Randomly looked up my first love...he's got locked up yesterday

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Anonymous wrote:Please get therapy OP.

I've been in therapy since I was eight.

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Anonymous wrote:If would try to make sure you lockdown / scrub your social media and do what you can to keep your location and address secret

This. Also do not mention this to anyone back home. It’s like putting an invite out to weirdness.

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OP here. I only date women these days. So no I am not at all interested in talking to him. I don't even have men turned on for my dating apps. I am still attracted to them but I enjoy dating women more. Because of stuff like this lol

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I dated a woman who ended up going to jail for murder. She killed her husband’s mistress.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I only date women these days. So no I am not at all interested in talking to him. I don't even have men turned on for my dating apps. I am still attracted to them but I enjoy dating women more. Because of stuff like this lol

Hmm. You are only dating women now. Is that because of that guy? You dreamed about him and it was a sexual dream. Are you a pervert or something? You should probably seek therapy. Your obsession with your first love is negatively affecting your life.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy from ages 16 to 19, he was my first love. I moved across the country from him at 19 which caused our breakup a few weeks later, maybe I wanted that, I don't remember. Every few years he texts me to tell me he is still sexually attracted to me or he still loves me or just says hi. Nothing violent though. I haven't heard from him in 2 years, but I do know that I am the last relationship he's ever had. I do miss him here and there (I'm single).

Yesterday I had a dream about him, so today I randomly googled him only to see he was arrested yesterday with a felony stalking charge. I did some digging and read the court records, he was harassing a woman at work who ended up leaving the job. He continued to contact her through different emails, kind of like what he did to me when I moved. But he took it way further. He showed up to her work and home, legally obtained a gun, and threatened to shoot her before the end of the summer along with threatening to shoot her family or whoever is standing next to her. This poor woman must have gone through hell with his threats.

His twin sister has very bad schizophrenia (institutionalized) so I am thinking he probably does too, along with bipolar and probably other issues. It's just so sad because we had so many fun moments and I still look back and think about him and the kids we were, same with his twin who was a close friend. I kind of wish I never looked him up. I have very detailed dreams. The dream I had last night which caused me to look him up was sexual and felt very realistic. It was like I had just spent time with him even though it's been so long. I just know I'm going to have a nightmare about him tonight.

I plan on going home for a wedding next month, I hope he'll still be locked up. He does have bail options, and it would only be a few grand with a bail bond. I already struggle with PTSD from other past relationships/childhood. The memories I made with him were somewhat of a happy point in my life. But that's all tainted now.

I'm not trying to make this about me, I feel terrible for the woman who had to deal with his crap. And I feel lucky that I had some type of intuition to move away from him way back then. I'm also able to see how he was controlling and the red flags these days. Does anyone else have a first love who ended up going down a terrible path?

DOUBT. How'd you get such specific information from someone who was just arrested a day ago. Abusing NCIS?

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a guy from ages 16 to 19, he was my first love. I moved across the country from him at 19 which caused our breakup a few weeks later, maybe I wanted that, I don't remember. Every few years he texts me to tell me he is still sexually attracted to me or he still loves me or just says hi. Nothing violent though. I haven't heard from him in 2 years, but I do know that I am the last relationship he's ever had. I do miss him here and there (I'm single).

Yesterday I had a dream about him, so today I randomly googled him only to see he was arrested yesterday with a felony stalking charge. I did some digging and read the court records, he was harassing a woman at work who ended up leaving the job. He continued to contact her through different emails, kind of like what he did to me when I moved. But he took it way further. He showed up to her work and home, legally obtained a gun, and threatened to shoot her before the end of the summer along with threatening to shoot her family or whoever is standing next to her. This poor woman must have gone through hell with his threats.

His twin sister has very bad schizophrenia (institutionalized) so I am thinking he probably does too, along with bipolar and probably other issues. It's just so sad because we had so many fun moments and I still look back and think about him and the kids we were, same with his twin who was a close friend. I kind of wish I never looked him up. I have very detailed dreams. The dream I had last night which caused me to look him up was sexual and felt very realistic. It was like I had just spent time with him even though it's been so long. I just know I'm going to have a nightmare about him tonight.

I plan on going home for a wedding next month, I hope he'll still be locked up. He does have bail options, and it would only be a few grand with a bail bond. I already struggle with PTSD from other past relationships/childhood. The memories I made with him were somewhat of a happy point in my life. But that's all tainted now.

I'm not trying to make this about me, I feel terrible for the woman who had to deal with his crap. And I feel lucky that I had some type of intuition to move away from him way back then. I'm also able to see how he was controlling and the red flags these days. Does anyone else have a first love who ended up going down a terrible path?

DOUBT. How'd you get such specific information from someone who was just arrested a day ago. Abusing NCIS?

I do not know what NCIS is. I found out about his twin a week ago from an old friend (both in my highschool friend group). So I guess it was on my mind how the twins were doing.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I only date women these days. So no I am not at all interested in talking to him. I don't even have men turned on for my dating apps. I am still attracted to them but I enjoy dating women more. Because of stuff like this lol

Hmm. You are only dating women now. Is that because of that guy? You dreamed about him and it was a sexual dream. Are you a pervert or something? You should probably seek therapy. Your obsession with your first love is negatively affecting your life.

Dating women because I am bi. I'm a pervert for a sexual dream?

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Anonymous wrote:Dated an absolute sweetheart in grad school. She was so smart and funny, but a long distance relationship wasn't in the cards. We decided to move on and go our separate ways. It was over 17 years ago and a lifetime away, really. Oddly enough, she came to me in a dream out of nowhere (as mentioned in other posts) so I did a little digging and snooping and....

So she has a very popular OnlyFans that focuses on the "milf" category of things. Stunned is the appropriate word here.

Hot. But she couldn't make a go of it with what she studied in grad school?

Maybe she could. If she ihad decent OnlyFans account she probably makes 10x what that job would pay.

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Anonymous wrote:Dated an absolute sweetheart in grad school. She was so smart and funny, but a long distance relationship wasn't in the cards. We decided to move on and go our separate ways. It was over 17 years ago and a lifetime away, really. Oddly enough, she came to me in a dream out of nowhere (as mentioned in other posts) so I did a little digging and snooping and....

So she has a very popular OnlyFans that focuses on the "milf" category of things. Stunned is the appropriate word here.

Got a link?

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a woman who is now in prison for a violent crime

Briefly knew a woman (there was some interest but nothing happened), whose brother was mentally ill, and the brother murdered the whole family (except her). Shades of Lizzie Borden.

However, she was fine and managed to somehow overcome (or at least cope) with that trauma, from what I could tell.