I fear I am going to be fat FOREVER - vent/advice-seeking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:GLPs didn’t work for me either. Not the miracles some say they are.

Nor me. At least, ozempic hasn’t. I may try mounjaro next.

[Anonymous]

GLP1. Same with me. I'm losing weight on the GLP1 but really only once I got to the highest dose. I eat less than 1000 calories a day, workout and lose a small amount of weight per week. So, yeah, some people need to be on very little food to see any weight loss whatsoever. So fun.

[Anonymous]

How long were you on a glp-1? It took 3 months for ozempic to start working for me (I lost 2 pounds for the first 10 weeks and then 10 pounds over the next 8). Id try that again, working with a nutritionist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much do you weigh and how tall are you?

I also have 3 kids (11, 9 and 5) and it took a lot longer to lose the weight from kid 3. And I am still probably 20 pounds heavier than when I got married and 10 pounds heavier than when I started having kids. But I am 5’7” and 145 and am 42 years old. I don’t really have it in me to heavily diet anymore. I walk a lot and don’t look really overweight so I just stopped caring.

This is OP and I look overweight, I think in no small part because I’m short and busty with wide-ish shoulders. I’m still an hourglass - my waist is smaller than my bust and hips, which are the same circumference - but it’s big (like 35 inches). I never had a tiny waist but it was 28-30 inches before, after second kid. I’m 5’3 and 175 pounds. I know DCUM will say it’s impossible that I was thin/small at 145 at this height but I really and truly am exceptionally muscular. Even now, I am not flabby, my mass has just expanded :sob:

All of that to say, I look okay, but I would feel so much more comfortable in my body even twenty pounds less than I am now.

[Anonymous]

Similar situation here. Had several miscarriages in between first and second child during which I’d gain weight and then stay at the higher weight. When I finally got pregnant with my second child, I started the pregnancy a solid 15 pounds above the weight I’d maintained fairly easily for years. I gained almost 40 pounds with second baby and although I managed to lose most of it, I was still 15-20 above my prior “normal weight.” I watched what I ate and was physically active but nothing changed weight wise. I got used to my new higher weight and fortunately I am tall so I didn’t look bad but I also didn’t feel great. Fast forward to peri-meno and I’ve now picked up another 10-15 pounds. Got serious about dieting and calories restriction, strength training, quit alcohol. Nothing. If anything I gained weight. Was debating going on the shot and internist did bloodwork and found that my thyroid had essentially gone on vacation. Since I’ve started on medication, I am now seeing movement on the scale. It’s extremely slow and frustrating, but there is some change. I also started HRT (sounds like you are too young for that).

Anyway, I would be wary about doing something like the carnivore diet and focus on talking with your doctor about figuring out what’s going on with insulin or thyroid. Also talking with them about the possible why’s for GLP didn’t work.

[Anonymous]

The only way I was able to lose weight was with Zepbound and basically going vegan. Zepbound made me not want meat and dairy. I’m your height and still not at your weight yet, after losing 50 pounds so I started much heavier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:GLPs didn’t work for me either. Not the miracles some say they are.

Nor me. At least, ozempic hasn’t. I may try mounjaro next.

I do know people for whom ozempic did not work but abound did. I do not understand the differences between the drugs but that’s another topic to discuss with your doctor.

Also, looking for hidden calories. The coffee creamer thread recently made me realize I was drinking 100+ calories in creamer every day. Those sneaky calories really add up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:GLPs didn’t work for me either. Not the miracles some say they are.

Nor me. At least, ozempic hasn’t. I may try mounjaro next.

I do know people for whom ozempic did not work but abound did. I do not understand the differences between the drugs but that’s another topic to discuss with your doctor.

Also, looking for hidden calories. The coffee creamer thread recently made me realize I was drinking 100+ calories in creamer every day. Those sneaky calories really add up!

* Zepbound

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much do you weigh and how tall are you?

I also have 3 kids (11, 9 and 5) and it took a lot longer to lose the weight from kid 3. And I am still probably 20 pounds heavier than when I got married and 10 pounds heavier than when I started having kids. But I am 5’7” and 145 and am 42 years old. I don’t really have it in me to heavily diet anymore. I walk a lot and don’t look really overweight so I just stopped caring.

