Can/will this be used against me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you promise not to keep posting, your answer is yes, strip. Sounds very classy. Your kids will be proud.

Classier than defaulting on bills, dontcha think? How's the air up there, by the way?

[Anonymous]

FWIW Op I don't think it could be used against you (I am not an attorney). I'd avoid the obvious pitfalls, such as putting your kids to bed then leaving them unattended to go to work. Keep your kids safe, loved, and well cared for and don't become an addict, you'll be fine in court. You could go as far as documenting every job you apply for in a spreadsheet, the response received, etc, just make sure you're actually putting out a ton of resumés. GL!

[Anonymous]

Oh course. I mean if adultery can be used as a factor in divorce, certainly unmorality on the part of the mother who has sole custody can be. Not to mention the fact that you'll be leaving your children with babysitters, family, or alone for the majority of nights which is something else your husband can use against you - if he wants to sue for custody rights that is.

Have you considered co-habiting with family? Your mother/father for instance?

[Anonymous]

The problem, OP, is you say you have an OK job (fair) but need more money (very fair) and so the alternative you present is stripping. You are getting slammed because you haven't written about the other options you have considered and rejected. Sell the computer you are using before you sell your body.

[Anonymous]

1. Stripping isn't the big deal that some people here make it out to be. But yes, it can be used against you in court.

2. An overnight sitter might eat up alot of your extra income.

3. Stripping is harder than most people think. Don't automatically assume that you will make alot of money because you are a reasonably attractive woman. Most have to work for years before getting high paying gigs.

4. Have you considered something less controversial like waitressing or bartending?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem, OP, is you say you have an OK job (fair) but need more money (very fair) and so the alternative you present is stripping. You are getting slammed because you haven't written about the other options you have considered and rejected. Sell the computer you are using before you sell your body.

I have applied to jobs in my field - marketing, journalism, PR. I've even been applying for front desk and admin positions. I have not gotten any acknowledgement of my applying, much less any interviews. FYI I'm using my phone - I won't get Internet or a computer until I have steadier income. (This should give you an idea of my situation).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh course. I mean if adultery can be used as a factor in divorce, certainly unmorality on the part of the mother who has sole custody can be. Not to mention the fact that you'll be leaving your children with babysitters, family, or alone for the majority of nights which is something else your husband can use against you - if he wants to sue for custody rights that is.

Have you considered co-habiting with family? Your mother/father for instance?

I don't have familial support. I would be working three day shifts a week (am currently working five days a week).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh course. I mean if adultery can be used as a factor in divorce, certainly unmorality on the part of the mother who has sole custody can be. Not to mention the fact that you'll be leaving your children with babysitters, family, or alone for the majority of nights which is something else your husband can use against you - if he wants to sue for custody rights that is.

Have you considered co-habiting with family? Your mother/father for instance?

I don't have familial support. I would be working three day shifts a week (am currently working five days a week).

Okay, well. To be honest I'm not quite sure he would use it against you even if he could...he moved across an ocean, cheated, and pays irregular child support. Doesn't sound like he cares much. Do what you have to support your children but I suggest less drastic options like bartending, waitressing, uber driver first. Also consider being a paralegal - in the DC area you can start off at 45K - 50K and get overtime for longer hours. Also a PA certificate only takes a year and there's a few options in the city.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It probably won't be used against you, but stripping is not simply easy money. You have to almost lose your soul for a few hours to do it. Imagine anybody who walks into a room being able to see your body. You don't get to pick and choose. Then you must be willing to grind on and be gripped by anyone willing to pay a few bucks. I used to strip and I'm so much happier being an educated professional my family can be proud of.

It is not glamorous with tons of easy money.

OP here - I'm not under the impression that it is. I have a girlfriend who used to dance at a NoVA club and still has connections there. She gave me a good idea of what to expect. I'm simply concerned about potential ramifications.

Did she also tell you how much money you'll likely have to put into it? That more likely you'll not make much money or lose money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It probably won't be used against you, but stripping is not simply easy money. You have to almost lose your soul for a few hours to do it. Imagine anybody who walks into a room being able to see your body. You don't get to pick and choose. Then you must be willing to grind on and be gripped by anyone willing to pay a few bucks. I used to strip and I'm so much happier being an educated professional my family can be proud of.

It is not glamorous with tons of easy money.

OP here - I'm not under the impression that it is. I have a girlfriend who used to dance at a NoVA club and still has connections there. She gave me a good idea of what to expect. I'm simply concerned about potential ramifications.

Awesome. Let me know where and when so I can make sure to bump up my tips to help you out. Have you picked out your "stripper name" yet?

[Anonymous]

Here are some answers. But I would google for others. A number of people have asked the same question over the years.

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090625204645AA72wPL

Also you can use a computer at no charge at public libraries. I’m sure that free services are available to help look at your resume and give you tips. One place friends have gone to for free advice overall is the Women’s Center in Vienna, Virginia. If they don’t look at resumes, they should be able to refer you to a place that does.

[Anonymous]

People are posting things that are not accurate legally. Do not take the advice that is given here!

[Anonymous]

A good answer at the top of this page. But verify with a lawyer who knows your full situation.

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20101002191200AARwMff

[Anonymous]

You're fine. Dad cannot get custody of a child based on the mother's profession as long as the mother's profession is legal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It probably won't be used against you, but stripping is not simply easy money. You have to almost lose your soul for a few hours to do it. Imagine anybody who walks into a room being able to see your body. You don't get to pick and choose. Then you must be willing to grind on and be gripped by anyone willing to pay a few bucks. I used to strip and I'm so much happier being an educated professional my family can be proud of.

It is not glamorous with tons of easy money.

OP here - I'm not under the impression that it is. I have a girlfriend who used to dance at a NoVA club and still has connections there. She gave me a good idea of what to expect. I'm simply concerned about potential ramifications.

But you live in Western Maryland. That's a hell of a commute to NoVa.