Older child's BFF fondled younger child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know my child was assaulted. I want to confront the kid. Is that appropriate or do I confront the parents?

The parents not the kid!

[Anonymous]

You need to talk to the parents. And if they don’t get their kid into therapy asap you should report it to cps.

[Anonymous]

For your child’s sake and for safety, do not allow that kid near your kid for one second. Your child is not to go to their house, or be in the car with that kid. Frankly, I was in this similar situation and I would not allow any of the kids in the family near my kid. I told the parents, told a therapist to get directions on mandated reporting rules etc.
This is serious.

[Anonymous]

Call CPS or the police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your son was sexually assaulted. The focus on carpool schedules and who is friends with who is misguided.

yeah also not enough supervision around water, if they could get molested they could have drowned in the same time frame

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know my child was assaulted. I want to confront the kid. Is that appropriate or do I confront the parents?

No. That's not your job. That is CPS or the police's job. You are not doing this kid a favor by not calling. Often kids who are molesting are being molested themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to talk to the parents. And if they don’t get their kid into therapy asap you should report it to cps.

OP has no way of following up on whether or not this kid got therapy and frankly its not good for her to be interacting with this family at all. All kinds of things could happen, a physical fight, a counter false CAS report, etc. This is the police's and CPS's job

[Anonymous]

YOU CONFRONT NO ONE.

If you do, you could lose your temper and go to jail for assault yourself. The kid might be a victim himself. The parents will immediately be on the defensive (who wouldn't be?). None of them will admit blame and express regret. This is not go well.

What you need to do is call CPS and police. They will explain what your options are, and then you will pick one and hire an attorney.

Keep your cool, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YOU CONFRONT NO ONE.

If you do, you could lose your temper and go to jail for assault yourself. The kid might be a victim himself. The parents will immediately be on the defensive (who wouldn't be?). None of them will admit blame and express regret. This is not go well.

What you need to do is call CPS and police. They will explain what your options are, and then you will pick one and hire an attorney.

Keep your cool, OP.

This, also, talk to your kid about what happened as minimally as possible until after police/cps take the report. The people who interview these kids are specially trained. Well meaning people can make this situation worse.

[Anonymous]

You call CPS or a hotline and talk to them what to do. Teachers and councilors are mandatory reporters. And I would not let my kid be in the vicinity of that other kid. I would also talk to my kid and tell them I am always on their side.

[Anonymous]

Under the bathing suit or on top?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Under the bathing suit or on top?

doesn't matter

also he kicked/shoved the kid into the pool which is dangerous

[Anonymous]

You can't drive and fully supervise where handsy is touching people. No carpooling this kid. Stand up for your kids and don't continue to expose them to assault. Any chance he has been handsy with your oldest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know my child was assaulted. I want to confront the kid. Is that appropriate or do I confront the parents?

No. That's not your job. That is CPS or the police's job. You are not doing this kid a favor by not calling. Often kids who are molesting are being molested themselves.

THIS. You call CPS. You don’t need to know anything more than you already do to make the call. CPS will advise you what to do next, but here are my suggestions: You cannot carpool with the family again. The older boys can see each other at school, where they are supervised. BFF never comes to your house again. If you need to contact the family, you talk to the parents, not the kid.

[Anonymous]

You are going to make your son be in a carpool with a kid who sexually assaulted him??

You call the parents, now, and explain what happened, and tell them you will not be carpooling with him anymore. And you do not let this kid in your house.

And you tell the swim coaches, too.