Sister-in-law doesn't care about DS

[Anonymous]

I would do whatever is most helpful to your brother, since it sounds like he needs all the help he can get. But don't expect anything in return from SIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Couple things.

Regarding mean SIL etc.--I would talk to them and say -I notice that you never inquire about my family and that you feel hurt and look for a response. Sometimes people get a bit self centered and direct questioning will turn a light on an can act as a catalyst for change. If they give you a snotty answer you have some closure. It might also open up some long forgotten wrong on your part that they perceive and maybe communication can be opened and resolved.

Regarding the 10 year "bratty kids"--I am troubled by this response. In my expererience when kids act out there is usually some kind of underlying reason and just calling a kid a brat is the easy way out. Most likely something is going on in their household and rather than name calling a kid even on an anoymous website is "bratty" in your own right. I would continue to act kind and you may find out years later when the "bratty" kids have grown up that your kindness when they were going through a tough time was appreciated. Seriously werren't we all "bratty" at some point in our lives?

I am the one that posted about my nieces being bratty.
What would you call 8 and 10 year old girls that NEVER say hello when they enter your house or give you a hug - all they say is "where is the computer so we can play our video games"
When you ask what do you think of your new baby cousin and the response is "I have enough cousins and hate them"
When you give them a gift - they snatch it out of your hand and dont say thank you.
They run around your house and ruin things and put things in other places
When you are setting up a buffet of food - they mess it up before other guests come and wont eat out of a plate that they give them to tie them over
When you tell them to quite down bc they are waking up the babies - they say "SO WHAT?....(In my house!!!)
They walk around my house looking at the nice things and make comments like ' oh you must be rich!! SOOOO RUDE!!!

Perhaps there is some issues in the house and the mother has no control but in my opinion at this age - you should at least have respect for others and no better. If not then there are going to be some SERIOUS issues in a few years when they become teens and have learned no manners. I still think they are bratty and it is the mothers fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Couple things.

Regarding mean SIL etc.--I would talk to them and say -I notice that you never inquire about my family and that you feel hurt and look for a response. Sometimes people get a bit self centered and direct questioning will turn a light on an can act as a catalyst for change. If they give you a snotty answer you have some closure. It might also open up some long forgotten wrong on your part that they perceive and maybe communication can be opened and resolved.

Regarding the 10 year "bratty kids"--I am troubled by this response. In my expererience when kids act out there is usually some kind of underlying reason and just calling a kid a brat is the easy way out. Most likely something is going on in their household and rather than name calling a kid even on an anoymous website is "bratty" in your own right. I would continue to act kind and you may find out years later when the "bratty" kids have grown up that your kindness when they were going through a tough time was appreciated. Seriously werren't we all "bratty" at some point in our lives?

Underlying reason = parents that don't know how to parent.

[Anonymous]

Why would anyone tolerate such behavior from their nieces? When folks come to my house they abide by MY rules, especially children. They surely would not be allowed to ruin my buffet or damage my nice things. I would call them on their rudeness too. I guess you're not black, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would anyone tolerate such behavior from their nieces? When folks come to my house they abide by MY rules, especially children. They surely would not be allowed to ruin my buffet or damage my nice things. I would call them on their rudeness too. I guess you're not black, huh?

What does this mean? Are you suggesting black parents have no discipline problems?