Should I Say Something to the Coaches?
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Anonymous
Calm down, Muffy. No need to yell. I've never heard there's a rule that you can't speak to 9 year olds goofing off during a REC practice? I've done it sports practice, at Cub Scouts and at school when a teacher wasn't available/around/engaged in something else. If those kids are interfering with those wishing to be coached or listen, I'll speak up. If the coach has got a problem with it, I'd be happy to get the feedback - but the coach will then get some of mine. |
Anonymous
| Maybe the coach needs help...like from you. Maybe you and the other parents should volunteer during practices to help rather than use it as babysitting for your poorly behaved children. |
Anonymous
Offer to help instead of complaining, because it's not easy being the volunteer coach 
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Anonymous
| i used to coach a bunch of kids like that. that are now 13 and are much better but i did tlak to them and the parents about the behavior. I said I am not a day care so please have them here ready to learn and have fun and it worked out for the best. |
Anonymous
who's complaining? |
Anonymous
Whoa. I'm just trying to figure the scene here. A dozen 9 year old boys, two daddy coaches, and ten parents on the sideline watching/chatting. My kid is goofing around and you think its okay to yell at my kid from the sidelines? Fuck you. Talk to the coach between practices and offer to help. If he/she agrees, then ask specifically what they want you to do. But don't overstep boundaries. What you'rr suggesting is way over the line. You sound like an obnoxious asshole. Seriously, if you can do a better job, then get off your ass and volunteer your time to coach a dozen 10 year olds. Otherwise, continue sitting on the sidelines and keep your mouth shut. |
Anonymous
I see the problem. It's you, First you yell and then you curse. This clearly is a sensitive issue for you and it shows in your perspective. Your kid is goofing around but you don't say anything to him. Another parent tells the kids (kids, not calling your little Larlo by name) to quit goofing off and pay attention and you think that parent is yelling at your kid. Wow. And, if I do tell the kids to quit goofing around, how would you know whether I've already spoken to the coach or not? Should I make a general announcement before each practice so you don't tell me to fuck off in front of the kids? |
Anonymous
hate to say it but this is so true. I criticized the coaches once and the guy turned to me and said well if you want to volunteer to coach then do it. And he was right of course and I have kept my mouth shut since then. |
Anonymous
no! i wasn't going to criticize or complain to the coaches! i guess i titled the thread terribly. i was thinking of asking if they'd like us parents to say something to our kids about taking the practices more seriously. |
Anonymous
| I dunno. If you volunteer, you should still do a good job or at least ask for help when you're in over your head. Is there an assistant coach? Sounds frustrating. Maybe have your kid tryout for a select team? |
Anonymous
well, hopefully you know these coaches and know whether they will take this as helpful or be an implicit criticism of the way they are handling the team. |
Anonymous
No, you are criticizing them by overstepping boundaries and trying to affect practice. Listen- if you know how to run a practice and keep 12 nine year olds focused, then get off your ass and volunteer to coach a team. Or talk to the coach and help out. But you're going to yell at another parent's kid from the sideline? Get over yourself. There are typically two types of parents- those who sit on the sidelines and watch every practice but do NOTHING to help and those who drop off the kids and disappear. There are very few parents who actually help out. I can guarantee the coaches would love two or three parents with skill and knowledge to help and break into smaller groups. Instead, you've got a couple volunteer dads trying to herd cats a couple times a week. Listen, I think practices should be structured well, broken into small segments to keep practices from getting boring, especially at that age. My guess is the kids were screwing around because the coach was doing something boring or for too long a time. Instead of yelling at the kids, its far more productive to keep the kids engaged in a specific activity so you dno't have to yell in the first place. Pretty hard to screw around when you have only 10 minutes to run a specific drill. But you're not helping with that, are you? You're sitting on the sideline and being judgemental about kids' behavior and the coaches' inability to maintain order. Here's what will help- get off your ass and help coach. Otherwise, shut your mouth. Its a REC LEAGUE FOR NINE YEAR OLD BOYS. Parents like you are why coaches quit. |
Anonymous
bored on a fri pm, troll? that's fine, let me feed you some more. |
Anonymous
Pretty tough to tell who's saying what on an anonymous forum but that rant was directed at this comment. Talking to coaches between practices or games should be encouraged and welcomed. But if you're not willing to do any heavy lifting with running a practice then don't interject your opinion about what's going on. |
Anonymous
that's very unfair. Although he got up on his high horse a bit, I know several coaches who would agree with him -- if you want to help out then volunteer, not sit on the sidelines and snipe a the way the unpaid, volunteer coaches are doing their jobs. |