Obgyn pushy about hurrying to conceive at 39 .. I thought this was not an uncommon conception age?

[Anonymous]

You should report her to the medical board. Not appropriate. But also she's not lying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should report her to the medical board. Not appropriate. But also she's not lying

This kind of litigious thinking is how real talk gets obfuscated because everyone ends up just practicing defensive medicine and shutting up. And then you end up with dodos like the OP who just sees the social media and thinks she’s going to sail into a family of five no-trouble at 45. You’re part of the problem

[Anonymous]

How did it come up? Are you planning to have a baby and this was part of the discussion? If so, it seems like a completely reasonable thing for the doctor to bring up at your appointment. I’m surprised that you were shocked by what she said.

[Anonymous]

I hope you're kidding. If you're not, I'm seriously worried about the health knowledge of our nation's women.

[Anonymous]

Troll post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should report her to the medical board. Not appropriate. But also she's not lying

Ignore this idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went for my yearly visit and she was very frank about it needing to happen soon. She apologized for being pushy but said the chances of chromosomal abnormalities hits very hard at 40 and the curve goes up and up and up.

I was shocked or surprised given how many women I see online having children at 45+ in recent years. These being healthy children as well.

Get yourself educated before having kids. Please!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope you're kidding. If you're not, I'm seriously worried about the health knowledge of our nation's women.

+1

[Anonymous]

We really need to have a better sense of our fertility. Pretending like we can have it all and conceive with ease as we approach 40 is unrealistic.

[Anonymous]

I really don’t think there are any women on dcum who get to 39 without being familiar with the stats on this stuff. The OP writes like she has a college degree. So I think it’s fake.

[Anonymous]

Women having babies at 45+ are overwhelmingly using donor egg. If you’re 39 and want children, you literally cannot wait any longer. I had both my kids after 40 - it was really hard and I spent years dealing with infertility and figuring out what I needed to do to be able to conceive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went for my yearly visit and she was very frank about it needing to happen soon. She apologized for being pushy but said the chances of chromosomal abnormalities hits very hard at 40 and the curve goes up and up and up.

I was shocked or surprised given how many women I see online having children at 45+ in recent years. These being healthy children as well.

My doctor had this talk with me when I was 30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should report her to the medical board. Not appropriate. But also she's not lying

What would you report the Dr for? Telling the truth?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really don’t think there are any women on dcum who get to 39 without being familiar with the stats on this stuff. The OP writes like she has a college degree. So I think it’s fake.

I’d like to think so, but I feel like people have gotten really stupid in the last few years.

[Anonymous]

Have genetic screening, father as well, and decide what your intention is if you both carry something heritable.