37 year old son unemployed

[Anonymous]

Tell him starting December 1 he needs to start paying $1,000 in rent to you each month. The idea he's too old to get a job is ridiculous! Go work at Costco or Trader Joe's. He just can't get what kind of job he WANTS. He needs to get over his ego. Time for tough love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. He has a masters degree from Georgetown and wanted to go to one of the Fed agencies. He was not able to get in and has been trying different things. Most recently he attempted self employment and became discouraged when his work dried up. He was also in an abusive marriage where his wife was upset with him for lot being ready to have children which also brought him down I think.

He feels very depressed and doesn’t know how to obtain gainful employment and thinks he is too old now.

You sound like you’re making excuses for him. Presuming work like is from ~22 to ~65, he’s 1/3 of the way through. Who does he think should support him.

I work with people who got injured on the job. I see people in their 50s and 60s retraining for new types of employment.

I also have a child with mental health issues who lives with me. I do not give him even ten cents of support - he needs to work if he wants anything besides a bedroom and the groceries I buy. And as a requirement for living in my house he needs to work and/or be in job training. Presently he’s doing both.

There are jobs. He might not like them. But they exist and if you all relate not creative enough to find them, I’m sure we can start a list for you. Like how about being a caretaker for the elderly. He could do in home or institutional work. Or working in a nursing home kitchen. Or stocking shelves at Target or a grocery store.

What I’ve found with my son is that success begets success. You have to start before you can move up. And no job is beneath you if you don’t have one.

Someone with a MA from Georgetown doesn't need to be working in a nursing home kitchen.

OP he can find something better than that, but the job market is very rough and he is going to need to spend hours every day searching and applying and it is tedious. See what you can do to support him in that endeavor. He may want to look at writing jobs, with his MA he should have some ability in that area.

[Anonymous]

I’d make him get a job. Anywhere. I had a friend who lost his ceo job at 39. He took a job in a pizza shop. One day he started talking to a customer about economics and voila it was the headhunter for a major company and he became a ceo once more.
Just get out there and do something!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Ugh. Sounds like a nice easy life at 37.What a burden on you & your spouse.

Anyways, He needs job and own place ASAP. However, you can’t want that more for him than he does.

Good luck!

In this Trump crap economy that is not happening. There are no jobs!

[Anonymous]

Who would want to be a man in our society today? Men are giving up. He isn't an outlier. He's right on trend. Many men are packing it in and calling it a day, gone fishing. Forever.

[Anonymous]

Kick him out; he is too old to be acting like a loser.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. He says with his education he cannot obtain employment in the private sector as he is not a business major. And he doesn’t want to work at non profits as they don’t pay enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. He says with his education he cannot obtain employment in the private sector as he is not a business major. And he doesn’t want to work at non profits as they don’t pay enough.

Who’s paying his bills and expenses

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. He has a masters degree from Georgetown and wanted to go to one of the Fed agencies. He was not able to get in and has been trying different things. Most recently he attempted self employment and became discouraged when his work dried up. He was also in an abusive marriage where his wife was upset with him for lot being ready to have children which also brought him down I think.

He feels very depressed and doesn’t know how to obtain gainful employment and thinks he is too old now.

Excuse me, after a huge hiatus between the ages of 30 and 44 pursuing a different career and being a SAHM, I went back to work. Yes, I feel extremely fortunate that this was possible but I was willing to start at the bottom again.
Your 37 year old son is much younger than when I returned to work. He needs to be willing to start at the bottom again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who would want to be a man in our society today? Men are giving up. He isn't an outlier. He's right on trend. Many men are packing it in and calling it a day, gone fishing. Forever.

If mommies like OP didn't coddle him he wouldn't be able to pack it in and call it a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. He says with his education he cannot obtain employment in the private sector as he is not a business major. And he doesn’t want to work at non profits as they don’t pay enough.

Non profits pay more than NOTHING, which is what he's earning now. NOTHING.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d make him get a job. Anywhere. I had a friend who lost his ceo job at 39. He took a job in a pizza shop. One day he started talking to a customer about economics and voila it was the headhunter for a major company and he became a ceo once more.
Just get out there and do something!

This did not happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who would want to be a man in our society today? Men are giving up. He isn't an outlier. He's right on trend. Many men are packing it in and calling it a day, gone fishing. Forever.

Yeah, well ... nice job if you can get it (aka if your mom will enable it).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. He says with his education he cannot obtain employment in the private sector as he is not a business major. And he doesn’t want to work at non profits as they don’t pay enough.

Lol. Ok.

This is where I begin agreeing with the aggressive kick-him-out!-charge-him-rent!-blah-blah-aggression-blah! posts above.

[Anonymous]

Well obviously you buy whatever story he tells you, which isn't the truth...