find Sriracha amongst the wine glasses and nine different kid party favors amongst the Advil.

My Mom wants to live in a duplex with her on one side, my Dad on the other. With a window between the two that she can slide the meals through. But his mess stays his mess. LOL

[Anonymous]

Joint custody, in my observation, often means mom has full custody, dad pays half in child support and takes the kids sporadically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've thought about this.

The best solution would be to live in a larger house, where he can have his own areas to mess up and clean up, make the noise he wants (that man cannot be quiet), yet still be available.

I'd like to have a second kitchen my wife can mess up all she wants. How many times do I have to organize the dang cabinets and then every time I open them I STILL find Sriracha amongst the wine glasses and nine different kid party favors amongst the Advil.

My Mom wants to live in a duplex with her on one side, my Dad on the other. With a window between the two that she can slide the meals through. But his mess stays his mess. LOL

This is genius. I want this, too. So my kids can go over and play with dad whenever they want, I can still feed him, which I like doing, and I don't have to look at his laundry and crap strewn all over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've thought about this.

The best solution would be to live in a larger house, where he can have his own areas to mess up and clean up, make the noise he wants (that man cannot be quiet), yet still be available.

I'd like to have a second kitchen my wife can mess up all she wants. How many times do I have to organize the dang cabinets and then every time I open them I STILL find Sriracha amongst the wine glasses and nine different kid party favors amongst the Advil.

My Mom wants to live in a duplex with her on one side, my Dad on the other. With a window between the two that she can slide the meals through. But his mess stays his mess. LOL

This is genius. I want this, too. So my kids can go over and play with dad whenever they want, I can still feed him, which I like doing, and I don't have to look at his laundry and crap strewn all over.

I need a way to make this happen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've thought about this.

The best solution would be to live in a larger house, where he can have his own areas to mess up and clean up, make the noise he wants (that man cannot be quiet), yet still be available.

I'd like to have a second kitchen my wife can mess up all she wants. How many times do I have to organize the dang cabinets and then every time I open them I STILL find Sriracha amongst the wine glasses and nine different kid party favors amongst the Advil.

My Mom wants to live in a duplex with her on one side, my Dad on the other. With a window between the two that she can slide the meals through. But his mess stays his mess. LOL

Helena Bonham Carter and Tim Burton did this. They owned adjoining houses and lived separately. Of course, they also split up after 13 years, so maybe it's not the best solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've thought about this.

The best solution would be to live in a larger house, where he can have his own areas to mess up and clean up, make the noise he wants (that man cannot be quiet), yet still be available.

I'd like to have a second kitchen my wife can mess up all she wants. How many times do I have to organize the dang cabinets and then every time I open them I STILL find Sriracha amongst the wine glasses and nine different kid party favors amongst the Advil.

My Mom wants to live in a duplex with her on one side, my Dad on the other. With a window between the two that she can slide the meals through. But his mess stays his mess. LOL

Helena Bonham Carter and Tim Burton did this. They owned adjoining houses and lived separately. Of course, they also split up after 13 years, so maybe it's not the best solution.

Didn't Salvador Dali and his wife do that too?
I also sometimes dream of having my own apartment to go whenever I feel like it. It would be full of snacks that I don't have to share, a bathtub that's all mine and I can sleep as long as I want and watch Netflix. I would go home to DH and the kids when I feel like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've thought about this.

The best solution would be to live in a larger house, where he can have his own areas to mess up and clean up, make the noise he wants (that man cannot be quiet), yet still be available.

I'd like to have a second kitchen my wife can mess up all she wants. How many times do I have to organize the dang cabinets and then every time I open them I STILL find Sriracha amongst the wine glasses and nine different kid party favors amongst the Advil.

My Mom wants to live in a duplex with her on one side, my Dad on the other. With a window between the two that she can slide the meals through. But his mess stays his mess. LOL

Helena Bonham Carter and Tim Burton did this. They owned adjoining houses and lived separately. Of course, they also split up after 13 years, so maybe it's not the best solution.

Didn't Salvador Dali and his wife do that too?
I also sometimes dream of having my own apartment to go whenever I feel like it. It would be full of snacks that I don't have to share, a bathtub that's all mine and I can sleep as long as I want and watch Netflix. I would go home to DH and the kids when I feel like it.

Not too long ago, that was just called "being a man".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve heard some parent have “custody” of their kids while still being married and living together. Some do it by day, others by week or weekend.

For example, if it’s your weekend, you get up with the kids, feed, take to activities, etc. Spouse can sleep in, schedule time with friends or do hobby or join in on family time. But they don’t shoulder the responsibility for the weekend. Then the next weekend, you switch.

The story I read when the child approaches one parent with a question/request they say “it’s not my weekend, go ask other parent”. The kids understood that a different parent was in charge each weekend and were totally fine with it.

That sounds kind of mean to the kid!