If you belong to a MOMS Club Chapter...

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Anonymous wrote:I’m part of my local chapter. It seems like just the board of 4-5 people are “besties” going to the same events over and over. I went to one event and it was super awkward and I felt like the only newcoming busting in on a private group of fake friends. I chalked up the $10 membership fee as a loss and never attended another event. I’m still in the Facebook group and it’s just as annoying and exclusionary.

My words exactly. Cliquish.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in the one in McLean and I love it! So helpful and everyone is so kind and welcoming! I work so i dont participate as much as id like, but it is still a great resource (and if you stayed home it would be a life saver!)

I was under the impression MOMs club is only for stay at home moms? Has that changed?

Most MOMS club chapters welcome working moms now, especially in the DMV where it’s more expensive to live and pay for child care.

Our chapter welcomes part-to w working moms but not full time

Same with the one in Arlington. They really didn’t care of your job allowed for flexibility to participate, the message was clear.

People seem upset by this but MOMS was founded to support moms who are home with their children. Moms who work part-time, or from home, also benefit from the social interaction and support of a MOMS group. But it's not meant to be a social group for all mothers. There are plenty of social groups, support boards, magazines, etc for "Working Mothers", and this is no different, it's just for mothers who are (mostly) at home.

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I joined one but after a year of restrictive rules a couple of us started our own group instead. Now anyone can join regardless of where they live and we use some of the fees for pizza parties, Easter Egg hunt etc. I really got a lot out of it.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in the one in McLean and I love it! So helpful and everyone is so kind and welcoming! I work so i dont participate as much as id like, but it is still a great resource (and if you stayed home it would be a life saver!)

I was under the impression MOMs club is only for stay at home moms? Has that changed?

Most MOMS club chapters welcome working moms now, especially in the DMV where it’s more expensive to live and pay for child care.

Our chapter welcomes part-to w working moms but not full time

Same with the one in Arlington. They really didn’t care of your job allowed for flexibility to participate, the message was clear.

People seem upset by this but MOMS was founded to support moms who are home with their children. Moms who work part-time, or from home, also benefit from the social interaction and support of a MOMS group. But it's not meant to be a social group for all mothers. There are plenty of social groups, support boards, magazines, etc for "Working Mothers", and this is no different, it's just for mothers who are (mostly) at home.

No, there really isn't a lot of stuff out there for working moms. But honestly based on this thread seems like us working moms have dodged a bullet by not being able to join MOMS Club. And also why call it MOMs club if you don't welcome all moms? Sounds like "Cliquish stay at home moms club" might be more accurate.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in the one in McLean and I love it! So helpful and everyone is so kind and welcoming! I work so i dont participate as much as id like, but it is still a great resource (and if you stayed home it would be a life saver!)

I was under the impression MOMs club is only for stay at home moms? Has that changed?

Most MOMS club chapters welcome working moms now, especially in the DMV where it’s more expensive to live and pay for child care.

Our chapter welcomes part-to w working moms but not full time

Same with the one in Arlington. They really didn’t care of your job allowed for flexibility to participate, the message was clear.

People seem upset by this but MOMS was founded to support moms who are home with their children. Moms who work part-time, or from home, also benefit from the social interaction and support of a MOMS group. But it's not meant to be a social group for all mothers. There are plenty of social groups, support boards, magazines, etc for "Working Mothers", and this is no different, it's just for mothers who are (mostly) at home.

No, there really isn't a lot of stuff out there for working moms. But honestly based on this thread seems like us working moms have dodged a bullet by not being able to join MOMS Club. And also why call it MOMs club if you don't welcome all moms? Sounds like "Cliquish stay at home moms club" might be more accurate.

It stands for Moms Offering Moms Support, and it’s a real organization founded back in the 1980s. Yes, some individual chapters have elected to allow working moms to join and having a lot of evening and weekend events, but they do so against the rules of the parent organization or they’ve elected not to be a part of the larger parent organization anymore.

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I've been in many moms groups, including MOMS club. The best group I was in was one that formed playgroups for new moms based on their children's birthdays. I ended up in a group with a bunch of brand new moms, so we were all in the same stage of parenthood and none of us new each other at first. We bonded over the experience of being new moms and figuring it all out together. It can be much more difficult to join a pre-established group where the mothers already know each other and people have various preschool and other activity schedules. The latter was my MOMS club experience -- I felt like an outsider, and although one or two people made an effort to chat with me at events, it was clear that they were perfectly happy with their established friend group and didn't feel the need for more people.

