Fantasizing About Another Man During Sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. I never ever started fantasizing about other people during sex or at any other time UNTIL DH and I started having rough times.

How is your relationship with your husband? Start there, because I think that is critical.

I have a great relationship with my DH and once in awhile I do fantasize about someone else, no one that I actually know. I think my DH is the beneficiary because I get a little crazier as its like a dreamlike ONS and I forget that I've got kids down the hall.

+100

I do this too and he notices. He’s made comments like “I don’t know what got into you tonight but, dayum!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. I never ever started fantasizing about other people during sex or at any other time UNTIL DH and I started having rough times.

How is your relationship with your husband? Start there, because I think that is critical.

I have a great relationship with my DH and once in awhile I do fantasize about someone else, no one that I actually know. I think my DH is the beneficiary because I get a little crazier as its like a dreamlike ONS and I forget that I've got kids down the hall.

+100

I do this too and he notices. He’s made comments like “I don’t know what got into you tonight but, dayum!”

+100 So does my DH but I'm pretty sure he doesn't care why and if he did and I told him he would probably say "they can be in your head but not in your bed!".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my wife asked me to grow my beard because she likes it and then we started having more sex and better sex I would not give a F what her private thought process was.

NP here. DH agrees 100%. He’d even wear a tool belt!

[Anonymous]

"Your wife is so ugly, when she has sex with you she pretends she is someone else."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Your wife is so ugly, when she has sex with you she pretends she is someone else."

"Your wife thinks you're so ugly that when she has sex IT IS with someone else."

[Anonymous]

Love beards.

I don't intentionally plan to think of someone else, but sometimes it happens right at the end with no time to course correct before fireworks ensure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. I never ever started fantasizing about other people during sex or at any other time UNTIL DH and I started having rough times.

How is your relationship with your husband? Start there, because I think that is critical.

I have a great relationship with my DH and once in awhile I do fantasize about someone else, no one that I actually know. I think my DH is the beneficiary because I get a little crazier as its like a dreamlike ONS and I forget that I've got kids down the hall.

+100

I do this too and he notices. He’s made comments like “I don’t know what got into you tonight but, dayum!”

Pp here. But it wasn't once in a while, it was constant. And necessary to get through it.

[Anonymous]

Same here OP.. for the first time the other day, I fantasized about the guy who serviced my car while doing it with DH. I have never ever done that before. Together 15 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. I never ever started fantasizing about other people during sex or at any other time UNTIL DH and I started having rough times.

How is your relationship with your husband? Start there, because I think that is critical.

I have a great relationship with my DH and once in awhile I do fantasize about someone else, no one that I actually know. I think my DH is the beneficiary because I get a little crazier as its like a dreamlike ONS and I forget that I've got kids down the hall.

+100

I do this too and he notices. He’s made comments like “I don’t know what got into you tonight but, dayum!”

Pp here. But it wasn't once in a while, it was constant. And necessary to get through it.

Why? Was he bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same here OP.. for the first time the other day, I fantasized about the guy who serviced my car while doing it with DH. I have never ever done that before. Together 15 years.

It must have had something to do with a car going up on a lift. That's OK

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure I sound like a naive idiot but in a decade of marriage, I've never fantasized about another man during sex. And now after lots of hard work, finally, my sex life with DH has never been better and we do it several times a week and it's amazing every time, lately, I've been fantasizing about one of the construction men while I'm with my DH. I even told my DH not to shave his beard b/c the construction guy has huge, thick beard. I'm confused how when I wasn't having sex with my DH I never fantasized about anyone else, but now that it's happening regularly, I'm imagining being with the construction guy.

Why weren't you having sex with DH before?

[Anonymous]

Man here I and I just assume my wife fantasizes when we do it. All men do it, some or all of the time. Don't care if my wife does and we joke about it sometimes.

The brain is the biggest sex organ, let it loose and enjoy. I promise your husband is far more concerned with you having a good time then who is in your head

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went through that with my daughter's teacher.

Same. I don't think this is unusual at all and I think it's a win for DH so who cares?

I certainly don't care. Whatever gets her excited.

-A husband (not PP's)

Low esteem issues?

[Anonymous]

OP, what do you think about when you masturbate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally don't get the man-beard thing. Totally yucky.

Have you ever had him tickling your cooch with it while he went down? OMG the best.