Hosts who want guests to supply the main parts of the meal

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister just did this for Thanksgiving (turkey and all!) It was infuriating!

Really?!? That's pretty bad. How did it turn out?

At the end of the day, we spent the holiday with family which of course it what matters most. But it was not my favorite Thanksgiving ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister just did this for Thanksgiving (turkey and all!) It was infuriating!

Really?!? That's pretty bad. How did it turn out?

At the end of the day, we spent the holiday with family which of course it what matters most. But it was not my favorite Thanksgiving ever.

How does one drive a piping hot turkey around in a car?

[Anonymous]

Her MIL lives nearby, I believe she brought the uncooked turkey over in the AM and cooked it there.

[Anonymous]

This doesn't sound odd or rude to me. Didn't the invite say it was a Holiday Brunch Potluck? Didnt the host say "please write what you'll bring"? Did no one write what they would bring?

I wouldn't go so far as to assign meals to people, but I would send out a reminder: "Thanks for the RSVP! Please comment with what dish you will be bringing as to avoid duplicates. I'll be serving drinks and muffins." And then everyone else brings a salad or egg dish or muffins...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were invited to a holiday brunch party, and the online invitation asked for people to list the dish they would bring once they RSVP’d yes. The party is next weekend and I guess very few people added a dish to the list so now the host is sending out updates and suggesting dishes for people to bring. The host is only supplying dessert it seems, so they are asking for egg dishes, casseroles, fruit salad etc.

I’m all for pitching in for a casual barbecue or things like that, but I feel like if you are going to host a holiday party then you should expect to supply the food. If you want guests to bring something, ask people to bring a dessert or a drink or something where people can pick something up from the store on the way if they need to. . But to supply the main meal? Especially for a brunch where you have to get up early to cook and for things to still be hot after transportation.

It’s not like we’re struggling in our 20s. We’re all late 30s, early 40s professionals.

Why do I feel peeved about this? I know I’m free to RSVP no, but I won’t just on principle. I’ll just vent about it here .

Any easy suggestions for what to bring?

PP again. But the host is hosting a POTLUCK. That is her choice. You could have said no. If you want your food to be supplied at parties, then don't RSVP yes to a potluck.

[Anonymous]

Potluck seems so tacky. Either host a dinner party or not, but don’t ask guests to bring anything. I would never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Potluck seems so tacky. Either host a dinner party or not, but don’t ask guests to bring anything. I would never.

There's nothing inherently tacky about it, especially among friends or a casual crowd, as long as the invitation is clear about expectations. Not everyone can afford to supply all the food for a crowd. They're still going to the effort to organize a party and prepare their home so that everyone can enjoy a nice time.

[Anonymous]

Potluck is fine among good friends. But at all the ones I've been invited to, the host makes at least one entree, plus usually 1-2 other dishes and nobody is asked to make more than the host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Potluck seems so tacky. Either host a dinner party or not, but don’t ask guests to bring anything. I would never.

There's nothing inherently tacky about it, especially among friends or a casual crowd, as long as the invitation is clear about expectations. Not everyone can afford to supply all the food for a crowd. They're still going to the effort to organize a party and prepare their home so that everyone can enjoy a nice time.

Yes, this. I don’t mind potlucks. I’m so grateful when someone opens their home to a party. I’ll gladly bring a dish if it means I don’t have to host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't sound odd or rude to me. Didn't the invite say it was a Holiday Brunch Potluck? Didnt the host say "please write what you'll bring"? Did no one write what they would bring?

I wouldn't go so far as to assign meals to people, but I would send out a reminder: "Thanks for the RSVP! Please comment with what dish you will be bringing as to avoid duplicates. I'll be serving drinks and muffins." And then everyone else brings a salad or egg dish or muffins...

Unless the party is called a potluck or the invitation clearly states this is a “come and bring a dish”this is incredibly rude. It is fine if you are in a social circle where this is common, but clearly that is not the case for the op.

[Anonymous]

This is always a bad idea on the host's part. I went to a BBQ done this way over the summer. They provided hamburgers and suggested everyone else do the rest. Know how that turned out? One side dish (me), SIX DESSERTS. Awesome.

[Anonymous]

I would be happy to supply food I know will be good. Is bringing a casserole a big deal?

[Anonymous]

They aren't a host, they are a mooch. A host shouldn't ask or accept an offer to bring anything.

[Anonymous]

Could be worse. My DH's family assigns specific recipes for us to make. I find it infuriating.

[Anonymous]

I just hosted 45 people. We do the same thing every year - the host/ess provides the main course and some of the drinks (kids stuff and a few bottles of wine). Everyone else brings apps or desserts.

I think it’s very weird to ask guests to bring the main course. How is it even hot?