Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Your excuses are out of touch and wild. Honestly you’re delusional OP

OP here. I don't understand what you mean.

[Anonymous]

Definitely a troll.

[Anonymous]

Is this the poster whose husband was trying to date the tutor?

[Anonymous]

You are overstepping and I bet it’s very annoying. Just ask him if and how you can help and then don’t go in with the full strategy. That’s the only way to have someone trust you. Tell him you will do your best to only do what he decides. It’s his life. If you want to help, you cannot micromanage. You’ll just drive him further away into solitude.

[Anonymous]

You are codependent. See a therapist pronto. This is an unhealthy dynamic for you, DH and DD.

[Anonymous]

Does he not have life insurance?

[Anonymous]

Why do you keep saying it’s hurtful? It isn’t. You’re separated. Let him handle his own healthcare, and take out a substantial life insurance policy on him, or make him do it.

Then leave him alone. You’re still stuck in whatever dysfunctional dynamic you had during your marriage. Let him be. Stay married and separated if you want, for the finances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Your excuses are out of touch and wild. Honestly you’re delusional OP

OP here. I don't understand what you mean.

Leave him alone. He’s told you this.

He’s cheated on you, moved away from you and your child.

Serious question.

What don’t you understand about any of that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he not have life insurance?

OP here. Sadly, no. His term life insurance ended a few years ago, and a new one would have been very expensive.

[Anonymous]

I say this with all sincerity op. You are doing way too much. Cut the cord stop mommying him and let him figure out life on his own.

[Anonymous]

Always interesting to see how many people bite on these threads.

[Anonymous]

This story has been on here before, which makes me think it might be real.

OP it was never your job to keep him alive and it certainly isn’t now.

[Anonymous]

OP, is DH a dancer or part of the overall dance community?

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't agree with other posters. I think what you are doing makes sense. Nobody should be indifferent to the potential early death of her child's father.

I'd communicate briefly and by text if the conversations are bad. It's great that you found a doctor for him. Kind of you. He's obviously got problems so don't let his stupidity get to you. He's screwing up on many levels. You can't fix that but you can offer some help and you did.

[Anonymous]

Are you the poster whose husband wanted to start a romantic relationship with a young woman he was “mentoring” and was trying to have her tutor your daughter?