Petty Vent about MIL
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Anonymous
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How about a baldly-delivered "really??" followed by a displeased look and a long pause. No other response. Then change the subject.
If she complains she's tired, then say and a goodbye tone "well, thanks for coming. Don't let me keep you. Go home and rest up, and we'll see you next time" and then start walking towards the door. |
Anonymous
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I feel for you,, op! I don't know if I would want to leave my house just because MIL stops by unannounced.
Here is an idea: tell your DH to tell his mom not to call him to get permission to see you and child. She MUST call you directly. If she does not call than she is not allowed to drop by. She must get permission first. Once she does that maybe you can invite her over ( on your terms) so she doesn't feel left out. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| Who the hell let her in? Teach your kid not to answer the door, especially for grandma. |
Anonymous
 You don't actually have to leave! Say, you know what, we're going to go potty before we hit the road. Good to see you for a second! Let us know next time! Or drive around the block. 
OR, just stand in the doorway, say it's not a good time, and promise to make plans soon. |
Anonymous
And here's where the fix lies: Your husband needs to respond with one of these 2 responses: "I'll call Suzy. We might have plans tonight, but I can't remember. I'll let you know if there's a good time to stop by." OR "Sorry mom, that won't work. I know Suzy has some errands to run. Let's set up a time when I'm there and you can come by." |
Anonymous
| How about instead of all the return insults, you just commuicate honestly? Whether it is frustration, hurt feelings, etc.. Wow, what a concept. |
Anonymous
| If DH and I are not expecting you, we will not answer the door not unless it's a neighbor. We peep outside to see whose car is parked... if no car, then we know it's a neighbor and it is important. |
Anonymous
We are actually on the same side. There is no reason for the eye roll. What I was saying was if she is in the middle of making dinner it is going to be a pain even to pretend because the MIL will see the pot of tomato sauce ( or whatever) bubbling on the stove. |
Anonymous
Your MIL is annoying and I'd have showed her to the door, but I don't see why your husband can't eat the ribs rather than leftovers if he wants to. |
Anonymous
Op was making dinner. Mil brought leftover ribs. So, dh should eat wife's cooking. Op you should be annoyed with your dh because he didn't call you. Next time, tell him to say I need to talk to my wife first and then I'll call you back |
Anonymous
+1 Why is your DH the conduit for MIL visits when he's not even at home? She should call you directly and then you can say it's not a good time. DH letting his mother tell him she's coming over when he's not even home is not ok. |
Anonymous
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"I would LOVE some help with taking the tree down if you are going to stick around for a while!"
"Oh I'm so glad you stopped by, little Larla is just wiping me out today. Here, can you hold her?" "I'll be sure to let DH know the ribs are here, thank you so much! I'll just finish cooking this; we can have it for left overs." |
Anonymous
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I would of said 'oh! thanks for coming, my hands are full, can you please take down that tree your son has been so busy that he keeps forgetting! ?
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Anonymous
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"Thanks but we're having XXX tonight. If you give me a heads up next time, ribs would be great."
As for the tree, "I see no reason to rush and take it down. It'll happen at some point." And then ignore. |