Do you know someone whi talks too much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't we all know people who talk too much and are too loud? The worst offender I know is widely believed to be on the spectrum. His wife is lovely, though, and I think she's the reason they still have friends!

A very annoying friend of my DH who is also widely believed to be on the spectrum will occasionally stop, mid-sentence, and turn to his wife and say "Am I talking too much?"

Lol. Yes. Yes you are.

[Anonymous]

I actually liked these tips:

Say their name -- it will startle them and they will pause and then someone else can jump in.

Say "I'm going to interrupt you" and then do it (people don't mind when you own it).

Summarize what they have said and then pass the ball to someone else (ask someone else what they think)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

How are ppl clueless about this and its effect on relationships?

ADHD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people I know do this.

For one it is driven by hearing loss (I can’t hear when you talk so I’ll just talk the whole time so as not to be excluded).

For others it’s anxiety. Talking is a way of self-soothing.

For the third group it’s poor social skills.

It’s exhausting to be around, and I limit my time with all 3 groups!

Yeah, I think the few people I know who do this are mostly nervous talkers. Almost seems compulsive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

How are ppl clueless about this and its effect on relationships?

ADHD.

Wrong. ADHD are more likely to go silent than take over a conversation, but if they are engaged, they are often great conversationalists. Autism spectrum disorder is the armchair diagnosis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't we all know people who talk too much and are too loud? The worst offender I know is widely believed to be on the spectrum. His wife is lovely, though, and I think she's the reason they still have friends!

A very annoying friend of my DH who is also widely believed to be on the spectrum will occasionally stop, mid-sentence, and turn to his wife and say "Am I talking too much?"

Lol. Yes. Yes you are.

Yikes! Thank goodness my young adult on the spectrum is a listener.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And loud? I have some lovely friends but I cannot get over nor listen to them go in and on. Do you know someone like this? Exhausting. I feel bad, I always have to cut them off.

Yes, I know someone like this and she talks worry thoughts that are fueled by anxiety and trauma (she's told me). She gets started talking about the same thing over and over again almost as if she's hyping herself into a panic attack. Poor insight. When we talk, I call when I am free like driving home from someplace and the call is time limited. Like, oh, I have about 5 minutes until I need to pull into my garage. Then at 5 minutes well I am here now, the phone service will die. Take care.

She will ask about me and her answers are standard package. She even responds to texts using AI which I told her I don't like. As I type this she's not really my friend nor am I hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my friends, a former coworker, talked normally in the office no problem, but out in public, is SO loud that I'm embarrassed.

Was this because when out of the office, she was drinking? I have a couple of friends who are fine when sober but are loud and blather when drunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

How are ppl clueless about this and its effect on relationships?

ADHD.

I have ADHD and I am thoughtful and mindful and have reciprocal conversations with people. I often start by asking how the other person is. I am not clueless. Stop lumping people together. You know not of what you speak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And loud? I have some lovely friends but I cannot get over nor listen to them go in and on. Do you know someone like this? Exhausting. I feel bad, I always have to cut them off.

Yes, I know someone like this and she talks worry thoughts that are fueled by anxiety and trauma (she's told me). She gets started talking about the same thing over and over again almost as if she's hyping herself into a panic attack. Poor insight. When we talk, I call when I am free like driving home from someplace and the call is time limited. Like, oh, I have about 5 minutes until I need to pull into my garage. Then at 5 minutes well I am here now, the phone service will die. Take care.

She will ask about me and her answers are standard package. She even responds to texts using AI which I told her I don't like. As I type this she's not really my friend nor am I hers.

This sounds like someone who isn't your friend and is just looking for a cheap substitute for therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't we all know people who talk too much and are too loud? The worst offender I know is widely believed to be on the spectrum. His wife is lovely, though, and I think she's the reason they still have friends!

A very annoying friend of my DH who is also widely believed to be on the spectrum will occasionally stop, mid-sentence, and turn to his wife and say "Am I talking too much?"

Lol. Yes. Yes you are.

Yikes! Thank goodness my young adult on the spectrum is a listener.

I am the type of person on the spectrum who holes up alone and focuses on some individual task for hours and doesn't talk.

[Anonymous]

I took a coworker to work the other day when his car was in the shop. I'm an introvert but being stuck in the car for 40 minutes with him was over the top. I was exhausted when I got to school and then I had to take him home too. Non-stop noise all day long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

Woman like this typically have adhd, and are trying to find topics you can relate to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And loud? I have some lovely friends but I cannot get over nor listen to them go in and on. Do you know someone like this? Exhausting. I feel bad, I always have to cut them off.

Yes, you…

[Anonymous]

I have a couple of friends like this. Unfortunately, I have found that I limitmynteractions with them. One I just adore, and know that she has few friends due to this. But I find I leave my time with her unhappy because the conversation was all about her, interrupting me, etc. I need to find a polite way to point out to her when she does this.