After about 70 - all female widows?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My dad is 70 and a widower. He has said a lot of widows he has met aren’t interested in new relationships with men.

My dad moved into a 55+ community at 73, about 8 years after my mom died. When he moved in, he said single women outnumbered single men 8:1 – he was a very hot commodity as a healthy, fit, attractive guy. Everyone had a widow friend they wanted to fix him up with, but he wasn't interested in dating. Eventually, he met a very nice widow and they enjoy each other's company and travel frequently, but they have zero intention of living together or remarrying. There's no attempt at blending families and no caregiving obligation beyond what you'd do for a good friend. It seems to be a good balance.

That is a nice balance! What a blessing that they aren’t remarrying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, there are many female widows; men don't live as long usually and most women marry older men.

Most women I know outlived their husbands but of course there are exceptions. My cousin's father outlived his wife for 40 years (she had cancer). Jimmy Carter outlived his wife and he was older.

All widows are female. Widowers are male.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doctors are routinely telling 70 year olds to expect another 30 years

Oh jeez I hope not. My mom is 74 and already miserable. I can't take another 30 years.

[Anonymous]

My friend, who is 54, recently started dating a 76 year old man. He is fit and active, but I wonder why he doesn't date same age women. I know many 70+ year old women who are attractive and healthy and they can't find any men their age. My friend is definitely looking for a father figure..her last man was 30 years older. I think her new man is missing out by not dating closer to his age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men and women are now closer in age at the time of marriage than 50 years ago, so I think the gender gap may close some as time goes on.

I don't know if that's true (a 2-3 year gap was pretty common 50 years ago and still is) but regardless, men still die at younger ages than women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad is 70 and a widower. He has said a lot of widows he has met aren’t interested in new relationships with men.

My dad moved into a 55+ community at 73, about 8 years after my mom died. When he moved in, he said single women outnumbered single men 8:1 – he was a very hot commodity as a healthy, fit, attractive guy. Everyone had a widow friend they wanted to fix him up with, but he wasn't interested in dating. Eventually, he met a very nice widow and they enjoy each other's company and travel frequently, but they have zero intention of living together or remarrying. There's no attempt at blending families and no caregiving obligation beyond what you'd do for a good friend. It seems to be a good balance.

I hope my dad finds someone like that! He is very independent, good health, active, cooks, does laundry etc. and has a hard time sitting down and relaxing. He misses having someone to talk to and travel with. It’s just not the same with male friends I guess. If my mom had outlived him, I highly doubt she would have any interest in another man!

[Anonymous]

Don’t live to 98, at least one problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend, who is 54, recently started dating a 76 year old man. He is fit and active, but I wonder why he doesn't date same age women. I know many 70+ year old women who are attractive and healthy and they can't find any men their age. My friend is definitely looking for a father figure..her last man was 30 years older. I think her new man is missing out by not dating closer to his age.

Seriously you don’t know why?! Everyone likes a young body, duh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doctors are routinely telling 70 year olds to expect another 30 years

Oh jeez I hope not. My mom is 74 and already miserable. I can't take another 30 years.

My sentiment exactly about my father. I’ll be 70 if he lives to 100, no way I want to deal with him another 20 years!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend, who is 54, recently started dating a 76 year old man. He is fit and active, but I wonder why he doesn't date same age women. I know many 70+ year old women who are attractive and healthy and they can't find any men their age. My friend is definitely looking for a father figure..her last man was 30 years older. I think her new man is missing out by not dating closer to his age.

Seriously you don’t know why?! Everyone likes a young body, duh!

54 is not young, just younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you been to a nursing home? There are so very few men. I bet 85-90% female. My grandpa-in-law is in a nursing home and is in a male wing. So he does have friends and other men near him. But my grandmas nursing home doesn’t have a single man.

Not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doctors are routinely telling 70 year olds to expect another 30 years

Oh jeez I hope not. My mom is 74 and already miserable. I can't take another 30 years.

You go first then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doctors are routinely telling 70 year olds to expect another 30 years

Oh jeez I hope not. My mom is 74 and already miserable. I can't take another 30 years.

My sentiment exactly about my father. I’ll be 70 if he lives to 100, no way I want to deal with him another 20 years!

Solidarity, sister.

[Anonymous]

My mom is in her late 70s days. The husbands of her friends have been dropping like flies just within the past two or three years. A lot of these husbands have had health issues for a while.

[Anonymous]

But I bet they are older, older than the women