Your kids see and hear everything - and share with their friends

[Anonymous]

I have two kids and neither has ever come home discussing anyone's marital woes. The worst I've ever heard is that so and so's parents are divorced, and so and so takes a math enrichment class, neither of which are particularly interesting.

[Anonymous]

It's not a bad thing for kids, and it seems even adults, to learn that different people do different things and that's ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two kids and neither has ever come home discussing anyone's marital woes. The worst I've ever heard is that so and so's parents are divorced, and so and so takes a math enrichment class, neither of which are particularly interesting.

+1

I have three teens and over the years I’ve only heard personal type of stuff maybe a few times (combined between all 3 kids). And the few things I’ve heard, I take with a grain of salt. Sleeping separately due to snoring etc is not uncommon especially as people get older, and most couples go through rough patches. Not really earth shattering news.

[Anonymous]

I was a girl scout leader and it was kind of amazing what you sometimes overheard. I will never forget the little boy who told me that someone had died and left his parents a lot of money so they were redoing the house and his parents didn't have to work anymore because they were 'independently wealthy' and then all the other little kids were like "What's independently wealthy? How do you get to be that?" Also there was a nanny that got fired because she was an alcoholic and when she moved out, they found "lots of alcohol bottles in her room". Once they're a certain age, unless you have a really large house, it's going to be difficult to only have those conversations when you're one hundred percent no child is going to hear, etc.

[Anonymous]

Most people are doing the best they can. Perhaps model some grace and understanding when your child reports a friend’s family going through something difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two kids and neither has ever come home discussing anyone's marital woes. The worst I've ever heard is that so and so's parents are divorced, and so and so takes a math enrichment class, neither of which are particularly interesting.

This is the kind of thing I hear. Or so and so lives with their grandparent. But these are also generally things I'd find out anyway when I met these kids' adults.

[Anonymous]

Everyone knows kids see everything and say everything. My 5-year old nephew loudly announced at a gathering that he and his siblings were allowed to watch movies on weekends while both his parents “napped”.

[Anonymous]

“Mrs. Robinson” sure hits differently now as a mom. “It’s a little secret, just the Robinson’s affair…most of all, you’ve got to hide it from the kids”

[Anonymous]

My friend's kid told me that her mom gets waxed every week. We still laugh about it.

[Anonymous]

Wait! What is a secret pillow?

I have a 21 and 18 yo and neither has EVER come home with this gossip.

OP are you part of the Spanish Inquisition?

[Anonymous]

My DCs have told me several if their friends' parents are getting divorced. Years later it hasn't happened as far as I can tell, not that it's any of my business.

The point being, op, yes, kids talk but that doesn't mean it's accurate. Also, your kids are telling their friends stuff about you so maybe calm down the glee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two kids and neither has ever come home discussing anyone's marital woes. The worst I've ever heard is that so and so's parents are divorced, and so and so takes a math enrichment class, neither of which are particularly interesting.

My teen did once. She came home from school in tears because her best friend said the parents were divorcing and the family moving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Mrs. Robinson” sure hits differently now as a mom. “It’s a little secret, just the Robinson’s affair…most of all, you’ve got to hide it from the kids”

Except, Mrs. Robinson's affair partner was also her daughter's boyfriend. Awkies!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People have real life problems. Perhaps focus on what you can control and teach your child not to repeat gossip.

This

[Anonymous]

Friends child is like this. Will blabber everything.
I in turn as an adult kindly change the subject.