Someone that can't communicate clearly / gaslights

[Anonymous]

I work with a person who has, according to them, has ADHD, dyslexia, and an extreme introvert. Individuals talks so much about everything they can't keep their story straight. Where most people would think things through before speaking, do research, & document this individual projectilely vomits every thought. May not be intentionally malicious but has the same affect on those that have to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

That’s why with certain people I follow up a meeting or a phone call with an email that summarizes everything discussed and agreed upon, asking for clarification if there’s anything I did not capture correctly. At least then I have proof.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s why with certain people I follow up a meeting or a phone call with an email that summarizes everything discussed and agreed upon, asking for clarification if there’s anything I did not capture correctly. At least then I have proof.

I know of people who when given proof that has been documented, refute that proof and say it was not originally meant to be that way and they have their own proof too but don't produce that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to need an example to be sure you're using the word "gaslight" correctly. Most people don't know what it actually means and use the word wrong.

It's possible you're just describing a dick.

Well the person, after signing a contract to completely redesign something said that they never wanted to redesign it and wanted to keep the original. Every conversation has been recorded by AI note takers so it's not like there isn't very specific proof that this isn't true besides the contract. I will say that gaslighting in the modern age is very easy to prove but the person still does it. Just bizarre.

That is not gaslighting.

It is, because they are saying something didn't happen, when it did. Then the person on the receiving end questions themselves, thinking that maybe they misread or misunderstood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to need an example to be sure you're using the word "gaslight" correctly. Most people don't know what it actually means and use the word wrong.

It's possible you're just describing a dick.

Well the person, after signing a contract to completely redesign something said that they never wanted to redesign it and wanted to keep the original. Every conversation has been recorded by AI note takers so it's not like there isn't very specific proof that this isn't true besides the contract. I will say that gaslighting in the modern age is very easy to prove but the person still does it. Just bizarre.

That is not gaslighting.

It is, because they are saying something didn't happen, when it did. Then the person on the receiving end questions themselves, thinking that maybe they misread or misunderstood.

Well, no. There's nothing in the description of the scenario where the person signing the contract is deliberately trying to make someone else think it's all in their head. It's just someone contradicting themselves. To the degree the person on the receiving end internalizes it and questions themselves, that sounds more like hypersensitivity or something. In other words, gaslighting involves malice -- I don't see any malice in the situation as described, rather just a fool who apparently doesn't know what he wants.