“Counseled out” for ADHD?

[Anonymous]

Of course you tell the school.

[Anonymous]

If you got a rating scale from the teacher then the school probably has figured out you are getting your kid assessed.

Since your kid is doing well academically then do NOT tell the school. The teacher will automatically start focusing on how your child is behaving. Three kids could be distracted but the teacher is only going to remember your child was distracted.

If you are going to medicate your child then it is also better not to tell the teacher so you get back unbiased feedback.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:EVERY private school has kids with ADHD. Every single school. You will not be counseled out unless your child’s needs cannot adequately be addressed by the school. No one is getting counseled out for inattention. Schools are concerned about behavior issues that impact the classroom.

+1. The behavior is what matters, not the diagnosis.

[Anonymous]

I disagree with most of these. Of course you tell the school. They already know anyways.”Inattentive behavior” is code for ADHD.

They tell you because they want you to help your child by medicating them. With a diagnosis, they will probably make accommodations like preferential seating.

The only time ADHD causes an issue is if your kid is hyperactive/a behavior problem. It doesn’t sound like that’s the case.

Also-if the school isn’t interested in supporting/helping your child, do you really want him/her to be there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your schools are counseling out well behaved thriving kids diagnosed with ADHD your at the wrong school. So many kids have ADHD. We’ve have kids with ADHD at different schools and they have all been great!

This

We are at a private ( not a big 3) and they have been amazing. They came up with the accommodation plan, I reviewed it, added a couple things and it’s been in place for 2 years.
Didnt even occur to me we might be asked to leave. Do whats right for your kid OP

[Anonymous]

Your kid needs the school to know so that they get the accommodations and care they need. If there are not at the best school for their needs, then you should want them to be somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

Big pharma is in like Flynn with the amphetamines for children business in education. They will get a crackhead for life if parents are soft on perma dope.

[Anonymous]

If teachers are telling you about “inattentive behavior” they are hoping you will help address this. I would speak up so school knows you care and are invested in your child’s success in school versus ignoring the issue.

Often it seems the families counseled out are those who expect school to handle their children’s challenges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If teachers are telling you about “inattentive behavior” they are hoping you will help address this. I would speak up so school knows you care and are invested in your child’s success in school versus ignoring the issue.

Often it seems the families counseled out are those who expect school to handle their children’s challenges.

+1

[Anonymous]

if you don't tell the school and partner with them, the likelihood of being counseled out increases

[Anonymous]

We told our K-8 nearly immediately, and have gotten great support and partnership from teachers and administration for several years so far. We wouldn't have known to pursue a diagnosis if not for teacher comments during DC's K year. If sharing the diagnosis were to get us counseled out, then the school would not be the right fit for our child, and we'd rather know that than not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:EVERY private school has kids with ADHD. Every single school. You will not be counseled out unless your child’s needs cannot adequately be addressed by the school. No one is getting counseled out for inattention. Schools are concerned about behavior issues that impact the classroom.

+1. The behavior is what matters, not the diagnosis.

This, exactly. Any hyperactive, low-impulse control kids will have a harder time than the inattentive kids.

[Anonymous]

What counts as inattentive behavior at this age? I have an 8 year old boy who doesn’t always read all directions and his desk is a disaster, his behavior can be silly once in a while and the teacher said, “Yes, he is an 8 year old boy!”

[Anonymous]

I continually struggle to understand why people think private schools are good.

[Anonymous]

How is private schools doing this not considered discriminatory?