Embarrassed about thoughts I had about my husbands friend and my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP do you take care of business yourself? Most women do, and they aren't always thinking of their partners.

In fact, they usually aren’t after a few years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is more fun if you tell us what your fantasy was.

Op here. It’s just 1,2,3.

I'm actually cringing at how weird you are about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is more fun if you tell us what your fantasy was.

Op here. It’s just 1,2,3.

I'm actually cringing at how weird you are about this.

I'm guessing OP has only been with her DH.

[Anonymous]

I’ve had other partners but not in my marriage - I love my husband so much but sometimes wish there was room for exploration. Even if we just discuss it. I slightly brought it up and he shut me down right away.

But yes, I’ve never been to Paris but would like to. I wish I could clone my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had other partners but not in my marriage - I love my husband so much but sometimes wish there was room for exploration. Even if we just discuss it. I slightly brought it up and he shut me down right away.

But yes, I’ve never been to Paris but would like to. I wish I could clone my husband.

Find another couple to play with. This will equalize it for your husband. Then let the two men make you the center of attention while the other wife watches during a rest break.

Good luck. 👌

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Baby.

It would be abnormal NOT to have such fantasies.

Everyone has them. You're late to the party.

The issue is that she is essentially reliving the fantasy and seeking validation for it by posting about it to internet strangers rather than discussing it with her husband or her own therapist in private.

Women who seek validation for these kinds of fantasies also tend to try to make them a reality. There is no doubt she was heavily flirting with the friend perhaps under her husband's nose and outside his awareness.. If she told her husband he would immediately shut it down and perhaps end the friendship or at least ask her to go to therapy Jer concealing it from her husband is not white cheating but it is emotional deception. He has a right to know that the son called fantasy involves a real person in her social circle that she can access to and escalate whenever she decides to.

You put way too much thought into this non event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had other partners but not in my marriage - I love my husband so much but sometimes wish there was room for exploration. Even if we just discuss it. I slightly brought it up and he shut me down right away.

But yes, I’ve never been to Paris but would like to. I wish I could clone my husband.

Find another couple to play with. This will equalize it for your husband. Then let the two men make you the center of attention while the other wife watches during a rest break.

Good luck. 👌

This. Stick with it, it will work.

[Anonymous]

You don’t need to be ashamed of fantasies, acting on them if you and your husband have agreed to be monogamous, is a serious problem.

I once had a Catholic nun tell me she was very attracted to a man she was working with, I questioned whether it was ok given her vows of celibacy. She said “I may be on a diet but I’m allowed to look at the menu.”

[Anonymous]

You husband has fantasized about your friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t need to be ashamed of fantasies, acting on them if you and your husband have agreed to be monogamous, is a serious problem.

I once had a Catholic nun tell me she was very attracted to a man she was working with, I questioned whether it was ok given her vows of celibacy. She said “I may be on a diet but I’m allowed to look at the menu.”

Op here, thank you!! I really appreciate this perspective!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Baby.

It would be abnormal NOT to have such fantasies.

Everyone has them. You're late to the party.

It’s normal to fantasize about your DH and another dude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a fantasy pop into my head about my husband’s friend and the three of us. I’d had three glasses of wine at a barbecue, and we were playing a silly adults only card game with a lot of innuendo.

I woke up this morning and feel embarrassed and ashamed. The fantasy is always better than the reality, I love my husband and we have a very active intimate life.

Just wondering if anyone else had experienced the same … or had other fantasies that never came to fruition.

Tell your husband.

[Anonymous]

It's funny you said that. I am in my early 30s and had the same fantasy 2 years ago with my DH. I ended up explaining it to him and to my surprise he made it happen. It wasn't his friend but someone that looks like him and we ended up having DP and good play. we still get engaged in this from time to time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Baby.

It would be abnormal NOT to have such fantasies.

Everyone has them. You're late to the party.

The issue is that she is essentially reliving the fantasy and seeking validation for it by posting about it to internet strangers rather than discussing it with her husband or her own therapist in private.

Women who seek validation for these kinds of fantasies also tend to try to make them a reality. There is no doubt she was heavily flirting with the friend perhaps under her husband's nose and outside his awareness.. If she told her husband he would immediately shut it down and perhaps end the friendship or at least ask her to go to therapy Jer concealing it from her husband is not white cheating but it is emotional deception. He has a right to know that the son called fantasy involves a real person in her social circle that she can access to and escalate whenever she decides to.

Well you’re no fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is more fun if you tell us what your fantasy was.

Op here. It’s just 1,2,3.

I'm actually cringing at how weird you are about this.

Why such a jerk about this? it’s cute and charming and yes, sexy. Why not encourage OP?