Bullying what’s the responsibility of the school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My high schooler was approached by a group of peers and words were said and his property was damaged. One instigator slapped his hand and knocked his phone to the ground breaking it. There were patterns of micro-aggressions prior to the incident. It happened outside of school but one of the kids reported it to administration. We did not know that this happened and the admin never informed us. The confrontations have escalated since then and spilled on to the school property. Are there any rules that the schools at MCPS must investigate or inform the parents when they learn of instances of bullying even if it happened outside of school?

Outside of school grounds MCPS has no skin in the game.

You sue the parents of the minor for the money to replace property damaged
If they put their hands on your kid you file a police report for assault.

Anything happening in school then yes MCPS has a responsibility to protect your kid. You march your butt to the principals office and you ask them for their plan they are to write it down or you will sue.

[Anonymous]

I’d request a cosa and demand a school change. File a police report as it was off campus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d request a cosa and demand a school change. File a police report as it was off campus.

COSA for the other kid. Why make your life more inconvenient and make your kid who was bullied move schools and make new friends? make the other kids life inconvenient instead.

yes police
yes sue

and yes go to pound town. kick their parents ass too

[Anonymous]

IME, for the most part, MCPS will not get involved in things that happen outside of school. There are exceptions. Like when kids set up an online account that purports to be school related that cyber bullies a kid. Or when a kid elopes from school. But for things that happen in school, you will be told.

I see all of the suggestions here involve retribution. But honestly, I found that working together with both the school and the community policing, good outcomes were the result. If you have a child that is being bullied, I suggest getting involved with the school. Get to know the important people - principal, assistant principal, counselor, and office staff. Form direct lines of communication. Address problems before they get out of hand.

I also found it important to listen to their feedback when it came to my kid. It's always hard to hear the negative. But, my kid needed to learn some social skills and needed to avoid some groups of kids, which was very doable with the school's input and assistance.

[Anonymous]

Alot of times administration bullies the teachers wanting more more more. They will retaliate if you point out the school violence though. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't your time be better spent teaching your child to de-escalate situations than finding out which adult you can place blame on?

This is OP. As I said the bullying has escalated and I am trying to figure out what the school’s responsibility to inform the parents if they learn of an incident outside of school. If I needed advice on how to teach my kid to escalate, I would have made a separate post.

I think when the initial assault happened and there was the destruction of property that the police should’ve been notified. At least you could’ve tried to get compensation for the phone. Since the bullying is escalating, you would have had some kind of external documentation. The schools rarely notify parents.

[Anonymous]

Who reported the initial incident? Your child or another kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who reported the initial incident? Your child or another kid?

Also meant to add, who did they report it to? The principal, a guidance counselor etc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't your time be better spent teaching your child to de-escalate situations than finding out which adult you can place blame on?

This is OP. As I said the bullying has escalated and I am trying to figure out what the school’s responsibility to inform the parents if they learn of an incident outside of school. If I needed advice on how to teach my kid to escalate, I would have made a separate post.

You need to submit a bullying form. Unless something is in writing MCPS won’t do anything about it. Even if it is, they probably won’t, but that’s the first step. When my kid was attacked out of the blue they did “restorative justice” and forced her to eat lunch with the girl who attacked her for a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:check these two articles out. MCPS won't help you.

https://www.mymcmedia.org/mcps-parent-speaks-out-after-student-injuries-raises-bullying-concerns/

https://www.mymcmedia.org/student-suffers-stroke-faces-major-surgery-following-mcps-gym-class-incident/

Wow, in both cases the bullies are girls bullying boys..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who reported the initial incident? Your child or another kid?

Also meant to add, who did they report it to? The principal, a guidance counselor etc?

Reported by a kid to a teacher to reported it to admin and SRO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d request a cosa and demand a school change. File a police report as it was off campus.

COSA for the other kid. Why make your life more inconvenient and make your kid who was bullied move schools and make new friends? make the other kids life inconvenient instead.

yes police
yes sue

and yes go to pound town. kick their parents ass too

They aren't going to move the other child. Protect yours by moving them.