Weekend sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We actually prefer the weekdays, usually during lunch break at least 3x. Weekends are quite busy for us.

Just curious - how long are these mid weekday trysts beginning to end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We actually prefer the weekdays, usually during lunch break at least 3x. Weekends are quite busy for us.

Just curious - how long are these mid weekday trysts beginning to end?

Around 30 minutes? We also have to eat lunch. 😉

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Sex while the kids are in school is best for me.

+1 Or if things line up and they’re all out of the house at the same time without us, and we’re home (my kids are teens). Halloween night worked for us, for example.

[Anonymous]

My wife expects sex on the weekends, but puts in no effort into arousal. Even with hundreds of ideas I've given her, she does everything so reluctantly to the point it turns me off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife expects sex on the weekends, but puts in no effort into arousal. Even with hundreds of ideas I've given her, she does everything so reluctantly to the point it turns me off.

You are a lucky man if your wife expects sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife expects sex on the weekends, but puts in no effort into arousal. Even with hundreds of ideas I've given her, she does everything so reluctantly to the point it turns me off.

You are a lucky man if your wife expects sex.

"Expects sex" as in it's my fault if we don't. She doesn't communicate any libido, anything she's enjoying, anything she wants to do, doesn't say anything during. Doesn't initiate, doesn't put in any effort, almost like she's barely participating. But it will be my fault if we don't, because she was "open to it" had I put in 100% of the effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Sex while the kids are in school is best for me.

With your lover that is…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We do best with weekend mornings.

We both WOH 5x/wk, so weekdays mid-day aren't really an option. Weeknights are busy and exhausting, plus he always stays up at least a couple hours later than I do (I get up earlier).

Why not? We both work from home and we love to have sex during our lunch break. Sometimes I give it to her midday while she is standing at her desk attending virtual meetings (off camera of course). She loves it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Sex while the kids are in school is best for me.

We are both furloughed feds. So that's pretty much how the last month has gone for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We do best with weekend mornings.

We both WOH 5x/wk, so weekdays mid-day aren't really an option. Weeknights are busy and exhausting, plus he always stays up at least a couple hours later than I do (I get up earlier).

Why not? We both work from home and we love to have sex during our lunch break. Sometimes I give it to her midday while she is standing at her desk attending virtual meetings (off camera of course). She loves it.

PP here - I meant we both work in-person at our company offices 5x/week - meaning we both commute to offices that are 30-45 minutes away from our house, in different directions. So we are almost an hour away from each other during the day.

[Anonymous]

Rarely on the weekends. We have small children and weekends are an exhausting marathon of trying to keep them entertained and out of trouble and deal with the massive pile-up of chores. Sometimes we have sex one time midweek, but it’s been almost a month now since we last had sex. I think we’re both just too tired right now. The kids have been wearing us thin and we’re trying to come up with some more effective disciplinary techniques to get them back on track.

I used to be frustrated by the low frequency but am okay with it now (husband here).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife expects sex on the weekends, but puts in no effort into arousal. Even with hundreds of ideas I've given her, she does everything so reluctantly to the point it turns me off.

You are a lucky man if your wife expects sex.

"Expects sex" as in it's my fault if we don't. She doesn't communicate any libido, anything she's enjoying, anything she wants to do, doesn't say anything during. Doesn't initiate, doesn't put in any effort, almost like she's barely participating. But it will be my fault if we don't, because she was "open to it" had I put in 100% of the effort.

Dump her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife expects sex on the weekends, but puts in no effort into arousal. Even with hundreds of ideas I've given her, she does everything so reluctantly to the point it turns me off.

You are a lucky man if your wife expects sex.

"Expects sex" as in it's my fault if we don't. She doesn't communicate any libido, anything she's enjoying, anything she wants to do, doesn't say anything during. Doesn't initiate, doesn't put in any effort, almost like she's barely participating. But it will be my fault if we don't, because she was "open to it" had I put in 100% of the effort.

So, whatever you’re doing is not getting her aroused? Are you initiating and letting her know how attractive you find her? If you tell her how much you love her and love having sex with her, maybe she will respond in kind.

Our society can be kind of weird about women and sex, and some women have really taken in the message that it is up to men to initiate. Maybe some patience and kindness will lead her to enjoy initiating and you can both enjoy what follows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We make time. If that means we get up a half hour early, or the kids get bonus screen time, it’s worth it for us to connect that way.

This, too busy for sex means it isn't a priority in your relationship. It really is that simple.

We generally are too busy for weekend sex. (Though it does happen.) Weekday or week night sex happens more.

Actually, I suspect it’s pretty random but, since weekends are only 2/7 of the days we probably have weekend sex about 2/7 of the times we have sex.

[Anonymous]

It was Hot last night! Anyone else?