This is OP and I look overweight, I think in no small part because I’m short and busty with wide-ish shoulders. I’m still an hourglass - my waist is smaller than my bust and hips, which are the same circumference - but it’s big (like 35 inches). I never had a tiny waist but it was 28-30 inches before, after second kid. I’m 5’3 and 175 pounds. I know DCUM will say it’s impossible that I was thin/small at 145 at this height but I really and truly am exceptionally muscular. Even now, I am not flabby, my mass has just expanded :sob:

All of that to say, I look okay, but I would feel so much more comfortable in my body even twenty pounds less than I am now.

Does your doctor tell you that you need to lose weight?

Because maybe otherwise, you should start loving the body that helped you make 3 wonderful children? Maybe it knows you need the extra weight to be healthy so it keeps it on? You’re not eating any junk, you’re exercising.. so maybe this is just your body letting you know what it needs in order to do its job. Stop fighting it and put your focus on something else.

[Anonymous]

NP. Finally a thread I can relate to, but I need to lose at least 50 lbs not 30. Similar to OP I was always a normal BMI/regular weight all my life and similar to OP, I was active, although not a "gym rat." For me it was the year after the pandemic, roughly 2021-2022, that my weight skyrocketed. I started seeing my regular PCP/GP as well as weight loss focused doctors and practices. In 2023, took Ozempic for several months, lost nothing. In 2024, tried Mounjaro for about 8 months, max dose, ended up in urgent care with tachycardia, lost nothing. I met with an Inova bariatric surgeon who said I qualified (despite a BMI of 33) but I am afraid I'd eat through it and regain the weight afterward. I've met with dietitians and nutritionists who have put me on restrictive 900 calorie diets that started a binge/restrict cycle that I cannot seem to break.

To the PP who asked about insulin resistance. I do have it. So where do I go from here? Did you mean something by your question? The last weight loss doctor put me on slow-release Metformin, which didn't seem to do anything, tbh.

[Anonymous]

This was me at 45.

4 months on Zepbound, and I’m down 20 lbs. Losing slowly but losing. I need to lose another 40. It has been so nice to diet and actually see results without feeling stressed, hungry, and tired. No yo-yo. No extreme diet. I focus on protein and fiber, and eating smaller portions of whatever else I feel like. Just do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was me at 45.

4 months on Zepbound, and I’m down 20 lbs. Losing slowly but losing. I need to lose another 40. It has been so nice to diet and actually see results without feeling stressed, hungry, and tired. No yo-yo. No extreme diet. I focus on protein and fiber, and eating smaller portions of whatever else I feel like. Just do it.

Op I’m sorry, I read your post too fast and just saw that you tried tirzepitide already. What dose did you get up to?

I’m still titrating, about to start 10mg. Again, it’s working, but slowly. I figure slow is better than nothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:try the 700 cal diet in another thread. the op was able to lose ~35% of her weight in a few month with that, plus waking a ton everyday.

NP here, 20lb overweight. I would rather remain heavy than subsist on 700 calories a day. That seems so cruel for someone who is also walking a ton every day.

i was a doubter at first too but read through the entire thread and now a believer. keep an open mind and read it all when bored: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1286666.page

[Anonymous]

So one prior poster was pretty rude about it, but, I think it's the truth. In all my research, the experts says that if you stay in a caloric deficit, you will lose weight....there is no ifs, and, or buts. No hormones, insulin, cortisol, anything...that can prevent weight loss when you are burning more calories than you are ingesting. Can you take a real hard look at what you are eating and drinking? I know you said that you counted calories before, but you must be missing something. My advice...don't listen to all these people saying to love yourself and accept the weight and all that. If you aren't happy with your weight, keep working. Don't give up. Keep exercising, keep walking, keeping lifting weights, keep cutting junk food,...keep with the high protein, low calorie. Keep it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:try the 700 cal diet in another thread. the op was able to lose ~35% of her weight in a few month with that, plus waking a ton everyday.

NP here, 20lb overweight. I would rather remain heavy than subsist on 700 calories a day. That seems so cruel for someone who is also walking a ton every day.

i was a doubter at first too but read through the entire thread and now a believer. keep an open mind and read it all when bored: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1286666.page

Good lord, the 700 calories a day + claimed 30k+ steps a day thread just will not die. This person either has an eating disorder or is lying or both. I'm sorry but walking 30-50k steps a day is pretty nuts. Maintaining 700 calories a day is nuts. Doing both is just bonkers.