Anonymous wrote:The more open I was about it and the less defensive I was, the easier this all was. When I realized my child couldn’t do certain things at certain ages like family trips with friends, we had peace. And we were lucky because even though my kid still has so many issues that stuff was possible after about 8. The key is: lowered expectations, openness about challenges and your own reactions, like, this is hard, I’m sad, I can’t handle X, and knowing what you can and can’t do. If you’re approaching this without acknowledging or minimizing or being super defensive, people will back away not because of your kids issues but because of how you’re handling them. And the correct answer may be: there’s no handling them right now and he needs to wait or have an iPad. But the fact that something has clearly happened in several situations and you have no idea what has happened is making me think you’re not mentally where you need to be to do this effectively.
This is the point of my post, what you are saying results in isolation. I’m well aware of how he acts and his behavior has improved over the years, he mostly has low frustration tolerance, the only time we saw them was at the beach, which he loves and behaved well. His cousin wanted to spend more time after the beach but the mother wouldn’t return texts.
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