s / o on lesbian id thread - question for lesbians

[Anonymous]

Introduce her to The Blade, as the PP suggested and take her to events. The women's bars downtown are not that inviting, in my opinion. Going without a group can be downright boring.

Freddie's, which is a restaurant and bar in Pentagon City, is alright. It's usually 75% men/25% women...some of which are straight women. The atmosphere can be fun. I've been meaning to find some friends and check out trivia night there.

[Anonymous]

Age is really important.

[Anonymous]

OP here. THANK YOU! This is great. Her visit is not yet set here so I may invite her to the LGBT film fest if we can both make it work in our schedules. What a great idea.

She'll be 40 this fall and she most certainly would have more in common with the coupled-up folks than she would with younger hipsters at a bar. If there is a bar that is more laid back, with older women, ideally kind of sporty (she loves sports) bar or even a sporting event, that would be great I think. A thumping club scene, however, would be hilariously not "her." (she's definitely not a hipster).

Anyway, my cousin has spent the last 10 or so years with someone all wrong for her and previously when she's considered breaking things off, she's gotten drawn back in - she really loved this woman deeply and I'm afraid it was clear that the partner was nowhere near as emotionally involved at any point, but had her own reasons for drawing my cousin back in. But anyway.

I do think she is finally ready to fully move on with her life now. I'd like to help and fully support her because she is one of the kindest individuals I know. PP is definitely right that she will want to hang with us (she's a really great aunt to my kids) and do some touristy things but I get a strong sense that she'd like to get out there a little bit and meet people. If nothing else, it might lead to some friends who have nothing to do with her former partner. (And if those friends happened to have a friend who happened to be single and kind and perfect for my cousin, all the better, but that's not necessarily the objective). I really do think the film festival sounds perfect, because that would probably attract people from all stages.

I really appreciate all of you taking the time to respond. So nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Introduce her to The Blade, as the PP suggested and take her to events. The women's bars downtown are not that inviting, in my opinion. Going without a group can be downright boring.

Freddie's, which is a restaurant and bar in Pentagon City, is alright. It's usually 75% men/25% women...some of which are straight women. The atmosphere can be fun. I've been meaning to find some friends and check out trivia night there.

OP here - that's also something I think she'd like. What is the age group like at Freddies? Sorry if someone already mentioned.

[Anonymous]

I've also heard good things about Nellie's Sports Bar on/near U St. as a laid-back place, I think mostly gay men but also lesbians. Unfortunately, we never go out anymore so I haven't been there!

[Anonymous]

See what the Washington Mystics schedule is. In the past they may have had a special lesbian night, but they definitely have a lot of lesbian fans, so that would be a fun thing for her and your family if you all like watching basketball.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:See what the Washington Mystics schedule is. In the past they may have had a special lesbian night, but they definitely have a lot of lesbian fans, so that would be a fun thing for her and your family if you all like watching basketball.

Great idea, thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Introduce her to The Blade, as the PP suggested and take her to events. The women's bars downtown are not that inviting, in my opinion. Going without a group can be downright boring.

Freddie's, which is a restaurant and bar in Pentagon City, is alright. It's usually 75% men/25% women...some of which are straight women. The atmosphere can be fun. I've been meaning to find some friends and check out trivia night there.

OP here - that's also something I think she'd like. What is the age group like at Freddies? Sorry if someone already mentioned.

It's nice mix of ages. I'd say the biggest number of people are in their late 20's-mid 30s, but there are some older and some younger. I certainly don't feel like my friends and I (30's-50s) are out of place when we go.