What are your rules for mixed (male/ female) gatherings at your house?!

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Anonymous wrote:The same as when the same gender comes over. Phones go in the basket in the front hallway, shoes on the floor below.

Don't break anything or anyone. Don't do anything illegal or immoral. Come get me if you need help.

Why do you take away phones? Do kids actually come over?

Their phones are accessible to them. They are right between the front door and the kitchen. The phones go there so kids don't come over and sit down on the couch for two hours staring into them. Yes, kids come over all the time. I have a slew of them here now.

You must either have a 12 year old or a private school kid. No typical 15-18 year old is going to put their phone in your basket, and they’d hang out elsewhere. I have a 15 year old and a 17 year old, and the kids who would play on their phones the whole time aren’t the same kind of kids who go to parties, so your fears are silly.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this why we have achievement gap? Kids would rather fornicate than do fractions?

I’m pretty sure this has always been the standard. Really though, of all the f words, fractions are pretty low on my list of preferred activities, and I like math.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this why we have achievement gap? Kids would rather fornicate than do fractions?

I hit my teenage years in 1978 and that was true even then.

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No typical 15-18 year old is going to put their phone in your basket, and they’d hang out elsewhere.

Wait... so this is a sure-fire way to avoid having a bunch of teens hanging around my house? Awesome!

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Rules are the same as for kids of either gender coming over.

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Anonymous wrote:Rules are the same as for kids of either gender coming over.

I wouldn't be concerned if my kid went to his/her bedroom with a kid of the same gender. With a kid of the opposite gender, yes that's a concern.

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No typical 15-18 year old is going to put their phone in your basket, and they’d hang out elsewhere.

Wait... so this is a sure-fire way to avoid having a bunch of teens hanging around my house? Awesome!

This rule would turn my 15 year old into a laughingstock and no would come back.

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No typical 15-18 year old is going to put their phone in your basket, and they’d hang out elsewhere.

Wait... so this is a sure-fire way to avoid having a bunch of teens hanging around my house? Awesome!

This rule would turn my 15 year old into a laughingstock and no would come back.

An outcome parents describe as #WINNING

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Anonymous wrote:Parent in the house the whole time. No alcohol or drugs. They stay in public areas. Much like same sex get together.

This, we have a camera in the basement too.

Yeah so they hang out in basement usually. You have a camera? Where in basement? Do they know about it? Do you go down and check on them? How often?

We have a slightly younger kid. Yes, he knows. He helped install it when we remodeled the basement. Its an Amazon brand camera we got for $60. It faces the back door and main seating area (we mostly got it for safety/monitoring but watching him when he and/or his friends is a bonus). Its clear its there as its in the open and has a light on it. We can see it from our phone and talk through it (he does it to us when we are down there). We do go down as laundry and other stuff is down there but we have a smaller house so we can hear them too.

That’s going overboard.

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parents who are saying no going in the bedroom and we go down to the basement, are you trying to prevent drugs or drinking or sex? do you have rules about those things, or are you just trying to prevent circumstances that would make it easy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parent in the house the whole time. No alcohol or drugs. They stay in public areas. Much like same sex get together.

This, we have a camera in the basement too.

Yeah so they hang out in basement usually. You have a camera? Where in basement? Do they know about it? Do you go down and check on them? How often?

We have a slightly younger kid. Yes, he knows. He helped install it when we remodeled the basement. Its an Amazon brand camera we got for $60. It faces the back door and main seating area (we mostly got it for safety/monitoring but watching him when he and/or his friends is a bonus). Its clear its there as its in the open and has a light on it. We can see it from our phone and talk through it (he does it to us when we are down there). We do go down as laundry and other stuff is down there but we have a smaller house so we can hear them too.

That’s going overboard.

How is it going overboard? We don't actually have it for the kids but we aren't in the basement that much and when I'm home alone I'd prefer to look in the camera if I hear a noise then go down alone. Likewise, its easy to break into the basement door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The same as when the same gender comes over. Phones go in the basket in the front hallway, shoes on the floor below.

Don't break anything or anyone. Don't do anything illegal or immoral. Come get me if you need help.

Phones go in a basket?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The same as when the same gender comes over. Phones go in the basket in the front hallway, shoes on the floor below.

Don't break anything or anyone. Don't do anything illegal or immoral. Come get me if you need help.

Phones go in a basket?

That's not the weird part, the weird part is that the powder room is a SCIF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:parents who are saying no going in the bedroom and we go down to the basement, are you trying to prevent drugs or drinking or sex? do you have rules about those things, or are you just trying to prevent circumstances that would make it easy?

Yes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The same as when the same gender comes over. Phones go in the basket in the front hallway, shoes on the floor below.

Don't break anything or anyone. Don't do anything illegal or immoral. Come get me if you need help.

Why do you take away phones? Do kids actually come over?

Their phones are accessible to them. They are right between the front door and the kitchen. The phones go there so kids don't come over and sit down on the couch for two hours staring into them. Yes, kids come over all the time. I have a slew of them here now.

You must either have a 12 year old or a private school kid. No typical 15-18 year old is going to put their phone in your basket, and they’d hang out elsewhere. I have a 15 year old and a 17 year old, and the kids who would play on their phones the whole time aren’t the same kind of kids who go to parties, so your fears are silly.

Nope, all the kids do it. And they're teens. I don't care whatever you believe. You obviously only one one type of kid. Fine.