How much did you sleep around in college?

[Anonymous]

Not enough. Spent too many years caught up in a couple toxic relationships and not moving on.

The flip side is that i think back on the opportunities and it's not like i was turning away good ones. It was the 90s in the north east and guys were, well, pretty ugly and immature. I'm not sure sleeping around more would have made me feel much better, or if i would have just felt sad about how low i'd fallen. I do wish, however, there were more hot respectful guys that i hooked up with in college!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not enough. Spent too many years caught up in a couple toxic relationships and not moving on.

The flip side is that i think back on the opportunities and it's not like i was turning away good ones. It was the 90s in the north east and guys were, well, pretty ugly and immature. I'm not sure sleeping around more would have made me feel much better, or if i would have just felt sad about how low i'd fallen. I do wish, however, there were more hot respectful guys that i hooked up with in college!

Respect and hooking up is oxymoron

[Anonymous]

Eh, not much in college. Longterm partners only. My mid 20s after dumping my fiance on the other hand...

[Anonymous]

The women I slept with had waaaayy .lre sexual partners than I did. And from speaking to other guys they had a similar experience. Women hook up a lot in college and the effort required to sleep with them is really not that much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not enough. Spent too many years caught up in a couple toxic relationships and not moving on.

The flip side is that i think back on the opportunities and it's not like i was turning away good ones. It was the 90s in the north east and guys were, well, pretty ugly and immature. I'm not sure sleeping around more would have made me feel much better, or if i would have just felt sad about how low i'd fallen. I do wish, however, there were more hot respectful guys that i hooked up with in college!

Respect and hooking up is oxymoron

Wow, I hope you are able to get some therapy to deal with your deep seated hatred for so much of society.

In my own experience, both of my long term boyfriends before my husband were completely disrespectful to me, for years on end. Meanwhile, the few hook-ups I had in my early 20s were fun and respectful.

[Anonymous]

A lot. Most of the men I can't recall their names.

[Anonymous]

We’re going to need a baseline metric for a little vs. a lot.

[Anonymous]

A lot.

[Anonymous]

More after I was divorced in my 40s.

[Anonymous]

One other than my long term boyfriend (who cheated on me) and completely regretted it. I had more boyfriends in grad school and also regretted all of them. Dating was awful.

[Anonymous]

In college not at all. I made up for it in my 20s.

[Anonymous]

I was a virgin until 21.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re going to need a baseline metric for a little vs. a lot.

I'll unilaterally take command here and put the baseline at 5 people during undergrad as the dividing line.

I realize that, for some of you, that's a laughably low number. But there are lots of 1s and 0s out there (the "binaries," we'll call them) who probably think that the 4s and 5s were kind of promiscuous.

[Anonymous]

Not much. I had a boyfriend, then a short-term fling a year or so after we broke up, and finally, a longer-term, very messy FWB situation.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. I basically did not come to college with any baggage and did not leave college with any baggage. I had a huge social network and a lot of interests/hobbies/causes and I made full use of the opportunities to grow in college.