Men who like shrewish wives

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend could have been called a shrew I suppose. Her SIL actually took me aside once to complain to me how she nags him.

But once we were all over and she told him something very specific about a home project "don't move those things there because a, b, c" then she went to get us all coffee. She came back and he was moving the things. She screamed and physically couldn't stop him as she was holding a tray. SIL and I were sitting there watching him stare right through her and not listen to her. That is when the SIL got it. She didn't start with the nag, she wasn't heard.

A decade later there is non of that, he improved his listening skills and she shifted a bit how she talked to him.

Similar situation here, except without any improvement. Beyond frustrating.

He’s tuned you out because you’re a nag. It’s your fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend could have been called a shrew I suppose. Her SIL actually took me aside once to complain to me how she nags him.

But once we were all over and she told him something very specific about a home project "don't move those things there because a, b, c" then she went to get us all coffee. She came back and he was moving the things. She screamed and physically couldn't stop him as she was holding a tray. SIL and I were sitting there watching him stare right through her and not listen to her. That is when the SIL got it. She didn't start with the nag, she wasn't heard.

A decade later there is non of that, he improved his listening skills and she shifted a bit how she talked to him.

A yes the whole well if she had / hadn’t done x, I wouldn’t have had to (insert bad behaviour here) her. Both men and women can blame their bad behaviour on something their spouse did or didn’t do. Both can shirk personal responsibility for their own actions and own bad behaviour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother in law is one of those women. Everything is my FIL’s fault. If she spills her drink she yells at him, even if he is in the other room. And thats just a simple example.

My wife used to complain about this behavior all the time and has now morphed into the exact same and maybe worse. It will likely be the cause of our marriage ending, as I do not have the bandwidth to accept being treated like this.

If you want to see what a woman will look and act like as she gets older, take a look at her mother.

Wish someone would have told me that pre-marriage. I've seen it to be true many, many times.

[Anonymous]

Saying a woman is “nagging” is GASLIGHTING. It’s a dismissive term men use to make women feel crazy for holding them accountable to their own words and promises.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing worse than a shrew. I love my wife, but she can be one. And I think my siblings think she's one and say it behind my back.

So nice of you to stand up for your spouse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing worse than a shrew. I love my wife, but she can be one. And I think my siblings think she's one and say it behind my back.

So nice of you to stand up for your spouse

Have you read this board. 95% of it is women complaining about and criticizing their husbands and boyfriends! Almost none stand up for their husbands.

[Anonymous]

My SIL is like this. The last two times I visited them, she slapped him right in front of me for some little things. And he is the one who apologizes!

My brother is a very nice guy, never things bad of any person, kind and good natured. He apologizes for her behavior and it breaks my heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing worse than a shrew. I love my wife, but she can be one. And I think my siblings think she's one and say it behind my back.

So nice of you to stand up for your spouse

Have you read this board. 95% of it is women complaining about and criticizing their husbands and boyfriends! Almost none stand up for their husbands.

Anon complaining is fine. But when your family is talking sh*t about your spouse, you better make sure you say something to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is a shrew-constantly screaming and nagging her husband.

I can’t stand it but I think her husband kind of gets off on it.

She will scream at him anywhere-at home in front is us, at our house, restaurants.

He has the power to stop any “nagging.”

If he would do what he agreed to do, competently and on time, there’d be nothing to remind or fix or redo or nag him about.

He should try it.

Otherwise, you are semi right. He gets off on not doing things as a petty power & control move, and upsetting his family member.
Is this loving a “shrew”? No. This is about a weak petty man who’s failing to do basic things, trying to deflect and blame a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is a shrew-constantly screaming and nagging her husband.

I can’t stand it but I think her husband kind of gets off on it.

She will scream at him anywhere-at home in front is us, at our house, restaurants.

He gets off on the power he has.

The more dysfunctional he is, the more things escalate. Until she leaves. Then things de-escalate quite quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is a shrew-constantly screaming and nagging her husband.

I can’t stand it but I think her husband kind of gets off on it.

She will scream at him anywhere-at home in front is us, at our house, restaurants.

He has the power to stop any “nagging.”

If he would do what he agreed to do, competently and on time, there’d be nothing to remind or fix or redo or nag him about.

He should try it.

Otherwise, you are semi right. He gets off on not doing things as a petty power & control move, and upsetting his family member.
Is this loving a “shrew”? No. This is about a weak petty man who’s failing to do basic things, trying to deflect and blame a woman.

What sexist nonsense. Go find a misogynist or misandrist board to spew your garbage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend could have been called a shrew I suppose. Her SIL actually took me aside once to complain to me how she nags him.

But once we were all over and she told him something very specific about a home project "don't move those things there because a, b, c" then she went to get us all coffee. She came back and he was moving the things. She screamed and physically couldn't stop him as she was holding a tray. SIL and I were sitting there watching him stare right through her and not listen to her. That is when the SIL got it. She didn't start with the nag, she wasn't heard.

A decade later there is non of that, he improved his listening skills and she shifted a bit how she talked to him.

Maybe that dude has brain processing issues or was special needs.

Or did he do it in purpose to put on a show for others?

Either way, no thanks. Life is hard enough without living with an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother in law is one of those women. Everything is my FIL’s fault. If she spills her drink she yells at him, even if he is in the other room. And thats just a simple example.

My wife used to complain about this behavior all the time and has now morphed into the exact same and maybe worse. It will likely be the cause of our marriage ending, as I do not have the bandwidth to accept being treated like this.

Cuz she tripped on his shoes left on the kitchen floor?
Nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is a shrew-constantly screaming and nagging her husband.

I can’t stand it but I think her husband kind of gets off on it.

She will scream at him anywhere-at home in front is us, at our house, restaurants.

He has the power to stop any “nagging.”

If he would do what he agreed to do, competently and on time, there’d be nothing to remind or fix or redo or nag him about.

He should try it.

Otherwise, you are semi right. He gets off on not doing things as a petty power & control move, and upsetting his family member.
Is this loving a “shrew”? No. This is about a weak petty man who’s failing to do basic things, trying to deflect and blame a woman.

Yep. Instead of doing what he said he would do, he avoids it and blames women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is a shrew-constantly screaming and nagging her husband.

I can’t stand it but I think her husband kind of gets off on it.

She will scream at him anywhere-at home in front is us, at our house, restaurants.

He has the power to stop any “nagging.”

If he would do what he agreed to do, competently and on time, there’d be nothing to remind or fix or redo or nag him about.

He should try it.

Otherwise, you are semi right. He gets off on not doing things as a petty power & control move, and upsetting his family member.
Is this loving a “shrew”? No. This is about a weak petty man who’s failing to do basic things, trying to deflect and blame a woman.

What sexist nonsense. Go find a misogynist or misandrist board to spew your garbage.

You need to stop using words you don't understand.