Inappropriate Aide: Pull child from MCPS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there cameras in the school?

No MCPS elementary school has cameras.

They all have cameras everywhere

[Anonymous]

I understand youre upset and tickling is inappropriate. But there is a greater harm in over reacting. You are modeling how to handle adversity and running away and shutting down isnt the model you want to give. Unless you left something out, this was not a sexual assault or a physical battery. It was unwanted physical contact, it can be seen as grooming behavior but thats it. Your child is resilient enough to handle that without letting it stop their entire social.and academic lives.
Our children will deal with all kinds of behavior in their lives and not all of it positive.
I would be on the phone with the principal and in a meeting first thing in the AM. I would email the teacher and let them know that it happened and that you will not tolerate it happening again. If your child is capable of understanding and acting, I would go over how to day "stop, dont touch me" and telling the next trusted adult. And I would send them immediately back to school.
My guess is the aid will be pulled immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your concern? The ticking or that is done in school?

Its unwanted physical touch and its potentially grooming behavior. Its unprofessional at best and a sign of the aid wanting to habe a physical relationship with a child, in any manner, at worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there cameras in the school?

No MCPS elementary school has cameras.

The MCPS ES where I work absolutely has cameras

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand youre upset and tickling is inappropriate. But there is a greater harm in over reacting. You are modeling how to handle adversity and running away and shutting down isnt the model you want to give. Unless you left something out, this was not a sexual assault or a physical battery. It was unwanted physical contact, it can be seen as grooming behavior but thats it. Your child is resilient enough to handle that without letting it stop their entire social.and academic lives.
Our children will deal with all kinds of behavior in their lives and not all of it positive.
I would be on the phone with the principal and in a meeting first thing in the AM. I would email the teacher and let them know that it happened and that you will not tolerate it happening again. If your child is capable of understanding and acting, I would go over how to day "stop, dont touch me" and telling the next trusted adult. And I would send them immediately back to school.
My guess is the aid will be pulled immediately.

This is a great answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand youre upset and tickling is inappropriate. But there is a greater harm in over reacting. You are modeling how to handle adversity and running away and shutting down isnt the model you want to give. Unless you left something out, this was not a sexual assault or a physical battery. It was unwanted physical contact, it can be seen as grooming behavior but thats it. Your child is resilient enough to handle that without letting it stop their entire social.and academic lives.
Our children will deal with all kinds of behavior in their lives and not all of it positive.
I would be on the phone with the principal and in a meeting first thing in the AM. I would email the teacher and let them know that it happened and that you will not tolerate it happening again. If your child is capable of understanding and acting, I would go over how to day "stop, dont touch me" and telling the next trusted adult. And I would send them immediately back to school.
My guess is the aid will be pulled immediately.

OP already had a meeting scheduled with the school for two days ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there cameras in the school?

No MCPS elementary school has cameras.

They all have cameras everywhere

Back in the day, the Principal of our elementary school in Bethesda told us (the PTA) that the cameras we saw in and around the school were not actually working.

So... don't assume you can get video evidence from anything at school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take him to a psychologist and the police

Absolutely! Do this immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not overreact, OP. You don't want to lose everything MCPS has to offer, ie, taxpayer-funded services and accommodations, just because of one inappropriate interaction. Private schools are expensive, and homeschooling isn't possible if you're working.

You should request that your child be placed with another aide. That's all.

MCPS will be on the hook.if anything inappropriate has happened. Your SN child is entitled to a safe and appropriate education. MCPS and education lawyers will know that.

[Anonymous]

Ugh the world we live in...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take him to a psychologist and the police

I would seriously consider reporting to the police. The school system rarely investigates possible sexual predation well. In addition, they do not have access to the tools the police do. The school system, for example, will never get a warrant to access the accused's computers or devices, which often show evidence of sexual predation.

I would speak to an attorney about this before you do it, so you know what the process is, and you and your child are represented by counsel when filing a police complaint.

There’s zero chance of getting a phone or computer warrant on these facts. That’s an unreasonable expectation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh the world we live in...

Do you actually think this is a new thing? That everything was rosy years ago and there was never inappropriate behavior? Because if you do think that, there’s really no help for you.

[Anonymous]

Gross. This totally could be grooming and you’re right to report it. At my MS some of our aides are former students who have special needs themselves. I could see one of them doing something like this because of lack of judgment. What do you know about the aide?