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My chapter is a haven for MLM scam recruitment pitches and sales attempts.

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I’m looking for a new moms group. My neighborhood MOMS group is one that emphasizes the SAH demo. And doesn’t organize events after hours . Although I’m on maternity leave, and could attend some now - it was clear I wasn’t truly “one of them”

Anyone else have a preschooler and a newborn and want to meet for coffee in Arlington and trade tales from the trenches

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Has anyone tried MOPS? They welcome WOHM moms.

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I am the PP who said we started our own group so not affliated with official MOMS. Question for those of you who joined and then didnt like the activities. Did you suggest anything or offer to host a playdate ? In oue group we ask every month for hosts, especially in the winter but its the same people every month. We even say tou can limit guests if you want or have an age specific playdate. We have almost 50 member but the only people hosting or making suggestions are people who have been in tbe group a year or more. You get out of it what you put into it.

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone tried MOPS? They welcome WOHM moms.

Sure, as long as you're evangelical. My sister was part of it and she had some crazy stories. No thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in the one in McLean and I love it! So helpful and everyone is so kind and welcoming! I work so i dont participate as much as id like, but it is still a great resource (and if you stayed home it would be a life saver!)

I was under the impression MOMs club is only for stay at home moms? Has that changed?

Most MOMS club chapters welcome working moms now, especially in the DMV where it’s more expensive to live and pay for child care.

Our chapter welcomes part-to w working moms but not full time

Same with the one in Arlington. They really didn’t care of your job allowed for flexibility to participate, the message was clear.

People seem upset by this but MOMS was founded to support moms who are home with their children. Moms who work part-time, or from home, also benefit from the social interaction and support of a MOMS group. But it's not meant to be a social group for all mothers. There are plenty of social groups, support boards, magazines, etc for "Working Mothers", and this is no different, it's just for mothers who are (mostly) at home.

No, there really isn't a lot of stuff out there for working moms. But honestly based on this thread seems like us working moms have dodged a bullet by not being able to join MOMS Club. And also why call it MOMs club if you don't welcome all moms? Sounds like "Cliquish stay at home moms club" might be more accurate.

It stands for Moms Offering Moms Support, and it’s a real organization founded back in the 1980s. Yes, some individual chapters have elected to allow working moms to join and having a lot of evening and weekend events, but they do so against the rules of the parent organization or they’ve elected not to be a part of the larger parent organization anymore.

I mean, ok, but that still makes it sound welcoming to all mom, and this group is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who said we started our own group so not affliated with official MOMS. Question for those of you who joined and then didnt like the activities. Did you suggest anything or offer to host a playdate ? In oue group we ask every month for hosts, especially in the winter but its the same people every month. We even say tou can limit guests if you want or have an age specific playdate. We have almost 50 member but the only people hosting or making suggestions are people who have been in tbe group a year or more. You get out of it what you put into it.

Yes, I have hosted twice this year. Only one person showed to each time. I have an infant, and most of the moms in my chapter have toddlers. So it’s been a mismatch of activities I can partake in, and that I am welcome to for that matter.

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The only reason I would consider staying in it is if leaving would make the other moms hate my child. They seem like PTA types and I don’t want any blowback in my kid.

I had high hopes when I joined, but it’s been so disappointing. And I have made the effort to host play dates.

The MLM/coaching pitches are too much for me to stomach.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in the one in McLean and I love it! So helpful and everyone is so kind and welcoming! I work so i dont participate as much as id like, but it is still a great resource (and if you stayed home it would be a life saver!)

I was under the impression MOMs club is only for stay at home moms? Has that changed?

Most MOMS club chapters welcome working moms now, especially in the DMV where it’s more expensive to live and pay for child care.

Our chapter welcomes part-to w working moms but not full time

Same with the one in Arlington. They really didn’t care of your job allowed for flexibility to participate, the message was clear.

People seem upset by this but MOMS was founded to support moms who are home with their children. Moms who work part-time, or from home, also benefit from the social interaction and support of a MOMS group. But it's not meant to be a social group for all mothers. There are plenty of social groups, support boards, magazines, etc for "Working Mothers", and this is no different, it's just for mothers who are (mostly) at home.

I joined the McLean group and find it is mostly working moms. Weekend play dates are most attended. Not many SAHMs of young kids. Half or more of questions are related to childcare or items for sale. I’m very disappointed.