Husband does not initiate sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here...he’s 39. I have never rejected (that I can remember). Of course I’ve spoken to him about it multiple times. He doesn’t seem to care. Says, “I’m sick of listening to you bitch about this” and leaves. When I wasn’t botching about it and being as supportive and kind as possible, he didn’t want to talk about it either.

+1 for being a porn addict... Masturbating all the time. Doesn't need you, and gets off elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Affair or porn addict. I guess porn addict and compulsive masturbator

OP already does all that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes will comply when sex requested
Sometimes says no
Never seems interested

I’m at my wits end and sick of feeling rejected. Married 14 years, two kids. 38. Any ideas?

Maybe because you treat him like your sex robot. Seriously comply?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here...he’s 39. I have never rejected (that I can remember). Of course I’ve spoken to him about it multiple times. He doesn’t seem to care. Says, “I’m sick of listening to you bitch about this” and leaves. When I wasn’t botching about it and being as supportive and kind as possible, he didn’t want to talk about it either.

+1 for being a porn addict... Masturbating all the time. Doesn't need you, and gets off elsewhere.

Yep. Gets pregnant, sex dries up, porn is the outlet.

Kid is born, still no sex, porn is the outlet.

Miraculously, sex returns, and boom, second pregnancy.

Sex dries up, porn fills the gap.

Kid is born, still no sex, porn still available.

Now off the pregnancy/breastfeeding cycle, but years have passed with no healthy sexual relationship, and OP is confused.

Hang in til menopause, OP, then you’ll both be on the same page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here...he’s 39. I have never rejected (that I can remember). Of course I’ve spoken to him about it multiple times. He doesn’t seem to care. Says, “I’m sick of listening to you bitch about this” and leaves. When I wasn’t botching about it and being as supportive and kind as possible, he didn’t want to talk about it either.

+1 for being a porn addict... Masturbating all the time. Doesn't need you, and gets off elsewhere.

This answer just shows how little women know about male sexuality. LOL oh it has to be something wrong with the man because....otherwise there is a problem with the woman. Many women are so bad in bed that men want nothing to do with them. Yes men reject sex with women and the reason is the women is bad at sex. It has nothing to do with made up feminists mumble jumble about porn addict or masturbating.

[Anonymous]

Op here again...wtf?

There never was a dry spell and sorry for using the word comply...the point is...he doesn’t seem interested and it’s so sad to feel rejected. That’s it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here again...wtf?

There never was a dry spell and sorry for using the word comply...the point is...he doesn’t seem interested and it’s so sad to feel rejected. That’s it

Send him for a checkup. Have them test T.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here again...wtf?

There never was a dry spell and sorry for using the word comply...the point is...he doesn’t seem interested and it’s so sad to feel rejected. That’s it

I imagine it’s the same weirdo person writing all of that. Sorry that happened. And for the home situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No idea about your relationship, but for many men at some point, after years of rejection, they decide its just not worth the fight anymore.

She is the one initiating... So where do you get the idea that there have been "years of rejection"?

This is my situation. My wife has turned me down for years (not each time, but enough that its a real effort), and now at 54 she suddenly wants sex. Well, between years of semi-rejection and me now having lower testosterone levels, I wonder "Why bother?". So I'm on here at 1:00am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here again...wtf?

There never was a dry spell and sorry for using the word comply...the point is...he doesn’t seem interested and it’s so sad to feel rejected. That’s it

dont believe this. must be a troll. just doesnt make sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No idea about your relationship, but for many men at some point, after years of rejection, they decide its just not worth the fight anymore.

She is the one initiating... So where do you get the idea that there have been "years of rejection"?

This is my situation. My wife has turned me down for years (not each time, but enough that its a real effort), and now at 54 she suddenly wants sex. Well, between years of semi-rejection and me now having lower testosterone levels, I wonder "Why bother?". So I'm on here at 1:00am.

after a visit to youporn.com?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here again...wtf?

There never was a dry spell and sorry for using the word comply...the point is...he doesn’t seem interested and it’s so sad to feel rejected. That’s it

Does it help for you to know that 97% of married men know exactly how it feels to have an uninterested partner who never initiates, constantly rejects sex, and dismisses your needs as somehow abnormal? About the only thing different with you as a woman is your thread got only 1 "choreplay" post.

Here is the only real solution: let him choose between a normal sexlife, open marriage, or an ex-wife.

[Anonymous]

Did you get fat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here again...wtf?

There never was a dry spell and sorry for using the word comply...the point is...he doesn’t seem interested and it’s so sad to feel rejected. That’s it

SO this is a new thing? Is he ... maybe ... having an affair?

[Anonymous]

Astonishing as it may sound, for some men, sex actually is an intimate act, and their desire for sex depends upon how emotionally connected they are to their partner.

I know for me, I haven't desired my wife in a long time because we have zero emotional connection. I still have sex out of obligation, and because sex feels good and I crave it, but if she suddenly decided tomorrow she no longer wanted it, I wouldn't exactly be crushed. (But I'd have to figure out something else.)

So if there is a disconnect in your marriage, it can play out in the bedroom. Yes, even with men. But then, there's the thinking that having MORE sex will bring you closer together, but there comes a point of no return I think.