Where to find mostly asexual men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?

why? is this the sort of partner you want? why?

Yes, this is the kind of partner I want so that we are better matched and no one feels cheated out of intimacy. I have spent many years with someone on the opposite end of the spectrum and I am not making that mistake again.

A couple times a month (like 1-2x/week) is not “asexual” - it’s pretty normal.

[Anonymous]

There is a difference between how often established couples 40-50 have PIV and how often people that age have sex when they're seeking companionship with no long term promises (date sex or FWB), or when they're in the early stages of falling in love.

My partner and are in that age range and we have been together almost two years. We do it at least 3/week, so about a dozen times a month. We're both divorced and had dead bedroom for the last several years of our respective marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?

You can add this preference it to your dating profile. I'm sure you'll find your type.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious about how this would work. How do you arrange things so you both want to do this somewhat rare activity at the same time? It seems like if the default is that your partner doesn't want to do it, that would make it difficult to initiate since the odds that you'll be rejected on any given day are pretty high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?

Careful what you wish for. You're unlikely to find a truly asexual man, but there are many closet cases, porn addicts, pedophiles, and such who will behave asexually towards you because they have little to no sexual interest in a real-life adult woman. Of course, you'll find out their disgusting proclivities only much later.

Be very careful to find out if whoever you end up with is truly asexual or merely asexual towards you. I learned the hard way with the freakshow I'm in the process of divorcing.

Wow. At least three of us on this thread have had/are having this experience.

Gooners gone wild!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?

Careful what you wish for. You're unlikely to find a truly asexual man, but there are many closet cases, porn addicts, pedophiles, and such who will behave asexually towards you because they have little to no sexual interest in a real-life adult woman. Of course, you'll find out their disgusting proclivities only much later.

Be very careful to find out if whoever you end up with is truly asexual or merely asexual towards you. I learned the hard way with the freakshow I'm in the process of divorcing.

Wow. At least three of us on this thread have had/are having this experience.

Gooners gone wild!

Yes, many men of this era are unfit for human consumption. The loser I'm divorcing is a porn addict who I have come to believe is also a closet case. He's also a selfish, zero foreplay, two pump chump whom I haven't let near me in 2 years. I ended up with him because I hadn't healed from sexual assaults and found it reassuring that he didn't pounce on me and pressure me for sex the way my exes had. Turns out he's just a degenerate with a perverted sex drive like so many men nowadays. I don't think the Y chromosome is compatible with decency and sanity, regardless of how women lie to ourselves so we can rationalize our sorry options.

[Anonymous]

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Ha! Thanks. I did not mean loser asexual men who are addicted to porn. Just ones where sex is not as important to them.

So what do you want, exactly? An ATM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, many men of this era are unfit for human consumption. The loser I'm divorcing is a porn addict who I have come to believe is also a closet case. He's also a selfish, zero foreplay, two pump chump whom I haven't let near me in 2 years. I ended up with him because I hadn't healed from sexual assaults and found it reassuring that he didn't pounce on me and pressure me for sex the way my exes had. Turns out he's just a degenerate with a perverted sex drive like so many men nowadays. I don't think the Y chromosome is compatible with decency and sanity, regardless of how women lie to ourselves so we can rationalize our sorry options.

You are awful at choosing suitable mates. You have no one to blame but yourself.

[Anonymous]

By accident, lol.

Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can set you up with my xH. He won’t want sex with you, but he will spend hours a day watching porn.

Ha! Thanks. I did not mean loser asexual men who are addicted to porn. Just ones where sex is not as important to them.

Asexual men are not addicted to porn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can set you up with my xH. He won’t want sex with you, but he will spend hours a day watching porn.

Ha! Thanks. I did not mean loser asexual men who are addicted to porn. Just ones where sex is not as important to them.

This does not exist.

[Anonymous]

Sadly, I haven’t met any men that don’t find sex to be always top of mind. That’s why I’m divorced and didnt remarry. It’s rarely on my mind at all, let alone top of mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, many men of this era are unfit for human consumption. The loser I'm divorcing is a porn addict who I have come to believe is also a closet case. He's also a selfish, zero foreplay, two pump chump whom I haven't let near me in 2 years. I ended up with him because I hadn't healed from sexual assaults and found it reassuring that he didn't pounce on me and pressure me for sex the way my exes had. Turns out he's just a degenerate with a perverted sex drive like so many men nowadays. I don't think the Y chromosome is compatible with decency and sanity, regardless of how women lie to ourselves so we can rationalize our sorry options.

You are awful at choosing suitable mates. You have no one to blame but yourself.

Sorry I hurt your feelings. Back to porn for you, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?

The uglier the partner, the less sex there will be.

So you could get just any average guy, then gain a lot of weight, and the sex will reduce to almost nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?

The uglier the partner, the less sex there will be.

So you could get just any average guy, then gain a lot of weight, and the sex will reduce to almost nothing.

1) not true
2) great way to get cheated on, and possibly pick up a free STD from whoever your jerk "partner" sticks it in while blaming you for his actions

Men who want to have sex will have sex with pretty much anything. Just ask JD...