Anyone grow up in a family that was an open marriage? Or swinger situation?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our children have no idea nor would they ever be told. We never bring anybody around our home and are with people that have zero ties to anyone in our family or friend circle. It’s something between us and is no business of our children or family or friends.

Maybe if it’s that shady you shouldn’t be doing it.

The children will find out, very sad for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children have no idea nor would they ever be told. We never bring anybody around our home and are with people that have zero ties to anyone in our family or friend circle. It’s something between us and is no business of our children or family or friends.

Maybe if it’s that shady you shouldn’t be doing it.

It's not shady, but the sex lives of their parents is never the kids business. Also, who cares what consenting adults do? I'm jealous!

If you're jealous then you need to raise the bar. Kids are nosy, they will find out how messed up their parents are at some point. It will be a big shock and disappointment.

[Anonymous]

I recently inadvertently discovered that my mom and her husband are themed swingers. To say it was an awkward discovery would be an understatement. They don’t know I know, and I just can’t look at them the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children have no idea nor would they ever be told. We never bring anybody around our home and are with people that have zero ties to anyone in our family or friend circle. It’s something between us and is no business of our children or family or friends.

Maybe if it’s that shady you shouldn’t be doing it.

It's not shady, but the sex lives of their parents is never the kids business. Also, who cares what consenting adults do? I'm jealous!

How does anyone have time for this?

No way that older kids don't realize that something is up with their parents. Selfish people shouldn't have kids.

How is it selfish? The lifestyle has nothing to do with the children. Please educate me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The children will find out, very sad for them.

how would the children find out if it’s kept private (similar to keeping sex between them private)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our children have no idea nor would they ever be told. We never bring anybody around our home and are with people that have zero ties to anyone in our family or friend circle. It’s something between us and is no business of our children or family or friends.

Why is it nobody’s business? It sounds like you are ashamed of your behavior and have something to hide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children have no idea nor would they ever be told. We never bring anybody around our home and are with people that have zero ties to anyone in our family or friend circle. It’s something between us and is no business of our children or family or friends.

Why is it nobody’s business? It sounds like you are ashamed of your behavior and have something to hide.

I would assume it’s the same principle as me not telling everyone the kinky things we do in the bedroom or all the naughty places we like to do it. Sexual relations are nobody’s business and nobody wants to hear about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children have no idea nor would they ever be told. We never bring anybody around our home and are with people that have zero ties to anyone in our family or friend circle. It’s something between us and is no business of our children or family or friends.

Why is it nobody’s business? It sounds like you are ashamed of your behavior and have something to hide.

NP. Why would it be anyone’s business but theirs? I don’t talk to my child or family or friends about my totally vanilla sex life, and it’s not because I’m embarrassed or hiding anything. Why would it be any different for them?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The children will find out, very sad for them.

how would the children find out if it’s kept private (similar to keeping sex between them private)?

Ugh, I always knew when my parents were having sex. Gross. There was always this candle they would light that would waft into my room, and out of the ordinary late night showering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children have no idea nor would they ever be told. We never bring anybody around our home and are with people that have zero ties to anyone in our family or friend circle. It’s something between us and is no business of our children or family or friends.

Why is it nobody’s business? It sounds like you are ashamed of your behavior and have something to hide.

I would assume it’s the same principle as me not telling everyone the kinky things we do in the bedroom or all the naughty places we like to do it. Sexual relations are nobody’s business and nobody wants to hear about it.

You don’t need to reveal details to tell people what you are doing. You are ashamed of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children have no idea nor would they ever be told. We never bring anybody around our home and are with people that have zero ties to anyone in our family or friend circle. It’s something between us and is no business of our children or family or friends.

Maybe if it’s that shady you shouldn’t be doing it.

It's not shady, but the sex lives of their parents is never the kids business. Also, who cares what consenting adults do? I'm jealous!

If you're jealous then you need to raise the bar. Kids are nosy, they will find out how messed up their parents are at some point. It will be a big shock and disappointment.

Swinging is definitely not my thing, but I can’t imagine how my kids would know if we didn’t do anything in the house and it was outside of our usual friend circle. Also, I don’t discuss my sex life with DH with our children. Not their business.

[Anonymous]

I am not a swinger or have a multiple partner relationship/marriage. I don’t care if anyone else does. I also think there is a way to keep that part of your life away from your children. You can and should be discreet about your sexy life (no matter what it is). I worry more about children who grow up in families where dad drinks a lot and mom is popping pills in order to make everything looking perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our children have no idea nor would they ever be told. We never bring anybody around our home and are with people that have zero ties to anyone in our family or friend circle. It’s something between us and is no business of our children or family or friends.

Hot. But tell me, are most of the other swingers fat or have tattoos?

Yes

No. You’ve obviously never been involved in the scene.

[Anonymous]

We have a couple sets of friends who hang out all the time and obsessively do many 'away' vacations together with and without the kids. DH and I have our side eye on them. Maybe we are the pervs for thinking it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin and her husband have an open marriage. We're more like sisters than cousins, which is the only reason why she told me. No one else in our family knows. She and her husband are both very crunchy granola people. His parents are pretty well off and bought them a farm as their wedding gift because both love gardening and growing their own food. They're part of a small homeschool group of others with similar ideals and they all partner swap. Not my cup of tea, but their kids do not know. According to her, there are no romantic feelings involved; it's purely sexual.

I’m never going to be able to look at the catholic homeschool co-oo moms in the same way again.