Boyfriend lied to me about his politics

[Anonymous]

Conservative man here. I've had many relationships where I never revealed my politics and just went along with her views. They never had a clue. It's a thing we do for sure but only with women who never ask and just assume which is nearly all of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Conservative man here. I've had many relationships where I never revealed my politics and just went along with her views. They never had a clue. It's a thing we do for sure but only with women who never ask and just assume which is nearly all of them.

You must be old. The younger generation will find out if they want to know and they don't need to ask to do it. They also don't have any problem with flat out discussing political views.

[Anonymous]

He’s not your husband. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Just look at Usha Vance. Now her husband is looking for a side piece. Run, run, run as fast as you can!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

Well, to be fair, he’s kinda right about feminism. But the anti-Jewish stuff is not cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

Well, to be fair, he’s kinda right about feminism. But the anti-Jewish stuff is not cool.

Being upfront with that belief is important.

FWIW women have been working forever so this idea that it's this new concept that has ruined society is a joke. Only the very very wealthy historically could afford anyone in their household not working.

[Anonymous]

Gross. He doesn’t deserve you. Lose him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

Honestly it’s your fault for dating a man who proclaims to be a feminist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Zero possibility this is a real post. But a pro tip it's not what men say it's what they do

It's a new grift for men to act feminist there's even influencers in on the grift .


Also people change if you're old enough to date you're old enough to understand that concept.

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This^.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he originally of a different culture? Some opinions are generational—and deep. I married a guy—and I was with him for 2O years. Some of the subtle anti-Jewish behaviors and opinions came out over time. It was deep rooted. It was historical. It was also pretty well hidden (and yes, with a ton of contradictions like jewish friends) but present. My MIL once made a contorted face once I mentioned taking my kids to the JCC. She held her face and then just stared at me.

most of the world is anti-zionist. and most Jews equate anti-zionism with anti-semitism. so really. this is common and growing. just look at what the Zionists have done.


Palestine was a thriving country with major cities of Jaffa, Acre, Ramleh, Lod, Ramallah, Hebron, Nazareth and Jerusalem centuries before these colonial Zionist settlers from Europe arrived in Palestine. Zionists think they made the desert bloom is a historical lies being repeated by Colonial armed settlers.

What I want to say to you this evening at this revolutionary and historic Seder in the Streets is that too many of our people are worshiping a false idol once again. They are enraptured by it. They are drunk on it. They are profaned by it. And that false idol is called Zionism.

It is a false idol that takes our most profound biblical stories of justice and emancipation from slavery, the story of Passover itself, and turns them into brutalist weapons of colonial land theft, roadmaps for ethnic cleansing and genocide. It is a false idol that has taken the transcendent idea of the Promised Land, a metaphor for human liberation that has traveled across faiths to every corner of this globe, and dared to turn it into a deed of sale for a militarist ethnostate.

Political Zionism’s version of liberation is itself profane. From the start, it required the mass expulsion of Palestinians from their homes and ancestral lands in the Nakba.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Zero possibility this is a real post. But a pro tip it's not what men say it's what they do

It's a new grift for men to act feminist there's even influencers in on the grift .


Also people change if you're old enough to date you're old enough to understand that concept.

Move on and next time save this nonsense for your journal.

Women's grift is to act feminist and independent but expt men to pay for dates and travel etc. on top of lavish gifts.

More like men's gift is to claim they believe in "traditional gender roles" but they can't afford that, so instead they expect women to pay most of the bills (because otherwise she's a gold digger) but also do all the housework.

No wonder women are rejecting this deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Conservative man here. I've had many relationships where I never revealed my politics and just went along with her views. They never had a clue. It's a thing we do for sure but only with women who never ask and just assume which is nearly all of them.

Would you reveal it straight away if the woman revealed straight away that she’s conservative? I might be dating again soon and definitely looking for conservative men this time. It would prevent so many arguments.

Also, do you think most conservative men are religious these days? I’m not in a church and was hoping to find someone conservative but not religious. Not sure where to find those men though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put him on the market for the women who can handle him. Complaining will not help yourself. Move on.

Handel him??
He’s a grown adult
Who wants to control another human who lied whose an idiot for supporting the Nazi criminal party stealing daily from hard working Americans
He’s an idiot

Op don’t date idiots

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

An ex-friend married a guy like this. The guy is an extreme rwnj who kept his crazy, scary background a secret from his now wife. He seems reasonable and likeable when you first meet him. She is the breadwinner and had lots of friends. Now he controls everything in the house and who my ex-friend hangs around with. He posts a lot on social media and is spending all of the money she makes on guns, bullets, weird prepping, and odd toys for himself. She's not allowed to go in certain parts of their home. He shops for them and is a hoarder. He boasts on line in his incel related groups how he's trained her not to question things. He goes out early in the am to shop before she is up and hides things. He boasts on-line about he has kept his past hidden from her. She is well paid and he had a reasonable tech job with an adult married daughter. Their house should have been paid of over a decade ago. They struggled to put together 2k for a down payment on a new car a few years ago.

Take your time dating people and if they won't talk about their past or views, don't rush to commit.

[Anonymous]

He just blew smoke up your keyster OP to get you in the sack.

He figured if he could convert you, that you might make marriage material, and if he couldn't, he could have some fun with you in the meantime.