unmarried and IVF

[Anonymous]

Hi 12:25. Your post put a on my face. Thanks. And- YES- brest lick to both of us!

[Anonymous]

"best of luck" !!!!!

[Anonymous]

on my face!!!

[Anonymous]

MDIPA did require a copy of our marriage certificate.

If I had known I was infertile before I got married, I'm not sure we would have gone through with it. Get some premarital counseling before you run to city hall and be sure to talk through the what ifs. I know we talked about kids generally (yes, we wanted them), but there was no discussion about what life might be like without biological kids.

[jindc]

at what point do they ask for the marriage certificate? We're trying to start a cycle in January - should I send them a copy right away in January?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP^^ Many plans require that the couple be married and that they are using W's eggs and H's sperm or it's not covered. They actually want to see the marriage license. I know I had to fax mine in.

OMG that sucks! Mine did not require anything like that.

[Anonymous]

JinDC: Your clinic will do the authorization paperwork for MDIPA--at some point, your nurse or the insurance person will tell you to fax the marriage certificate to her and they'll submit it to MDIPA. MDIPA does not want to talk to you directly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MDIPA did require a copy of our marriage certificate.

If I had known I was infertile before I got married, I'm not sure we would have gone through with it. Get some premarital counseling before you run to city hall and be sure to talk through the what ifs. I know we talked about kids generally (yes, we wanted them), but there was no discussion about what life might be like without biological kids.

OP here. The benefit of being together for many years before marriage and going through several Clomid and IUI cycles together before even being engaged is that we have had a lot of time to have this discussion. My SO DID have to think it through and consider pros and cons before feeling ready to get married. And I needed to know he had done so. I still hope (and even pray) I can bring a little him into this world but, as best we know, think we'll stick it out together either way. But I DO understand your sentiment. Part of the reason I wish that the certificate wasn't important was that I'd like to know before marriage where this fertility story ends.

[jindc]

Anonymous wrote:JinDC: Your clinic will do the authorization paperwork for MDIPA--at some point, your nurse or the insurance person will tell you to fax the marriage certificate to her and they'll submit it to MDIPA. MDIPA does not want to talk to you directly.

Thanks for the info!
(I likely don't want to chat with them, either )