Hosting husband's family member for 6 days, she wants to extend another two days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I'm a people pleaser and would have to make up a story. Maybe you are more direct than me but don't feel bad if you have to tell a white lie!

Feign work travel and also that your car is needed.

Honestly I would go stay at a local hotel (with my car) to get out of this.

I thought I would be more sympathetic to the aunt until I read the post!

WFHotel
Husband can mange aunt

I think you’re wise to appreciate that while she’s a PITA she’s well meaning and the only paternal relative invested in your son. At the same time, you’ ve clearly reached your limit. This seems like the best solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to suck up the extra 2 days, DH needs to do EVERYTHING with respect to dealing with her, and you need to think carefully before hosting her again.

Normally I would agree that it’s each spouse’s responsibility to take the lead in managing visits by their family of origin, but OP specifically says that she was the one who opted to invite the aunt (despite being well aware that she’s a challenging guest). In this case I think the burden should be on her to deal with the consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to suck up the extra 2 days, DH needs to do EVERYTHING with respect to dealing with her, and you need to think carefully before hosting her again.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why isn't your husband helping?

This FFS

[Anonymous]

She asked. You could have said no, anytime along the way. To anything

Except, it should be your DH that says it

[Anonymous]

So sorry Betty. I have already pushed so many things out because of your extended stay. I simply can’t take away any more time. We have commitments and work that simply has to get done. I can drop you at Rob’s on Wednesday evening, or you can stay with friends. Thank you for understanding.

[Anonymous]

She sounds awful. OP why do you want her interested in your son? Is she a positive force In his life?
Is there an inheritance?
GO TO A HOTEL.

[Anonymous]

Another tired post from a DW who has no spine and is clueless. Or you are a troll. Tell your DH to deal with Aunt and stop complaining. No one wants to hear this same tired thread. DH’s aunt is not your problem unless you are bored and decide to make it your problem.

[Anonymous]

I would pay for the return flight and never allow her to stay again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another tired post from a DW who has no spine and is clueless. Or you are a troll. Tell your DH to deal with Aunt and stop complaining. No one wants to hear this same tired thread. DH’s aunt is not your problem unless you are bored and decide to make it your problem.

OP made it her problem by inviting her! The DH didn’t do it.

[Anonymous]

I call BS on this whole story. Nobody, regardless of what you hear in an urban legend about white people, actually puts raisins in potato salad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to suck up the extra 2 days, DH needs to do EVERYTHING with respect to dealing with her, and you need to think carefully before hosting her again.

This

+1. It will go by before you know it.

[Anonymous]

Where is your husband?

[Anonymous]

We have a three night maximum rule for anyone who isn’t our child. It’s been great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Out of curiosity, what does the return day matter? Is there a reason she needs to travel back on a specific day?

I think you can tell her that you have an important work meeting and you need to prepare for the next couple of days and you won’t be able to make those extra two days work. But, why doesn’t your husband step up?

She has stayed for 6 days so far. She is supposed to leave tomorrow. She wants to stay an additional two days after tomorrow to visit with her friends.

Nope she could have visited with them last week. She can check into a hotel.