BF's ex gf shows up as my "people you may know" on FB

[Anonymous]

It's not always because you viewed their profiles. Sometimes I get suggestions for neighbors, and even once I had a suggestion that I friend my tenant, because we have taken photos from the same geolocation. FB just realizes, hey, these people have taken photos in the same place; maybe they know each other!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's because you looked at her profile. A friend and I who aren't FB friends tested this. She looked at my profile but I didn't look at hers. Then I showed up on her list of people she might know but she didn't show up on my list.

That's odd, because I see complete strangers, no mutual friends, showing up in my "people you may know," and I've never viewed their profiles before.

Sometimes Facebook will suggest friends if you have something in common or have been somewhere in common---like if you went to a restaurant at 6pm on a Friday and "checked in" on Facebook, and that same person was also there around the same time and "checked in"--facebook might suggest that the two of you become friends.

Or if both of you "like" the same business or page.

[Anonymous]

I think it has to do with email lists or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's because you looked at her profile.

Agree. I have done searches for old friends and found people who I realized immediately were not them but the fact that I once pulled up their profile leads to them being suggested now and then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not OP but sometimes I have ZERO friends in common and people still show up.

Do you have their phone number in your contacts? Or an email address in your email account? If so, they might show up. This happened when my DH stored our nanny's name in his phone, she popped up on FB for him to friend. I had her stored as "Lisa Nanny" and she did not pop up for me.

[Anonymous]

I have thought about this recently. My ex and I got into a big fight one morning before I left town for work. By the time she dropped me off at the train station, we had already been close to making up. On the train, we'd made up more. By the time I had gotten to my destination we were back on track and making up, apologizing, etc.
I kid you not, the last thing I did on FB that night was say goodnight to her. AS I WAS LOGGING OUT, the guy that she had a 'relationship' with popped up as a "person I may know". Only recently have I thought that maybe she communicated with him that day as I was on the train and perhaps that is why his face popped up in my feed. It was the last thing that night.
And then...we got into an even BIGGER fight. I was livid.

[Anonymous]

I often get total strangers although we may have a friend in common, I have also gotten people I did know but they've been dead for awhile, the worst one was my ex BF's current GF who he cheated on me with and dumped me for, that stings a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have thought about this recently. My ex and I got into a big fight one morning before I left town for work. By the time she dropped me off at the train station, we had already been close to making up. On the train, we'd made up more. By the time I had gotten to my destination we were back on track and making up, apologizing, etc.
I kid you not, the last thing I did on FB that night was say goodnight to her. AS I WAS LOGGING OUT, the guy that she had a 'relationship' with popped up as a "person I may know". Only recently have I thought that maybe she communicated with him that day as I was on the train and perhaps that is why his face popped up in my feed. It was the last thing that night.
And then...we got into an even BIGGER fight. I was livid.

I didn't know middle schoolers travel for work ....

[Anonymous]

You could just make friends with her, OP.

Why not? She might be a very nice person.

[Anonymous]

I think sometimes it’s also that you were near them for awhile. Like our lawn guy showed up
In mine. I doubt he looked me up so it’s probably that our phones are active at the same time near each other.

But also yes, you have mutual friends or she’s been peeping on you too. Everyone does it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not OP but sometimes I have ZERO friends in common and people still show up.

I literally have zero fb friends and I never/have never looked anyone or anything up on fb. The people you may know tab has easily 1,000 people listed. Scrolling through it, I see people who have the same last name as people in the 2 groups I belong to. I see people who are in similar types of groups to the 2 groups I'm in. I see no one I actually know irl. My fb name is a pseudonym and my profile picture is nondescript. My page has never been updated. Why am I on fb?

[Anonymous]

You have the BF in common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's bad. I thought the whole point of FB was that no one would know who you look at. If you show up in people you may know just for looking at their profile, that kind defeats the whole point. Now I regret looking up anyone I'm not friends with--- happens often.

Where in the world did you get this idea?

[Anonymous]

You have friends in common. You would be surprised how personal networks intersect.

[Anonymous]

It definitely does not have to mean that they've looked at your profile.

I keep getting 'People You May Know' for a young neighbor who passed away a few months ago in an accident. I wish it would stop.